Trusting Men

This is not intended to be a "men trashing" thread at all
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Due to past experiences with men I am starting to have little faith in men.

My Dad who is now dead physically, emotionally, and mildly sexually abused me as a child.

My brother wants nothing to do with me because of my mental illness...etc.

Dates I have had with men have not been a positive experience. They usually just want to be my "special friend".

My male pdoc dumped me this week. Due to a miscommunication and filled my spot.

I spoke with a man from an Internet dating site on the phone he seemed intelligent, kind, humourous.......all until I told him about my mental health. He stopped calling and e-mailing asap.

I have been dumped, abused, misused, treated like crap by so many men that I have lost hope of meeting nice men even if it's just for friendship.

How do I get beyond my negative experiences with men? I have tried really hard to trust men and pretend that I feel ok around them only to get hurt.

i just want to send you hugs.

((( HUGS ))) - just wanting to let you know that I understand and acknowledge your feelings concerning a lack of trust in men.... I too was once where you are now and it took me many of years of actually working on trust to allow my own husband (a man) into that circle.

Zen, first I want to offer hugs!

One jerk after another, until I wondered if it's even meant for me.

It will take just one man to restore your faith.

Oddly, I met my man online but the scenario was reversed: He is the one with the illness and was afraid I would run. Didn't and have no intention of doing so. It will be 3 years this year.

I don't want to sound trite, but I guess it was just faith for me, believing that there ARE good men out there and that it can take a long time to find them. I wanted to give up many times, and I was about to when I decided to try online dating sites. I was 45 when I met him. 45, when most people my age have been with someone 20 years or more!! Maybe even known them since high school or college.

You are as good as anyone else. Tell yourself you have a lot to give, and this man on the Internet (and the others) don't deserve you.