[Used2Bmommie]

Last week i was the victim of a nonviolent crime (car stolen) in broad daylight while I was at work. No one cared. No one offered a ride home. My boss kept asking me what I planned on doing because were not allowed to be there after we clock out. No one saw anything or so they say. No one called the cops or the security guard or offered to help me in any way.
The car was found missing only the stereo and my personal items that were in the car. it was parked in a red zone cops ran the plates when they towed it then called us.
Maybe im paranoid but i do NOT think this was a random crime or a crime of opportuniy i think it was personal. Why steal a car just for an old stereo then park it a few blocks away?
i do suffer from ptsd and because i have seen too of the worst of mankind and not enough of the best i do have a cynical view of the world. And to me this seems like someone did this on purpose to make sure i would be there without a car(it was my boyfriends car needless to say he doesnt let me take it to work anymore) alone waiting for a ride or a bus or whatever. The local police were not helpful and i don't feel safe there anymore
I never really did feel safe there but now i am literally afraid to go to work and i want to transfer back to my old store. can i say its medical reasons and cite my ptsd and axiety as backup?

[Travelinglady]

That's a tough one. How long have you worked at the new place?

That is a tough one, and sorry this happened to you. (((hugs)))

I don't know what to advise. If it were me, I would stay and work through the fears and concerns around safety, & I would try to put my anxious thoughts to rest that someone was out to get me, but I am not in your shoes and I don't know what it is like for you.

It is a good question as to how long you have been with the employer. If you quit and haven't been there long, you can keep this job off your resume. But if you've been there for more than a few months and you keep it off your resume, it's harder to explain employment gaps or why you've left a position. You may also want to think about the future in terms of getting a good reference from this employer.

Sorry, i am probably no help with this. :/ Hope others have some good advice for you. (((hugs)))

[childofchaos831]

You could just request the transfer, without a reason. If the manager wants a reason, then tell them that after your car was stolen you don't feel safe in that area. I don't see any reason they need to know about the PTSD or anxiety, personally.

You could also state that you didn't feel like your coworkers connected or cared at all, and that you would be more comfortable in a store where there is support of some type. That one could be a little more risky, tho.

I always lean toward not disclosing mental illness or health info unless absolutely necessary. I live in a state, however, where they can fire a person for no real reason, and unless you can prove discrimination beyond doubt, there's nothing that can be done. That makes it a little more difficult here.

When I was working at a large warehouse type store, there was a day, during construction on the bathrooms, where they were going to be testing the fire alarm several times. We were warned ahead of time that they would be testing throughout the day, and I pulled my team lead aside, and just told her that I don't handle extremely loud noises well. They were also going to be announcing a few minutes prior to the test for the customers, because no one needed to evacuate during the tests. I told my lead that I would need to step outside when the alarm was going off, which would be for 5 to 10 minutes, and happened about 4 times during my shift. She did ask what would happen if I had to stay inside during ther alarms, and I told her I would be unable to work duri my the alarm and for a time after while I composed myself again. I never used the term PTSD, but I also didn't say it wasn't. I left it open for her to think what she wanted, but I did not verify anything. She did allow me to step outside during the alarms.

Basically, there are ways to explain things without giving too much info, because in my opinion, it is hard to tell when someone will use that info against us.

[Used2Bmommie]

i have been with the company since july 2015. I was transferred in december 2016 so I have been there about 9 months. This is the only real job i have ever had. before this i worked but it was under the table and I can't really prove lt

[Used2Bmommie]

i was transferred because i broke a rule i didn't even know they had and started dating a coworker. We were very discrete and it never affected our ability to do our jobs but another coworker got jealous and told on us. We had already agreed that if it came down to it he would transfer so i wouldn't have to but they said its not his decision. I told them i did not want to transfer and would have a hard time getting to and from work since it is further away and i don't have a car of my own. Needless to say they transferred me anyway and since day one i have hated everything about this store. The location the managers coworkers customers the way they do things just everything even the lighting. I gave it time to get used to it but it just keeps getting worse and now this.
My boyfriend is no longer with the company so thats no longer an issue. My old store is short handed and this one is overstaffed. I have been asking for this transfer but can't even get a straight answer out of these people. I'm not even sure who i should be asking. My manager keeps blowing me off our district manager doesn't return calls and neither does our HR department.

My manager's problem is that she knows no one can do what i do as fast and as well as i do it but thats not my problem. The manager at my old store said the same thing but they still moved me and that store has been struggling ever since. My new store, however is doing better than ever since i have been there.

[Will-not-fail]

I would find out your legal rights.

[reb569]

Unless you need some type of work accommodation due to your PTSD, I would say, don't mention it. As for transferring, I concur with what someone else mentioned. Just say that since the theft of your car you don't feel safe in the area.

One last thing. I'm wondering if it would help if you talked to the manager from the store you want to transfer to. Maybe that manager can get things moving for you?

[Used2Bmommie]

That store doesn't even have a store manager. They keep quitting. The entire company is like a revolving door. People usually quit within a year. They don't care about my safety and I don't see how giving them something to use against me later would make things any better now. I guess I was just hoping there was some law or something that would make them move me but I guess not.
thank you for all of your input and suggestions.