Boss slams things in front of me and throws things to me?

My boss and I used to have a good relationship, and then something changed in March. I still don't know what.

Now she gives me the silent treatment, sometimes even refusing to look me in the eye, but will talk directly to my other coworkers. I just follow what they do. or she will do stuff like slam things in front of me and throw things to me. If I leave something on the floor (I fully intend to pick it up) she'all angrily slam it in the garbage and give me a dirty look.

She only treats me like this. Last week, after throwing a box to me angrily, she bought something to one of my coworkers and said "here you go hon"

I've tried talking to her, and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from.

I've started to get used to it, even though I know it's totally not ok.

I don't want to talk to anyone higher up then her, because I know they will protect her and not me.

I'm working on just letting it go and In The meantime trying to find a new job.

I know the way she's treating me is wrong. What can I do about it though?

Where are you coming from? Do you think it was something you did or said? I'm not saying her behavior is ok. Just wondering what happened.

This behavior is absolutely not acceptable. I would recommend recording every time this happens in a document and speaking to HR. I know you don't want to go higher up than her, but most companies have civility codes and she is definitely breaking your company's civility code and creating a toxic work environment.

What kind of job is it?

Seesaw

I really am not sure.

In March her patience towards me just seemed to go away. It was all of a sudden.

I'm guessing she has some kind of uncontrolled mental illness.

But because her moods are unpredictable, it's difficult to know what to expect from her.

I'm currently so anxious about tomorrow, my stomach is hurting really bad.

Once in awhile, she can be very nice and offer me snacks and is just nice. I'm more off put by that behavior.

I'm currently so anxious about tomorrow I feel like I'm going to throw up.

It's retail.

There is no excuse for her behavior, undiagnosed mental illness or not. Call HR. You do not have to stand by and just allow her to treat you that way.

Even tho you are looking for another job already, HR needs to know. If she is doing this to you, she most likely gas done it to someone else or will do it to someone else. Behavior like that from a manager is unacceptable, and most companies would either transfer her, give her more training or outright fire her.

Throwing things at you borders on assault, and in a professional environment, companies higher management and HR departments need to know. These are things that can get the company in a lot of trouble if it's not handled, but they need to know to be able to deal with it.

Please, call HR tomorrow. Preferably before clocking into work.

I don't know.

I read on another site that HR's job is to protect the company and not the employee. Also the HR is great friends with my boss. My boss has been there since the store opened and I've been there for 1.5 years.

I don't know if it would work talking to HR or if It would hurt me even more.

My mom says when she throws things at me to immediately confront her and ask what's going on.

I guess I should do that. I don't know How she'd react though. But I guess it's worth a shot.

Is she doing this in front of cameras? Backing up an abusive manager instead of the employees under her would damage the company more than notf acting at all. I still think HR needs to know. Does your company have an anonymous reporting line for certain situations? One company I worked for had a line where we could report things anonymously if we feared our job may be effected...

I agree with other. Your manager action is not acceptable.

Have you ever ask to your co-workers? Maybe they are abused too in different way. If not, try to ask them their opinion regarding her actions to you or her actual behavior.

I still thinking that you should ask her directly what's wrong and why does she do this to you. I think to try send her emails, letter, etc to ask her if you scared or if she's avoid this matter.

Eek --- I don't like the sounds of this. I agree with the others. HR should still act professionally and objectively even if they are friends with your boss. This behavior and treatment in no way is acceptable or tolerable, especially given it's making you anxious. (((hugs))))

Actually, we got A new HR manager this week. We used to get along well when she was just a regular employee, I'm not sure how she is as a part of mangament.

These past few days have been ok. Not great but ok. My boss sent a group text to all of us. So I see that as a good sign, that she at least considers me part of the team. She could of just sent it to my other coworkers and they could of told me.

She threw a box towards me and it hit my leg. She said "good catch" though, so I knew she was not being malicious.

I was physically and mentally exhausted on Thursday from doing something completely different then I'm used to and I was off the schedule on Friday. I was pretty pissed all day at work and I did want to go on a field trip with my group, so I said I wasn't available if she needed me on Friday.

At first, this job was great and I did everything I could possibly think of to stand out and do everything right.

Now I have the mindset of: "fire me, I dare you."

I try not to show these emotions though.

So everytime a week of work goes ok, I try to just ignore her.

I am focused right now on learning how to drive so I could look for jobs that are further away. Right now I can only stick to two towns.

By the way, she sort of snapped at me on Thursday and I said "I'm only trying to help." And she backed off after that.

I agree with everyone that I should try sticking up for myself in a gentle way.