For the third straight year I got "exceeds expectations" and that is as high as it can get. You have to understand that I get paid via steps and though this high grade gets me another step.. the problem is.. I am at my limit. So essentially it is pointless. Probably a reason it is so high.

Also there is a lot of really wonderful language so that is good. But also a lot of it just doesn't seem to be relevant or accurate to me.

See my boss doesn't talk to me and I don't talk to him. He literally seems pained to have any conversations with me or, even be in my presence. Always has been that way. So I give him what he wants. I also have noticed that when I got a bad review, it was the same thing... saying things about me that really weren't true. As if he had to fill the space with things out of a management book.

But I am bothered about the things he says. First, he suggested that I don't enjoy my job and have any natural sense of joy. Errr... duh. But I will never have "joy" in this work environment. In this particular one.. I have been abused and he is one of those abusers. I didn't realize that was a requirement. He should be happy I am not on disability for PSTD. And notice the irony of this coming from a guy that would rather cut off his arm than be in my presence.

But then he always goes to this on every review and it really bothers me... he suggests that I should chatting with my co workers... and helping them out being more community oriented. First, duh, I do that just not in your presence. But it bothers me that somehow MY Job has now become dependent on other people and if I help them? This is the second time this has come up. I am not a trainer. I do not owe my co workers anything at all. Where was their "duty" to me when I was struggling? Almost every one of them has done something to me that I have rights to hate them for. Talking to them at all is a major struggle.

Also, this is just more of my workplace sort of demanding that I socialize with my co workers. It is code but I know that is what it is.

It also really bugs me because my biggest failing in life is wanting to help out other people but usually they don't want the help and usually I help them at great cost to me. It has taken me 20 years to realize this and take steps to stop it. And now I am getting baited again?

Anyway.. I know he just has to say *something*. But it bugs.

[Travelinglady]

Yeah, I think they feel obligated to say something--like "room for improvement." Congrats, though!

Can you say "hi, how are you?" to your fellow workers. Trying to be "nice," even though they don't "deserve it." Maybe that would be sufficient, anyway.

[seesaw]

Wow, if my boss said something like that on my review, I would actually argue about it being appropriate to being there. It's a performance review not a job satisfaction review. I have actually successfully argued with supervisors about certain things they have written on reviews and gotten them taken off. Nothing you get on a performance review should be a surprise. If there is a surprise, then it's a result of bad management, because managers should deal with issues immediately.

If your supervisor insists on keeping that feedback about being more community-oriented, I would ask that specific suggestions be included on the review so you know exactly what he's talking about and it's not just some vague suggestion.

Seesaw

Originally Posted by seesaw

If your supervisor insists on keeping that feedback about being more community-oriented, I would ask that specific suggestions be included on the review so you know exactly what he's talking about and it's not just some vague suggestion.

I think I know. He wants me to train his people so he doesn't have to. And both he and my other boss think I should be "going out" to events with people after work. And I refuse. Christmas party etc. Yearly "work appreciation" lunch, yearly pot luck lunch. Nope nope nope.

But I don't think that belongs on a review and it irks me that it is on there. But not worth the fight. But still irks me.

[seesaw]

Ug, work events can be a necessary evil. I think if you could suffer through just a couple of those events, it would give you something to point to and say "I did go to the Christmas party" or whatever...I hate those work-community events too. I spend like most of my life with co-workers, I don't want to spend my free time with them as well. Ug. Why can't people understand that?

Seesaw