weird or not?

i was just wondering what other people here thought......but do you think its weird or are you ashamed that you masturbate?

No I do not find it weird... simply because we learned to touch our private parts naturally as a young child... and it was not until we are told not to do that - that the shame part set in.

It took me twenty years to stop feeling guilty about masturbation... and now while I do it in private (as it is a private moment) I no longer have any shame or guilt attached to the action.

P.S. - I even have adult toys now to help with the pleasure it gives.

i dont feel ashamed but i dont do it either. ive tried a few times but don't get the same pleasure doing it myself. the only time ive really orgasmed from it was once when my boyfriend was there and once when we had phone sex when I was gone for a week. i guess i just never really got into it.

To be honest i wouldnt say that i think its weird , but i am definately ashamed that i do it . I know this sounds wrong , but you asked what we thought so i am telling you. I guess i have always had the idea that masturbation was a boy thing , and it was ok that boys did it , but not females. Now i am a 41 yr old woman , and i do masturbate , but feel pretty guilty about it . About 2 or so weeks ago i saw my therapist and for some reason actually talked a little about the fact that i do it , well really just read a letter that i had written where it was mentioned . And to be honest since then i have not mentioned it again and hope that the T either missed what i said , or just doesnt want to talk about it further. I guess though if it becomes an issue that i want to deal with , i will try , but its very uncomfortable for me . Funny thing though seeing this post, i said to myself ... well its ok that women do it too , just not me .

I have two answers to this question. Intellectually I know that it is a natural behavior and I have had my T tell me this the few times it has come up. I the whole issue of sexuality when I am in T. Emotionally I feel ashamed and dirty when I do it.

IMO - I think we feel ashamed because someone put the thought of it being tabu/dirty in our mind.

I don't think it is weird and I am not ashamed of it. I really enjoy it and sometimes it can be a good stress release for me. I don't run around broadcasting to the general public that I'm doing it, but I am open to talking about it with others. I've talked with my pdoc about it, in group therapy, with friends and such. And, hey, not too many things in this world feel as good as it does and its free!

NO,it isn't weird at all to masturbate.

Totally normal!

I don't think it's weird or shameful. It's very healthy, in fact. Boys and girls both learn to pleasure themselves through masturbation, so that they can teach future lovers. It's how you get to know your body, and being comfortable touching yourself will also help alert you to any problems you might encounter in your breasts or genital area that you might not feel without touching.

I didn't see the Oprah episode with Dr. Laura Berman (or is it Jennifer? I get the two mixed up) last week on sexuality, but I saw a clip the next day when they discussed several topics. She said something really great. She said that if we teach our daughters to masturbate (meaning letting them know it's okay, and perhaps getting books or materials to help them understand their body and sexuality), it helps them to understand they don't need a boy to create those feelings, and will be empowered. If they don't, and think it's the boy creating all those feelings, they might be more likely to attach to boys in an unhealthy way, have unprotected sex, and get with the wrong boys (boys who will use them and mistreat them). This isn't to put down boys, but to show the girls that they can create these feelings themselves, and to help them make smarter choices about sex and boys.

She suggested getting a clitoris vibrator for girls when they're 15, but I'm not as sure about that suggestion. I'm not anti-vibrator or anything, but if they're not old enough to purchase those things themselves, I wonder if you could get in trouble for ordering them for them?