[xINFJx]

I have a really bad case of "absent-mindedness". I lose my keys, I forget to turn off lights, I don't remember what someone said to me 3 seconds ago lol (usually my mom asking me to do stuff haha) aaaaalll the time. I do have coping skills but it's still worse than the average person.

I don't know how this is going to work with any job. I feel like I can't have any responsibility over anything super important or bad things happen, it feels as if people can't trust or depend on me. It's because I'm so mindless and forgetfull and "ADD" that I just mess up constantly.

I just sit down and cry because I can't get my life in order, no matter how hard I try I keep messing up with everything, I can't get a full time job (due to my mental illness) so I feel stuck in my house, I'm depressed because I see no future with myself because I'm like the weird person in the movies that tries to help others or clean but keeps messing up, breaking things on accident and making more problems for the people they're trying to help.
lol <---- I don't know what this is called. I know I have ADD but yeah.

I need a job where I'm not responsible for thousands of dollars of other people's money, but I'm able to make a decent amount of money (i doubt there's a job out there like it). So driving a semi truck would probably not be a good idea, I'd probably mindlessly scrape the side of a wall with it and being a real estate agent I would probably lose the contract somehow.

I have no money, most jobs are in the corporate business setting and I suck at them. I have to find a trade. Or I'm stuck being a bagger and cart pusher for the rest of my life!!! aaaah!

I feel so stuck, and I'm angry, sad and frustrated about it. I can't have a mean boss or someone that cares more about the company's name/appearance than its workers. I need someone that'll work with me, my issues and be patient and sadly a majority of people pass me by in hiring because they don't want to. Even though I'm an excellent hard worker, as I said I may work hard but I mess up constantly so it wastes money and time. sigh....
It's so frustrating!!! I don't mean to do it, I really don't. I want to be just as capable and dependable as the next guy, but I can't seem to do it.

I feel like I have no way out to get to where I want to go without making my mental issues worse. (i.e. getting a fulltime job where the boss is horrible and the work sucks, I get worse anxiety, depression etc than I already have which makes my performance suffer and I usually come to a stand still because of all the stress).

I've lost two jobs one in 2 weeks and one after 3 months.
I just want to bang my head against a wall. I just suck at everything I do!

the heck?!

what jobs would be better for people that are absent minded?
what do I do?
I'm tired of the attitude of "just suck it up, you're being whiney." I've tried that and at the moment I'm too exhausted to keep that attitude up.
help.
I don't feel like I have anything to offer to the world....sigh....

[BadGirlBlues]

Aw, im so sorry you are going through this.

Have you thought about being a library assistant? My cousin Russ got on at our local library, and loves it. He re-shelves books, talks a little to patrons, and there is no stress. Nothing in a library is an emergency!

[LimeAid13]

I've been there...It's like a vicious cycle: Depression and anxiety are worse when one needs a job, then the job starts to suck, depression and anxiety get worse, then the jobs falls apart somehow....I've been through that so many times. Remember, it is not your fault. You are doing the best that you can.

I am no expert, but judging from your post, you are capable of expressing yourself in a clear and cogent manner. You are communicative, thoughtful, and able to type a multi-paragraph essay without trailing off somewhere. You are definitely not as absent minded as some people. It's just a suggestion, but have you considered working from home? Data entry or claims processing? Just something to think about. Good luck. You will make it. Keep trying.

[Aladamna]

Originally Posted by xINFJx

I have a really bad case of "absent-mindedness". (...) I'm so mindless and forgetfull and "ADD" that I just mess up constantly.

You sound unbelievably stressed out! Have a:

Have you tried meditation or mindfulness exercises? I think that would really do you a lot of good because it calms you down and makes your thinking less scattered and more efficient. You may feel you don't have time for it, but the time investment would really pay for itself. I encourage you to try it.

Good luck!

[xINFJx]

Originally Posted by LimeAid13

I've been there...It's like a vicious cycle: Depression and anxiety are worse when one needs a job, then the job starts to suck, depression and anxiety get worse, then the jobs falls apart somehow....I've been through that so many times. Remember, it is not your fault. You are doing the best that you can.

I am no expert, but judging from your post, you are capable of expressing yourself in a clear and cogent manner. You are communicative, thoughtful, and able to type a multi-paragraph essay without trailing off somewhere. You are definitely not as absent minded as some people. It's just a suggestion, but have you considered working from home? Data entry or claims processing? Just something to think about. Good luck. You will make it. Keep trying.

Thank you this made me feel good. As did everyone else's posts! thank you all!
I've thought about working from home, I'm just not sure if I'd be very good at data entry? or claims processing? not even sure what that might entail. lol

[xINFJx]

Originally Posted by Aladamna

You sound unbelievably stressed out! Have a:

Have you tried meditation or mindfulness exercises? I think that would really do you a lot of good because it calms you down and makes your thinking less scattered and more efficient. You may feel you don't have time for it, but the time investment would really pay for itself. I encourage you to try it.

Good luck!

Actually yes I have, I try to do them both daily it really helps a lot with controlling my thoughts. Though if you have a website or information on how to more effectively do them I'm all for that.
thanks!

[xINFJx]

Originally Posted by BadGirlBlues

Aw, im so sorry you are going through this.

Have you thought about being a library assistant? My cousin Russ got on at our local library, and loves it. He re-shelves books, talks a little to patrons, and there is no stress. Nothing in a library is an emergency!

lol yeah I've tried to apply and re looked at the cities website to see if the library needed more workers but it's full. so...:/
any other ideas for non stressful jobs?

[Aladamna]

Originally Posted by xINFJx

Actually yes I have, I try to do them both daily it really helps a lot with controlling my thoughts. Though if you have a website or information on how to more effectively do them I'm all for that.
thanks!

Good to hear!

I meditate in the Zen tradition myself. Here is a nice, no-frills introduction (I'm new so I can't turn it into a link yet): zmm.mro.org/teachings/meditation-instructions/

My life is pretty much a back-and-forth between productive periods when I meditate a lot and also get a lot done and unproductive periods when I don't meditate very much and stress out like crazy and get very little done. Eventually I manage to get back on the meditation wagon and then things start to sort themselves out (and by that I really mean that I start to be able to handle them better), and then at some point I feel like I'm doing so well that I can skip a little meditation here and there, and then at some point I skip too much for too long and then I crash and burn. You'd think eventually I'd learn...

[Aladamna]

By the way, I noticed you're an INFJ (very perceptive of me, I know! ). Have you seen this page of famous INFJs? Might cheer you up a little to see all the awesome people who are also INFJ (just overlook the baddies )!