[nessa1]

I work in a job I use to love. New boss and its hell.
I hate to go to work.
She is verbally abusive every other word is F...
She uses aggressive gestures, she wants you to know shes the boss.
Interupts people, speaks over people, takes over ,butts in, control freak, makes everyone feel like and idiot.
She says everyone is a child and cant do there jobs.
Micro manages everything.
I need a new job.
Help

[lynn P.]

Welcome to PC nessa1 and sorry to hear you work with a toxic boss. Is there anyone above this boss? If there is, you can get together and complain about this work environment? In the meantime, start applying for work elsewhere but keep this job until you find another one. Document what happens everyday, so you can file a complaint later on. It might be a good idea if you or some other employee can secretly tape her rants. I hope you find a better job soon.

[deelooted]

Sounds like a nightmare I once was in, too. I ended up leaving the job, and now make $4 more an hour, and love my work... although it is very stressful My meds help a lot with that, thankfully.

Unfortunately, sometimes with a boss like this there is only one choice, and that is to walk away. BUT be sure to find another job first.

Another aspect to consider- most bosses are bosses because they are overbearing and controlling. They cannot stand others telling them what to do. Point is, EVERY boss is going to have some difficult issues at least in my experience of over 15 jobs in the last 20 years! All of which I ended up getting fired from, mostly because of my arguments with the boss... I never knew when to keep my mouth shut, and still don't to some degree.

My prayers are with you, hope you can resolve this difficult situation soon

[Raging Quiet]

Can you speak to Human resources?
Does anyone else complain about her?

I really feel for you, I had an awful manager once and spent my days at work crying for months and months. I changed job and my depression gradually went okay. Something needs to change; with her or you. Take care x

[tornoversurgery]

No you don't need a new job, you need to put that person in check. Either in your own way or through the chain of command at your job, it that person is outside of proper workplace methods & behavior.

The real issue is if you really need a boss. Let me be clear, I (sadly) am an employee also so I don't want to preach what I don't practice at this point, but the fact is... ... as an employee you are subject to the demands of an employer. Whether it's a ton of rules & regs, office politics, or the behavior of unprofessional managers that can be abusive.

The real question....... .......are you an entreprenuer? Do you want the responsibility of owning a business? That's the only way to avoid the situation you're in.

Good luck!!

[doyoutrustme]

Can you go over his/her head, or human resources?

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by nessa1

I work in a job I use to love. New boss and its hell.
I hate to go to work.
She is verbally abusive every other word is F...
She uses aggressive gestures, she wants you to know shes the boss.
Interupts people, speaks over people, takes over ,butts in, control freak, makes everyone feel like and idiot.
She says everyone is a child and cant do there jobs.
Micro manages everything.
I need a new job.
Help

I hope this helps. When your new boss uses foul language you can say "Please watch your language in front of me". Some of her other behaviors may just be the expression of her personality and should be overlooked. She "takes over" and "butts in" because she is the new boss. This should settle down over time and you can help by reassuring her you and your co-workers are competent: "Joe is very good at his job" or "We know how to handle this". If she ever says you are a child, you can calmly correct her "I am an adult and expect to be treated like one".

It's a matter of addressing the things you can ask/demand she stop doing, and letting slide some of the stuff that will likely calm down with time.

Your tone should be firm and your voice needn't be any louder than normal. You would be stating what you expect her behavior is to be around you. I have used this technique and it will help you regain some of the control of your own personal space.

If it becomes clear she is a micro-manager by habit, and reassuring her doesn't make her knock that off after awhile, and the company seems gung-ho on her techniques, you might want to look for a different job and in your exit interview tell the company why you quit.

[Demeanor]

hi nessa1.. you need to report her to the human resources.. u cannot let her treat u or any other staff in that way..
in my office there was a manager in our training department exactly the same.. the staff in that department were always miserable and lived in fear of her, one girl would be in tears everyday.. and eventually they reported her to HR and they now have a new manager .. and u wont believe the change in the staff.. every1 actually smiles throughout the day.. and they love coming to work.. a boss can be a boss without being hostile and mean..

good luck