Don't ASSume. That is the lesson I learned. I assumed, even though she did set up a day and time, that I had the interview. She said she'd call the company first, and would call me back. I never heard from her, so assumed that I should just go to the interview. I thought it might appear that I wasn't listening to her if I called later to ask, "Uh, duh, do I have the interview? duh.) I also have been criticized in the past when asking people to clarify what they're saying............so now have this thing where I've become afraid to ask just to be sure. I didn't want to look stupid, but ended up appearing like an entitled box of rocks by going to the interview or non-interview, whatever. I actually didn't even make it there because I did call 10 minutes before the supposed time to tell them there was a car accident a few blocks from them, and I will have to take a detour, and might be a few minutes late. (I guess I played traffic reporter today as well) She was like, "Huh?????? No, I was going to call you and let you know if you had an interview with so and so." When I got home, I found the standard rejection email in my inbox. Nice. I feel like such a loser. I am also getting paranoid that I might be blacklisted or something, or potential employers frequent this site, and have discovered my identity. I don't know if I'm mentally or emotionally ill, but I do know that my employment record sucks. I always let things pile up, and then quit. I don't know how to resolve things at work or even at home. I always just want to run away........but then I come back and have to deal with the lack of respect, and the judgement.

[mazing]

Sorry to hear this happened to you She really should have called you either way to let you know!

I wouldn't worry too much. Something like this shouldn't impact negatively on you and I strongly doubt they could find you on here.

[dugan123]

Hi Aquarius

I understand the running because I've done plenty of that with past jobs. I too would get confused, angry, and upset and run away. My counselor says I never learned to negotiate or dialogue with anybody and she's right I didn't. I would just run away. U sound like me n that u need to learn to ask for what u need n a non-threatening way.

It doesn't sound like u did anything wrong and I see nothing wrong with asking for clarification. Best of luck!!

Thank you for your understanding. I ended up getting a surprise interview the very next day for something that would be a whole new direction in my life, for the better hopefully. Well, anyway, I had a good laugh at myself for assuming I had that other interview, and then calling the woman with what sounded like a traffic report. I think I ticked her off for some reason ...........which when I thought about it more, made me kinda laugh a little bit more. I don't know why I thought it was funny. I guess the Seinfeld episode comes to mind where George's interview gets interrupted, and the boss doesn't clarify if George actually has the job or not. So, the boss goes on vacation, and George decides just to show up for work anyway, and see what happens. I was getting pretty desperate to find work, I guess. I've been selling my belonging's for money to pay the rent, and I don't even have that much stuff. Then, I think about my BF's soon to be ex-wife who recently asked him to skip making 2 child support payments so she could use his best buy credit card to buy a "cheap" $500 laptop for school. Oh, that just added fuel to my fire, because some people are so used to having someone to take care of them (or someone to use), and they live in this dream world where the word 'cheap' and $500 go together. Thankfully, he's finally starting to grow a backbone with her, and told her, "He** no!. Go ask your boyfriend for a computer." I'm sure other people are reaching the point where hysterical laughter is rising up in them because life just seems like one big joke. I actually just have to stop giggling for a sec and be very grateful for what I do have. I've been given second and third chances, but there is something wrong with me where I sabotage myself. I have to keep reminding myself that my life could be a thousand times worse. Many more people in this world are living in such true misery and hopelessness. I have no other choice but to be grateful for my life.

[likewater]

hi, Aquarius. I'm in a similar situation where i am selling belongings and feeling very awkward at interviewing. i'm glad it sounds like you have a very promising prospect. i agree you did nothing
wrong.

I really like your Bruce Lee quote, likewater. I had a man come up to me once years ago while I was working at my old job, and having a very tough day where people were just ruthless. He was demonstrating martial arts with me. I found it to be a little strange because he came out of nowhere, and just started telling me something very similar to your quote. He must've seen me on the verge of tears. Anyway, he told me to remember what he said. I felt a lot better, and thought to myself, "I want to thank him," and tried looking for him, but he was gone. This will sound weird, but I kinda think he was an angel. I was about to walk out the door and quit before he came up to me.
The whole job hunt can leave some people feeling like they're garbage because of all the rejection. With me though, I feel guilty because I'm being so selective. People in my life are getting very frustrated with me b/c I won't just accept anything. There is an abundance of jobs where I live, so I can afford to be a little picky, however, these are excruciatingly boring jobs that many people are not interested in. I just accepted one of these jobs with a staffing agency, but it's ok with me for now b/c it's just a temp job and I need a paycheck. I also accepted another job (today everyone decided to call me back), but I think I'm going to back out of it because I'm not sure I'll be able to handle it emotionally. It's working with animals, which I keep thinking is right for me, but when I think about the work itself, I feel depressed. I just don't think I have the heart for that field. I'm too sensitive. But, something keeps attracting me to that field, and I think it's just me seeking my mom's approval. I saw how proud she was of me when I did work with animals 10 years ago. I might be trying to fulfill her wishes rather than doing what's right for me right now. Actually, I think I've been doing that for the last 10 years, and I keep setting myself up for failure b/c maybe it's not what I really want to do. I love animals so much, but I think I sometimes can sense what they're feeling. It hurts too much to try to earn my living that way. So, I think I'm going to turn down the job that SEEMS to be so great for a job that a chimp can do. I have no one to talk this out with. I just tried talking with the BF, and it ended up in a fight. He never has anything positive to say, never. I had to spell out what I needed from him (just a little support), and he gets so frustrated and ends up yelling at me. I don't get it. So, I'm going to think about Bruce Lee now.

[Ladyzero]

You know what they say :
' To ASSume is to make an *** out of U and ME '

Best wishes to all