[helpmakingchanges]

I'm embarrassed to look for a new job. I'm embarrassed that last year at this time I contacted one of my instructors from college. He was very willing to help. He put me in contact with a few local companies and I met with one of them. I was going to do a test for the potential to work on an upcoming project for them. I'm embarrassed that I didn't follow through. Ashamed that my anxiety and depression took over. I told the person I interviewed with that I would send him updates of my progress. I didn't. I feel stuck. This seems to be a pattern. I get up enough energy to go out and look for new more suitable employment but then my anxiety, depression and sense of hopelessness take over. I've asked several people for help but I've had extreme difficulty following through. I'm reluctant to go out and look again. I'm afraid I'll follow the same patterns.

[Little Lulu]

Job searches, interviewing, etc. is stressful. It sounds like you have already tweaked the type of job you are looking for? Is getting some counseling an option so that you have some support as you go through the process of job hunting? I recently moved and found a counselor that has been so helpful to me as I transition to a new location. It feels like I have someone on my side. And when I run into an obstacle I have someone to help me with a plan.

[Potsy4]

I'm going through the job search right now as well... Its rough but luckily we can start a fresh new chapter. The people we interview for know nothing about us yet. First impressions are stressful in itself... Your not alone ...keep updating!

[try2carryon]

It sounds like you have identified your problem. You might want to break a large project down into smaller ones and on a pocket calendar mark down when each step should be complete. After you complete a step, give yourself a reward (something you like that is healthy to do). If you miss one of your deadlines, just extend it out an extra day and complete it. A project should be easier to complete if you break it down into smaller ones. Maybe make yourself a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on your weaknesses while your looking for a job. As you improve on tasks you have difficulty with, it should help your confidence level for getting the job that is waiting for you out there. I wish you much success in finding your career.

[helpmakingchanges]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

Job searches, interviewing, etc. is stressful. It sounds like you have already tweaked the type of job you are looking for? Is getting some counseling an option so that you have some support as you go through the process of job hunting? I recently moved and found a counselor that has been so helpful to me as I transition to a new location. It feels like I have someone on my side. And when I run into an obstacle I have someone to help me with a plan.

Hi Little Lulu,

Thanks for the comment. I have a good idea of the job I'd like and yes I think I do need some help along the way. I'm seeing a friend of the family who has done a lot of counseling work but I'm not sure if I've conveyed the importance of getting a new job. The job situation is frustrating. I have nearly 10 years of college... A bachelors degree and associates degree and several certificates. Currently working in 2 low wage jobs and it's killing me. I think a job in my field of study would be a positive thing, but I don't know if that should be a priority or if I should prioritize other things first.

[helpmakingchanges]

Originally Posted by try2carryon

It sounds like you have identified your problem. You might want to break a large project down into smaller ones and on a pocket calendar mark down when each step should be complete. After you complete a step, give yourself a reward (something you like that is healthy to do). If you miss one of your deadlines, just extend it out an extra day and complete it. A project should be easier to complete if you break it down into smaller ones. Maybe make yourself a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Work on your weaknesses while your looking for a job. As you improve on tasks you have difficulty with, it should help your confidence level for getting the job that is waiting for you out there. I wish you much success in finding your career.

Hi try2carryon,

Thank you for the advice. These are good things for me to think about. I like the give yourself a reward part. Too many things in my life are drudgery.

[helpmakingchanges]

Originally Posted by Potsy4

I'm going through the job search right now as well... Its rough but luckily we can start a fresh new chapter. The people we interview for know nothing about us yet. First impressions are stressful in itself... Your not alone ...keep updating!

Hi Potsy4,

Thank you for you comments.

[miharucat]

I have a similar situation. One of my favorite professors who is extremely nice and thoughtful (he even donated a lot of money to my club's charity after I asked him)...we were having a conversation and he asked what my plans were for the summer and I ended up mentioning I hadn't found an internship yet. So he later emailed me with a contact who needed interns... I emailed this contact my resume, he asked me out for lunch, and I never followed up. The thought of a one-on-one encounter freaked me out and I just avoided the situation. Fast forward to after the summer, I ran into my prof again and he asked if I ever contacted the dude. Had to tell him that I didn't really follow up, which was really embarassing after all he has done for me.