Daycare mother keeps embarrassing me

She is one of those types who makes me feel uncomfortable anyway as she is very loud and says whatever is on her mind. My issue is she keeps telling me that my job as a daycare supervisor and out of school activity leader is beneath me.
She openly says that at 29, I am a bit old to be doing these jobs and should be doing something like becoming a health care assistant. It upsets me as I then worry everyone thinks the same and really, all she should be concerned about is how her son is looked after (which is very well and he loves coming). How do i politely tell her to back off?

What about telling her you are very happy doing what you do and that it is important to you to care for children?

I do hope you talk to her about your feelings. She very well could mean what she says as a compliment to you, but it's just coming out the wrong way. She probably means that you are very competent and good at what you do.

I would tell her that you appreciate her concern, but you love your job so much, and having the opportunity to interact with such great kids, like her son, that you can't imagine leaving it. Tell her that when she says these things to you, it makes you feel bad, like your job isn't important enough as it is. Ask her to stop suggesting these things.

hi, I think you just leave it aside. Whatever she says, politely tell her not to speak like that. Until or unless you do not mention your concerns to her, she will be getting undue advantage of it. Some people are quick and aggressive so they need a shup-up call. thx

Saying I am too old to do the job upsets me. I know she feels I am a loner and loser and it upsets me that she can't let it go. Will say something if she brings it up again though.

I dont know about england (where your profile says you are) but here in america everyone is free to say what ever they please including things like telling a care provider that they are old, young, didnt do something right, heck we even have a thing called nanny cams (camera's inside toys, stuffed animals, baby bags, back packs) that parents can use to assess whether those they trust their children to are doing whats best for the children in daycare/babysitting situations. my point is here in america a parent or other adult concerned about someones abilities for caring for children is free to say what they want to say to the care providers. I have 2 children that go to daycare and I do not hesitate to tell the daycare providers what I think about them including their age. sometimes a persons age can reflect on their abilities example the daycare my children go to there is an 80'yr old care provider. before I would leave my children alone with this person I had to make sure this person was up to date on the present standards for parenting/caring for children. in her child bearing years it was completely acceptable in america for care providers to psychically discipline (spank, hit, snap, soap in the mouth, eat everything on your plate, all kinds of stuff that is now no longer considered acceptable for caring for a child in a daycare setting.) I also question those and am verbal with those who have no children and working in a daycare.

my point of view it, Im not bringing my children to daycare to kiss up to and make the daycare provider happy, dont hurt their feelings. its a business relationship. if something I say hurts their feelings them maybe they shouldnt be in a job where they have to deal with the public attitudes of parents putting the children first over the daycare providers feelings.

that said here in america the daycare providers are free to tell the parents they work for that they didnt like what they said and to tell them not to bring their children in to them any more.

I did encounter one daycare provider that told me they didnt like what I said to them and that I had hurt their feelings and could I not say that to them again. I laughed and told them Im sorry but you cant control others you can only control yourself. where it comes to my children I will tell you daycare providers what I think of you and how you do your job, I will if I decide you are not capable of caring for my children, even if its just your age I will take them elsewhere. And I did.

Just like when they enter school I will be an active parent doing my parental responsibilities of making sure not only are the children doing what they are supposed to be doing, but that the teachers are competent and doing their jobs to educate the children. Im not going to worry about whether what I say may hurt the teachers feelings. its a job and the most important component is the children not a teachers feelings because someone says to them I dont think you are capable of doing this job with my children.

just my opinion on this.

Wow, that really sucks for her to say that! Since when does your job have an age limit? My sister is 59 and she works in a daycare, and she loves her job! My other sister is 56 and she runs a daycare! your job is very important.

Thankyou, that helps to know x

She doesn't know what she's talking about. I would try to politely thank her for her concern, but tell her my career is with children.

I wonder what she would think of me, a Sophomore at 67! Age is irrelevant; maybe she is jealous!

I would say: "THANK YOU FOR DISCOURAGING ME DO MY JOB! I know you are a good human resource adviser but i wonder how many had listened to your pieces of advice yet. I'm glad you are not my employer."

I am not so dignified when it comes to insufferable people. I would ask her if she would prefer an irresponsible teenager to do my job & tend to her child. That is simply a ridiculous thing to say to someone! If you enjoy what you do, who is she to judge what you do? Maybe it's just me, by that just sounds rude of her.

I would be tempted to respond in kind, say something like "I'm sorry you are having such negative things said about you at your work as a _________ (do you know what she does?) but you enjoy your work and she has no idea what your work trajectory is (presumably if you want to own your own daycare or something you would want X years experience, etc.) or anything about your personal life, hopes and dreams and you would appreciate she quit with the ignorant personal comments. Of course, the whole thing is made harder because you don't want to make her so angry or upset so she pulls her son out. . . You may just have to constantly/mildly reply something like, "Thank you, but I am happy with my life and plans for it" and turn away from her to someone else/change the subject.

That is what I was thinking earlier. So she would prefer a 17 year old unqualified teenager to look after her kid? Weird...