My biological clock is ticking again! Holy Sheep!

Jeremy is 11 months now and my internals are just jonesing for another baby. I obviously won't have another just yet, as I don't A) have someone to have them with and I don't B) think I am entirely ready for another.

But DANGIT I want babies! Im 26, i suppose that makes me exactly the age for wanting more. Hormones and such.

Its strange but since having one kid I just want to have more kids. Aside from the nausea and high blood pressure, I LOVED pregnancy, and even enjoyed the process of birth and right up until now.

Wahhhh someone give me a rich, smart, sweetheart, whos somewhat goodlooking and somewhat normal!

[lenjan]

Wahhhh someone give me a rich, smart, sweetheart, whos somewhat goodlooking and somewhat normal

Yeeeeah. Good luck with that.

yeah i dont ask for much eh at me

[Peppermint_Patty]

Hi Rainbowzz,

I am glad to see your post was titled, "Need Husband..." as there is no point in bringing another child into the world if the father of that child is not going to be around to provide support -- financial and otherwise.

For most single moms, particularly those who have had the misfortune of hooking up with a dead beat dad... unless the woman has a really great job... the woman and the child typically are destined to live in poverty -- an existence that is not good for either the child or the mother.

Just my $0.02.

Peppermint Patty

Originally Posted by Rainbowzz

My biological clock is ticking again! Holy Sheep!

Jeremy is 11 months now and my internals are just jonesing for another baby. I obviously won't have another just yet, as I don't A) have someone to have them with and I don't B) think I am entirely ready for another.

But DANGIT I want babies! Im 26, i suppose that makes me exactly the age for wanting more. Hormones and such.

Its strange but since having one kid I just want to have more kids. Aside from the nausea and high blood pressure, I LOVED pregnancy, and even enjoyed the process of birth and right up until now.

Wahhhh someone give me a rich, smart, sweetheart, whos somewhat goodlooking and somewhat normal!

[Christina86]

I want kids too... I'm only going to be 23 in July though, so I've got some time, right?

I'll keep an eye out for nice guys and send them out to you via FedEx. Fair?

[filifera]

Yeah, 27 is the peak age for being "broody". You'll get over it.

Life is rarely very good for single moms, and (dare I say) even worse for kids with only one parent. You have your work cut out for you raising the one child you already have, fulfilling the role of both parents. Your body may want another baby, but the child you already have comes first.

Your child will learn many things from the example you set: Would you prefer to show your child responsibility, self sufficiency, devotion and self discipline to postpone immediate gratification for more tangible future reward? Or would you rather show chaos, dependency, poverty, thrill-seeking and neglect?

Who will be paying to raise your current and future children? You, working multiple jobs that keep you from being the parent they deserve? The public welfare system? A series of resentful exes under court order and garnishment to pay child support? Your parents or other relatives, who will have to interrupt their lives to raise children they did not choose to bring into the world?

Do you see how a desire for more babies actually involves far more people than just yourself? And that many of those people's lives will be poorer as a result of your decision?

[Zen888]

I want a husband and babies too!!

Where do I sign up for them?

[wanttoheal]

Hmm, I am a single parent of two children, now grown. My husband died when they were young. My children are amazing human beings. I have no family here and yet my children were not neglected.

If I see anyone worthy of you, I will send them your way Rain.

Hmm. I forgot about this thread. Sorry everyone.

I think everyone has sort of taken this the wrong way - I do not intend to bring anymore children into the world AT THIS TIME.

However, that doesn't stop me from WANTING to bring them into the world, lol.

When i said that I was just expressing my desire for both a husband and more children (if circumstances are good, and God permits it, i'd like somewhere between 4-6 children )rather than stating what i planned to do. But everyone makes very good points. I agree with most of what all of you have said.

This is just a female being broody thing. Hell even my doctor told me right after birth that I am good at pregnancy and birth, and should have more children! LOL of course she was just being nice and funny, but I do definetly want more. For now jeremy is my focus.

[Maven]

Remember, you can freeze your eggs, in case you find yourself older and wanting children. The process is costly and requires taking hormones and essentially going into labor to extract the eggs, but if you want motherhood again, that's one option.

Just be careful how many eggs are implanted at the time (it depends on your age, partially, but generally, no more than two or three), or you might end up like Nadya Suleman and have eight!

And, of course, there's adoption. (This is all if you happen to enter less fertile years; for now, barring fertility problems, you should be able to do it the old-fashioned way. )

As for finding a husband, have you tried dating sites? Or, put up a billboard with really big words that say, "I NEED A MAN! THE IDEAL CANDIDATE WILL COOK, CLEAN AND MAKE BABIES (AND CHANGE DIAPERS)! CALL (YOUR NUMBER)"

There ya go.

[I_miss_my_kitty]

i want a kid to but i'm planning to adopt cause i don't want a husband and i find s*x disgusting. i have sooo much love inside yet no one to give it to. anyone wants to let me adopt your kid??????? or babysit????????????

Maven! wow nice to see you around woman!

Its been a while since ive seen you haunting these parts!

yeah, i do have a hard time getting pregnant. But then again maybe i dont cause all it took was one accident LOL. But i have been in a relationship where Iwas trying before and nothing happened.. so hard to say. For now im only 26 so when i do try ill go with the old fashioned way, with lots and lots of hopefully(good) sex! LOL.

Ideally, i would like four biological children and two adopted. That would be swell for me, if i had the money/husband/etc.

I actually just started talking to a really nice man named Brad from plentyoffish - he has a little boy too. And wants more children! we are planning on meeting soon, we are going to take the kids on a picnic or to the beach when its warmer. Hes pretty goodlooking, and really nice. Likes the same stuff as me.

Its hard because I am overweight, by about 100 pounds due to this pregnancy/my back/my fibro.. Thats another thing, guys who hear all my physical issues usually stop talking to me. Thats lame and im better off without them if they are going to be like that.

I will definetly freeze my eggs should it come to that. But i want that to be a last chance kind of thing. I dont want to do that unless absolutely possible and there is NO WAY IN HELL i would implant EIGHT eggs. That is ASKING for eight babies. I would implant two i think at most. And like nadya i beleive that an egg is life. But i wouldnt implant them just because of that - i would put them up for adoption or give them proably to some of my gay couple friends who want children. Or something like that.

anyways, its like six am and i havent been able to sleep. Ive got to skiddadle to bed before i pass out in this chair. More later!

[letgo]

Originally Posted by Rainbowzz

My biological clock is ticking again! Holy Sheep!

Jeremy is 11 months now and my internals are just jonesing for another baby. I obviously won't have another just yet, as I don't A) have someone to have them with and I don't B) think I am entirely ready for another.

But DANGIT I want babies! Im 26, i suppose that makes me exactly the age for wanting more. Hormones and such.

Its strange but since having one kid I just want to have more kids. Aside from the nausea and high blood pressure, I LOVED pregnancy, and even enjoyed the process of birth and right up until now.

Wahhhh someone give me a rich, smart, sweetheart, whos somewhat goodlooking and somewhat normal!

I hope you find Mr. right. I pray he is what you really want. I say wait and see what life has to offer, then if you still want to get married and have more children do it. Life is too short. Life first enjoy what you have. Then get settles. I wanted children but I didn't have any. Now, I'm very glad I don't have any.

Ahem. Ladies????

I have not received my perfect man yet. You are slacking. GET TO WORK!



sidenote: Freind down the street, Vickie, just told me she is five months pregnant. I am JEALOUS lol

[Maven]

Hey, Rainbowzz,

Yeah, I was gone awhile. I had gotten some major criticism over an opinion and left, but I decided to come back, because I have good friends here and I can ignore those who aren't.

OFF-TOPIC: As for Nadya Suleman, she implanted six eggs, not eight, just to get that straight. Two of the eggs obviously split. While I think her whole situation is crazy, her kids are adorable. One of the paparazzi gave one boy a camera, and he had a good time, until Mom came home and told him, "Don't play with the paparazzi!" (She was laughing, too.)

The thing about online dating--and this is from what I've heard, since I have had a boyfriend before I had a computer, unless you count a Commodore 64, LOL!--is that a lot of people LIE and even post old or fake photographs. I never get that, when you're planning on meeting people in real life. I mean, once they see you, they'll know you're lying, at least photographically!!! But there are those who get lucky.

Some people actually try having friends and/or family pick out a guy they know, or at least evaluating guys their lonely-hearts-friend meets, and tells them who they feel is right to warm those lonely nights. The idea is, your friends and family might know you better than you know yourself.

All the "Mr. Rights" I know of seem to be married...and I want them for myself, LOL! Considering most are celebrities, I think that puts my chances pretty low, and I don't want to be with a guy who'd cheat on his wife.

Maybe you can rent a guy for a while.

[kim_johnson]

> there is NO WAY IN HELL i would implant EIGHT eggs. That is ASKING for eight babies.

It is more likely that an implanted fertilized egg / preembryo won't successfully attach to the womb (and grow into a foetus) than that it will. If you were to do them one or two at a time that would require a great many implant treatments in order for one to take. That is why they implant a greater number than that. Typically none of them take. If you are lucky one will take. In RARE cases (very rare cases) a whole bunch take.

> And like nadya i beleive that an egg is life.

Snot is life too. You could extract my DNA from my snot and implant it into a preembryo and make a clone of me if you wanted to. But each time I place a tissue in the trash isn't murder or killing anymore than each month an unfertilized egg leaves your body is murder or killing. Pre-embryos (that have about 4 or 6 cells to them) are a little more controversial... But it is hard to see how my egg is anymore 'alive' or 'potentially alive' than my snot.

Have you thought about carrying a child for a couple who are unable to carry a child? There are people who will pay medical expenses and so on and so forth for someone else to carry a child for them. That would be a (potentially) good way for you to experience pregnancy (if you enjoy that) without all the worries of having enough food on the table for your kids, saving for their college education and so on...

I'd like to find just a husband, I don't really want any children!

Deborah

[eskielover]

I guess I was one of those strange women who never had the desire to have children. I made it clear before I got married that I didn't want children.....my husband went along with that, but found out later he didn't believe me & thought I would change my mind. I ended up getting pregnant & had our daughter. I thought about having an abortion, but couldn't go through with it when I really stopped to think about it & now really glad I didn't. I just made sure there would never be another accident.

It was easy getting pregnant & the pregnancy was so easy.....but I was too small & any baby would have been too big to have naturally.....so my options would have always been to have c-sections......I wasn't about to go through more than one of those. My ob-gyn made sure I went into labour before doing the c-section.....I didn't even realize I was in labour until I was really far dialated....surprise, I thought is was just indigestion from the whole bag of BBQ potatoe chips I ate after coming home from my night class that night. I never ate junk food until that bag of potatoe chips the whole time I was pregnant & only gained 5 lbs. Strange thing was I knew 15 minutes after I got pregnant that I was pregnant....just a wierd feeling I had. All that said & done, going through the c-section was tramatic for me.....& I just never was into babies.....they were always ok if they were someone elses. When they showed me my baby, they all mentioned what a beautiful baby she was....to me she was just an ugly wrinkles looking thing that came out of my body....I never had any of that maternal instinct that everyone talked about & really had no desire to hold & really have much to do with her......it had nothing to do with her...it would have been any baby as I just wasn't into babies. I always wondered what it is that causes me to feel that way.....I have no desire for grandchildren either like most older women do.

Just never was into babies....always wondered if the lack of desire for kids hormonal or mental...lol. It has never changed & I wasn't about to be talked into having another child when I wasn't good at being a mother to the one I had.

As she grew, my love for her grew.....I just wasn't into the baby thing....expecting her to act like a college grad by the age of 3 months.

Honestly if it hadn't been for my parents taking care of her while I was taking care of my career, she would not have turned out to be loved much at all. My husband was good with children.....that was one thing he was ok with as far as taking care of their needs.....he just couldn't communicate anything of value to her either......so we were really messed up parents, so I am glad I insited on not having more children....didn't need any more messed up children in he world.

My values have changed & my life has changed over these last 2 years.....now there are many things I want to communicate with my daughter along with the love I actually am really feeling. We can't go back & fix the messes we made, but we can go on from this point & make the changes at this point to correct the future.

Being a good parent is so difficult.....looking at society today, I can't imagine even bringing a child into this world the way it is now.....fighting the value systems & lack of moral values that the world is trying to force on people now.....I would never bring a child into the world at this point. I am glad that others don't feel the way I do, or we would end up with 0 population growth, or even negative in a few years if it was left up to me...lol.

Sadly now, there are so many children being into non-family situations which honestly isn't the best situation for the child no matter what a good parent we might be. Having that family social structure to bring children up under is an important part of why society is failing now. I look at society, I see a huge failing in the values that came at about the same time when the family structure no longer held any importance. It is just all to compicated for me to understand, but I would never wish a child into the world with it as it is now.

Just my opinion from all my observations lately,
Debbie

[Zen888]

Where is a good place to find a man that wants to settle down and have children? A man that is emotionally and mentally stable, not a womanizer, player,.....list goes on. I've heard that church is a good place to go to find nice men but I dont attend church and I am not sure what I believe in as of yet.

[Maven]

Kim, it is rare for doctors to implant many embryos at one time. They only do two or three on average. However, they implant slightly more for older women, because your chances become more limited. It's because those embryos might all fertilize that they limit how many they'll implant.

eskie, I don't want children, either. I realized that in my late teens. I managed not to get pregnant. The funny thing is, when I was 10 years old, I was telling my friends I was going to have eight to ten children, maybe as many as fourteen, LOL!

Zen, men from church can be just as scummy as other men. They cheat, too. I'm not saying ALL men cheat, regardless of where you find them, but I mean going to church or being a Christian (or whatever religion) doesn't exempt him from being a jerk.

That said, I will give you a website that you might like. I'm sure there are those who aren't honest on it, but the site claims that it's a dating site where you can find people who don't cheat and are interested in a committed relationship: http://www.nocheatersdate.com/.