[Arcane's Box]

I go back to work tomorrow after many days of sick leave. After weeks of rumors to replace anyone who isn't up to their impossible standards, they are having interviews 7/1 for several locations. Cleaning house?

Anytime I have had to miss they ostracize me for days. I no longer enjoy my job and the nasty looks and whispers from management go straight through me. I have been applying online for something else, but nothing ever happens, though I have a great resume.

I feel ill each day I am employed with this place. It does not get any better... I want to quit and withdraw my small 401k and take some time off. Has anyone done this? I'm a nervous wreck.

I quit an 18 year career after my 2nd hospitalization. Didn't even go back to the office to collect my things. Called 'em from the hospital and told 'em I wouldn't be back ... And, I NEVER regretted that decision!

I had a job the next day. I went up to the corner convenience store and asked were they hiring. The manager asked what hours I could work and I told him I'd work 3rd shifts on Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Tuesday & Wednesday and got hired on the spot.

At that time I needed a low stress job and it suited my for 7 years while I worked on the heavier parts of my mental health, addiction and recovery process and this ended up being a perfect fit for me.

I am now back in a job that involves more responsibility and that has better pay and great benefits. I know that had I not left the toxic environment of the other one, I wouldn't even be here typing this now.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide ...

[Perna]

I do not know about the 401K thing, the taxes, paperwork, laws, etc. are the pits with withdrawing that, if it is possible. I used my 401K to pay for my braces (teeth) when I was 29/30.

I would make a plan: what your skills and background are, what you might like, how you would like to get there, etc. and look a little further than just getting "away" from where you are. Going forward toward something of your choosing is more exciting and lets you ignore the people around you now because you have a "secret", what you are working on for you and it does not include them! Use some time to go to your public library, they have lots of local job information, school/college/training information, government information, etc. Just looking forward will help against the whispers of management at this job.

[Pierro]

I am so sorry that you job is causing you so much stress and your co-workers are not making your life any easier. When you are not at work for the time being go and do something that relaxes you, take your mind off the situation in hand. You are looking for another job and that might take a while but hang on in there. You will get out.

[waterknob1234]

I thought I was the only one in a miserable job situation. I can relate to what you are dealing with brownundercover. It sounds like we work in the same place. My job is nearly causing me to have a nervous breakdown. I have been looking for jobs online but haven't found anything yet. I am also working to get my depression under control so I can go about a job search intelligently. Best of wishes to you. I understand completely what you are dealing with.

[Arcane's Box]

My anxiety about going to work tomorrow has me in tears. What is my problem? As patient as my family is, they do not understand!

[waterknob1234]

Arcane's Box. I dearly apologize. I was trying to address you in my last post and I called you by the wrong username. Please forgive me. I understand completely. I have anxiety about going to work tomorrow. No matter how hard I try or how hard I work there is always some kind of negativity. I have come apart in tears at work. And now people are whispering about me. I am getting the label as the "crazy one." I am going thru to same mess as you right now. I wish I had a good answer for both of us, but I will give you hugs.

[Arcane's Box]

Originally Posted by waterknob1234

Arcane's Box. I dearly apologize. I was trying to address you in my last post and I called you by the wrong username. Please forgive me. I understand completely. I have anxiety about going to work tomorrow. No matter how hard I try or how hard I work there is always some kind of negativity. I have come apart in tears at work. And now people are whispering about me. I am getting the label as the "crazy one." I am going thru to same mess as you right now. I wish I had a good answer for both of us, but I will give you hugs.

You made no mistake. I asked for my name to be changed. It's a one time thing, I did not mean to confuse anyone!

I understand being the 'crazy one'. People distance themselves from me, like they know I won't be there much longer. I took 3 weeks off from the place in March for medical leave (anxiety), I attribute 95 percent of my stress from that place. I'm about to get a min wage low responsibility job until I gifure something out. I just am afraid I'm making a mistake but only due to the job benefits...

So... in the meantime my gut wrenches with the thought of spending my day there tomorrow. Yours, too, huh?

[waterknob1234]

Yes, I don't look forward to work tomorrow. I think the one thing dulling my anxiety right now is migraine headache medicine. I attribute most of my current depression to this job. But I will get thru it with the Good Lord's help.

[Arcane's Box]

I called off again today. I should just quit already.

[waterknob1234]

Sending hugs your way.

[IceCreamKid]

My counselor told me this. The job is only x hours out of my life in any given day. I can enjoy the other x hours doing whatever I want. I am considering whether another job would suit me better; I owe no loyalty to this place other than trying my best when I am there. As far as the 401K goes, it depends on how young or old you are. The standard advice is don't withdraw early; but if you are 20-something it is a better idea than if you are 50-something. But each person's life is unique. I see nothing wrong with getting a minimum wage job as a tide you over if that is what you want. One of the best jobs I ever had was a minimum wage job.

In the meantime, use to your advantage all the protections and rules the company has in place to protect yourself from abuse or misuse on the job. There are some people in the world who are just predators--and they aren't all hiding in alley ways waiting to pounce; they are in the workplace too. Don't give them any quarter, I say. If they're just whisperers and eye-rollers, ignore them. If they are plotters and abusers, go to HR and enlist their help. If you are working where there is no HR, consider working for the type company that values its employees enough to have rules and protections in place. I hope this helps.

[maddnessreturns]

I'm in the same situation. I was I leave because my job was so crazy that I couldn't deal with my depression. Sent me into a spiral. Went back after a month. I dreaded it and still dread going in every work day. If possible look for something else even if it just pays the bills. No job is worth your health or life. The only thing saving me right now is they won't bother me because I called a lawyer when they tried some illegal stuff over my mental health.

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[Arcane's Box]

I believe quitting is the only option at this point.

[waterknob1234]

I understand your pain. About a month ago I was ready to walk off my job, and that's not the typical me. I usually try to endure everything. Some of the stressors and ugliness quieted down recently, but I think now the stress may just be turning into physical problems. At this time I am having to deal with nasty migraine headaches. I get the feeling co-workers talk and joke about me behind my back, but I am just trying to do my work and ignore it. Best of wishes to you. You need to do what's going to work out best for you.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Arcane's Box

I believe quitting is the only option at this point.

I look at quitting as opening the door to other opportunities that suit better!

[BaconTrail]

I'm so sorry you're suffering from this job. You are not alone. If you need the money I would not recommend quitting a job before you have found another. Cashing in the 401K usually results in about a 40% tax so not really worth it. I know exactly how you feel. I worked on a Job for 7 years and the stress was killing me. I cried all the time. I decided to start devoting at least 2 hours per day looking online for jobs. Just doing that seemed to bring relief. Took me 3 months but I now have a better position, higher salary and my commute is shorter. You can do it!

[WIKitty]

I am returning to work after 4 months off work due to depressive episode. I think I am going to puke and cry all day. I can't stand the position, the cruel coworker and no longer think the pay and benefits are worth it. Did you return to work? Did it work out for you?