[Vlo1980]

I've had a lot of problems with some co-workers in the past three years I've been working in Hospital. I always conduct myself in a very professional and respectable manner at work but the unwanted attention and comments still happen quite frequently. This has brought me to tears a few times and it makes me feel worthless and violated because I'm not doing anything to incite this type of behavior on their part. The most recent incident was only a few days ago when one of the idiots I work with blatantly made sexual advances toward me, inviting me to his house when I had a day off.

I'm thinking about reporting these incidents to human resources if they keep happening because I don't want to have to deal with those perverts anymore.

I was wondering if any of you gals have dealt with similar situations, and if so, how did you handle them.

Thanks so much!

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by Vlo1980

but the unwanted attention and comments still happen quite frequently.

Before I reply to your post may I ask what exactly is happening at work that has you so upset?

[Vlo1980]

What is happening at work? I wrote an example in my first post but there have been other incidents just like that. A little over a year ago, I was working on my computer while one of my co-workers was sitting next to me, he memorized my email address and started writing obscene messages and sending me images of naked people making out and such. I warned him to stop at least three times but his behavior didn't change until I actually had to go to the office and bring the matter up with one of my supervisors. He didn't bother me after that.

I'm not comfortable with men approaching me in such a vulgar way and it upsets me because I maybe I'm doing something to instigate this type of reaction and I'm not even aware of it.. I don't know.

Your perspective and comments will be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys!

[Rhapsody]

While I personally would not put to much stock in the first example you gave (but that's just me) - but I would be upset (even angry) with the second incident you gave... there is no excuse for such behavior as this other man displayed.

If these kind of incidents continue to happen I would go to human resource and file a complaint against the men for sexual harassment... because being a beautiful woman does not give a man the right to act like an untrained animal.

[deliquesce]

Originally Posted by Vlo1980

The most recent incident was only a few days ago when one of the idiots I work with blatantly made sexual advances toward me, inviting me to his house when I had a day off.

is this the example you were talking about? i'm confused - did he say anything sexual, or did he simply invite you to his house and you thought it had a sexual overture?

the example you provided in your last post is a lot more concrete. i would be fuming mad if that happened to me. i'm glad you went to his supervisor.

[Vlo1980]

No. He stopped right in front of me, took a step closer, looked me over in a really repulsive way and said that we should get together and I should come home with him on my next day off. A few minutes later I was on the other side of that floor eating spicy salsa and he asked me if he could help me get that spice out of my tongue. I flipped out and told him what he needed to hear. It's not the first time this guy hit on me and I'm starting to get really frustrated. The next time it happens I'll document everything to human resources.

I think some of them sense that I'm shy so they feel they have the right to talk to me like that because they assume I won't say anything back.

[deliquesce]

ewww, that's so gross. i am so sorry that happened once, let alone continues to happen.

please do report it to HR. that's harrassment and has no place in the work force (or anywhere, for that matter).

[CJR520]

My husband works at a company where there is a woman who sexually harrasses the men. She is in the office, and has even gone so far to initiate things, then turn the men in to HR. The company is downsizing because of the economy, and a lot of us wives are hoping that she is part of the downsizing. She is an alcoholic, hangs all over everyoned at the company parties, dances sexually in front of everyone, has lost her kids because of these things. Last company party she hugged me, and then hugged and kissed my hubby. She is in her 40's and he is going on 63. That doesn't matter to her, but we are all sick of her. She is disgusting. I just hate going to anything to do with the company because of it. This company is in Mansfield, Ohio.

[Maven]

Yeah, you need to document every incident that happens, save any emails or recordings, and report them to HR. If HR doesn't do anything, then you need to go over their heads, possibly with a lawsuit.