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You are reading far too much into this. I was merely advising a suggestion.

Article on The Guardian.

Haven't read it all yet, but thot I'd rush it post it first here. R

Glad you posted this, Moxie...I realized earlier this week that I was rushing towards burnout. Just putting in far too many hours and not doing the self care I need and doing the things that make me happy as a person. I took some time off and am feeling a lot better now. Even did some shopping and spent the fruits of my labor...it's nice when we can actually use our hard-won dollars on something nice for ourselves.

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This idea occurred to me a couple of weeks ago.

Let it NO.

I guess it's the non-action version of Let it Go. Here's a riff,

Let it no in 3 words shows inner permission to set a yes/no line. Right now, for example, the 'temporary' filter file I set up when I went on vacation for my in-mail has probably 2k messages. Every once and a while I check in, but for the moment I don't feel I have the mindwidth to cull it. So I'm letting it pile up, and letting myself Let it No.

I had other plans this week than my partner. She went to a remarkable poetry reading ... I went to a lecture/concert event. She's thinks I should have been at the reading. Perhaps. But, I hold no fear of missing out, no regrets. Was I there? No. Thus, I'm letting it no.

I watch people sometimes do a double take when I don't agree with them. Especially on my projects where I'm aware I have more knowledge or experience and they are asking for a change that violates the integrity of the service or product. No. They come back at different times, different angles, different tones of voice. It's still no. I describe/explain best I can why (without delving into the years of trial and success/error that brought me to my decision) and still I have to say, No. Once I went on for maybe 90 seconds and even said. That's the longest 'no' I've said in my life.

Get it, let it 'no' people! We have other work to do.

No is a terrific help to keeping the mojo working. Use it well & wisely.

Let it no, let it no, let it no,

Revu2

My title comes from a comment Coleman Barks made to an interviewer in Sun Magazine in 2007. It seemed when I first read it as a jab against the writer. But now, I see it as a jab from Coleman to Coleman, from self to self.

If this hold some truth, then there’s some truth in other ways to live a day.

One day without appointments is restorative. Ah.

Let’s see. Just channeled off Friday 3/30 and Monday 4/2. No appts.

How restorative already,

Revu2

Quote:

Barks is a private person who avoids admirers and the curious. “One appointment ruins the day,” he explains in his gentle Tennessee accent. “I love having nothing to do.”

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Oh, working is building, the pressure, the intensity, the complexity. Part is me is Ready! It's Game Time.

Part of me is Run for the Hills (Or the Ills). Not getting sick. So things grow legs.

Symptom: losing track of things. This week my Wise Mind dropped this plum: when I'm emotionally entangled, I lose track. Get emotionally inner-aligned, and thing will be put where they should be/where I can find them.

Lost along the way: a check, a Swiss Army Knife, bottle of herbal tincture. All quickly found but I had to retrace me steps and likely thinking.

Better: Accept that I am scatter-hearted and this leads to scatter brained. Talk out loud, especially when moving things around (like all the time).

Intentionally slow down, breathe, and use putting away as a pause and refresher.

Sort something for no reason, like putting my pants in order by color.

Imagine "borrowing" what I need like a library book. I got to return or risk a fine.

Read or search for something completely off topic. Lstely it's been spinner luggage, bike seats and locks.

Keep up with daily devotional rituals like the I Ching, reading sections of articles or books off topic, even on topic.

Copy out some quotes from the works I'm reading.

Change the mantra from: I seem to be coping well to Spirit, I need all your help Holding it Together and Keeping the Appearance of Order.

In the Midst of the Storm I Flow Serene (and triple check where I put my keys).

Revu2

Found this wonderfully researched blog on burnout, causes, symptoms, and remedies. https://translationmusings.com/2011/02/09/dealing-with-job-burnout/

Here is the source on Helpnet.org for their references:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/s...d-recovery.htm

My own dance at the moment is any illusion I give myself I'm handling life well with all the complexities of my work piling on and up. OK, fess up time—I'm not dealing super well with details. Misfiled a check (quickly found). Washed a jacket with everything in the pockets (gloves, ski hat, comb, tissues).

So, today's remedy?/meditation is: going (working) in flow motion. When something occurs to me, do it then. Need a few single bills for my out of town trip for tips, put it with the other things I'm packing, now. Feel like treating myself to brunch out, do it. Need a nap, nap.

This is my last day without appointments, and the next three are high stress, followed by high workload for a couple of days.

I've worked hard since maybe when I was toddler to tie my own shoes, later, pay bills, get around independently, etc. To stick with my own state of stretched thinness is healthy and humbling and uncomfortable.

Yes, I'm uncomfortable knowing that details want to runaway and hide.

How do you feed details? What are treats for details? How can details become my friends?

Revu2

Have to think about this. I live in details...Will think of how I deal with managing them.

I could feel the cracks opening up for about 10 years , but felt obligated and expected to continue to put that effort in ( this was 4 different jobs but doing the same thing at each operation ) . I blocked out the signs because this is the industry I have been in all my life and showing signs of weakness is not the done thing in this industry

Hi Chrissy,

These are sure signs of strain. The inner and self awareness and the other *sensed* prohibitions against speaking one's experience in the context that causes the strain. Classic situation for what's labeled a "double bind."

Have you worked your way free yet?
R