[Mountaindewed]

This whole possible cuts to Medicare and social security has me freaking. My mom says it won’t happen but I’m not sure. That’s why I was up since midnight. I was worrying and thinking so much. I was thinking I somehow have to work 2 jobs even though I can barely handle one job 2-3 days a week. The second job has got to be grocery since there’s no way in hell i’m working a second retail job. I’m wouldn’t be surprised if I have a heart attack in my 30’s to be honest from all this stress and anxiety I have.

And yes I for sure would be one of the first ones to be cut since they have already looked at my case twice since starting my current job 2 years ago. And I make way way under the limit each month. And have had multiple doctors and therapists declare me disabled both times. Trump doesn’t care.

[TerryL]

i don't have a work gripe but i just wanted to write this down somewhere. i am pretty new at my job and one of the sups wanted to find out more about my past work experience. i told her my resume was quite spotty and she asked me why. i hesitated and could not bring myself to explain. i could not bring myself to explain that for many years, i was in so much emotional pain over the guilt of my pets' deaths that i could not work in a regular job. i just temped. i could not tell her my pets meant so much to me because i was so emotionally neglected (albeit unintentionally) as a child that animals were all that i had. i could not explain that my guilt was also because my mother played favorites. she coddled me because i was her only natural child and my sister was very jealous and i felt terrible about that. i had actually told one coworker a little about my emotional pain thinking she was my friend but she later on cruelly used it against me. that is why i hesitated today.

i recently started watching youtube videos on marilyn van derbur. she is a former ms america and is an incest survivor. she told her story after many years of hiding her pain and she overcame the shame she felt of her past and went on to thrive as a motivational speaker. i was not sexually abused like she was but i was fascinated by how telling her truth freed her. i wish i could be as open with my past. i have tried so hard to heal but i still have a way to go i guess. i wish i could explain me to the people around me. one person said hiding our past is one of the hardest things we have to do and we shouldn't have to do it.

if you are on disability & fairly young and working I believe it is fairly normal to have your case reviewed. my case was reviewed 2x when I first got it at different times. it is a similar to social security program but also federal. if you are young and working they want to make sure you are truly unable to function and not scamming the system.

terryl there are pet therapy groups you can join to help you deal with the loss of them. look on line or ask your vet. it is a great loss but should not be a severe life altering one (says someone who has lost many...before someone jumps down my throat) we all grieve differently but if your grief is so severe that it impacts your life such, it is time to manage it

me, I am trying to work retail with a cast on my dominant hand. for the next 4 weeks. last night my wrist swelled big time. gotta slow my roll. but hey it's February..winter is creeping along! by the time the cast is off it will be so close to march!

[TerryL]

tx resurgam. i have been to pet loss groups but my guilt over their deaths, which was the main issue, is not really from the pet loss. it was due to my childhood emotional neglect. animals were all i had and to think i might have made a mistake in their care just killed me. still, i have worked very hard at healing and am at peace with the neglect. but when the sup asked me about my work gaps, i wasn't prepared to tell her about everything especially as my coworker used my sharing to hurt me. not everyone can understand. i wish there was more kindness, understanding and compassion in this world.

[Mountaindewed]

Not much to gripe about. Things went fine today.

Originally Posted by TerryL

i don't have a work gripe but i just wanted to write this down somewhere. i am pretty new at my job and one of the sups wanted to find out more about my past work experience. i told her my resume was quite spotty and she asked me why. i hesitated and could not bring myself to explain. i could not bring myself to explain that for many years, i was in so much emotional pain over the guilt of my pets' deaths that i could not work in a regular job. i just temped. i could not tell her my pets meant so much to me because i was so emotionally neglected (albeit unintentionally) as a child that animals were all that i had. i could not explain that my guilt was also because my mother played favorites. she coddled me because i was her only natural child and my sister was very jealous and i felt terrible about that. i had actually told one coworker a little about my emotional pain thinking she was my friend but she later on cruelly used it against me. that is why i hesitated today.

i recently started watching youtube videos on marilyn van derbur. she is a former ms america and is an incest survivor. she told her story after many years of hiding her pain and she overcame the shame she felt of her past and went on to thrive as a motivational speaker. i was not sexually abused like she was but i was fascinated by how telling her truth freed her. i wish i could be as open with my past. i have tried so hard to heal but i still have a way to go i guess. i wish i could explain me to the people around me. one person said hiding our past is one of the hardest things we have to do and we shouldn't have to do it.

@TerryL
Hi TerryL, first, I'm sorry you've had a rough road, and glad you don't have many work gripes like you said. And I can certainly relate to not being able to work bc of emotional pain. I also really feel the same way as you when ppl ask about our lives and job history, etc. I want to tell them, and feel frustrated that I can't.

I believe under the ADA you do not have to disclose your disability at work. I don't know much about it, so if someone else does, feel free to chime in. But it seems to me, that it is none of your supervisors business. Even if they were just asking to get to know you better, you weren't being rude in not disclosing. Everyone has something. You followed your gut and imo, you were professional.

[TerryL]

thank you wovengalaxy. i am sorry you also wish you could tell your story more. maybe one day people will become more understanding. it sure would be great to be able to be fully understood and to not have to hide anything, and to not be judged. till then, i have learned to be more cautious about disclosure. and i think you are correct, we don't have to disclose anything at work unless it was a criminal incident i believe. the sup was just trying to get to know me better as she liked my work. she was okay with me not explaining more. main thing is i get the job done i suppose. anyways, wishing you well.

[Mountaindewed]

I kind of hate the new set up at work. Two people work together and the space is very limited and close together. I normally work alone but the last 2 shifts I was working with someone else. It’s nothing to freak out over and there’s no one I dislike at my job I just like my personal space.

[vollinglobin987]

I think my gripe is silly, but I need to vent or I'm going crazy.

snow + cast+ice+work = no fun. just saying. and tomorrow it is supposed to snow again all day. can't shovel, roof rake nothing so it's climb thru snow etc to get to the car to drive to work. lots more in the foreseeable future as well. so not going to make work fun for the next few weeks.

[Mountaindewed]

I tried working alone today so I chose the spot where there’s only space for one person to work. And they just created a whole new space so a second person could work with me. Sigh. I’m not taking it personally though.

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by WovenGalaxy

@TerryL
Hi TerryL, first, I'm sorry you've had a rough road, and glad you don't have many work gripes like you said. And I can certainly relate to not being able to work bc of emotional pain. I also really feel the same way as you when ppl ask about our lives and job history, etc. I want to tell them, and feel frustrated that I can't.

I believe under the ADA you do not have to disclose your disability at work. I don't know much about it, so if someone else does, feel free to chime in. But it seems to me, that it is none of your supervisors business. Even if they were just asking to get to know you better, you weren't being rude in not disclosing. Everyone has something. You followed your gut and imo, you were professional.

You don't have to disclose your disability under the ADA unless you are seeking accommodations.

[Mountaindewed]

I ignored a call from work which I’ve never done before. I always call them back. They technically didn’t say anything about calling back unless I could work. So maybe I’m not being rude. I just don’t want to go in tomorrow. Something awful always happens when I work on Fridays. I’ll make up some excuse about how I didn’t get the call or something if they ask.

[BreakForTheLight]

Not really a work issue, more of a me issue but it's to do with work.

I just started a new job on Monday and obviously the training is very tiring, I think that's normal. But I also feel a tremendous amount of stress that builds up in my body every single day and there is absolutely no need for it. The job isn't that, the coworkers are nice, what the hell am.I getting so worked up about?

[Mountaindewed]

They didn’t get why we were doing poorly today. I usually keep quiet about these things but I knew it was because they had 2 people on a task that one person easily could do themselves. I mentioned it to the manager who seemed annoyed I was bringing it it up. Whatever. I just don’t want to be called in on my day off to finish stuff that could have easily been finished before if they had just moved people around. Also I guess someone’s not allowed to work with anyone else because she’s too difficult to work with. But this person is one of the reasons we aren’t getting anything done. She’s way too slow. So it’s more important to keep the peace and not cause arguments then just tell grown adults to get over it so we can get things done on time like we should be doing? I really don’t get it.

[Have Hope]

I have three challenging clients right now - that's 3/5 are most challenging. UGH. This makes my work life very stressful on a daily basis. And I have little to no help from above with the challenges I face because those above me don't know any better than I do. I am so sick of my job. I want it to end NOW.

[BreakForTheLight]

I left my job because I was bored but I didn't find a better job before I ran out of money so I had to accept what I could get.... and now I have a job that's even more boring than my previous one, and it pays less.

I'm so frustrated I couldn't get anything else and I really don't understand! I live in a foreign country and all the jobs I applied to required a native speaker of my language so that greatly reduces the competion. I keep hearing the right people are hard to find and I experienced that as well when my old company was looking for someone to replace me - only two people applied and I'm 99% sure one of them lied about being a native speaker. And I actually have the right degree and the experience.... Yet I didn't even get a single interview in my field.

[Mountaindewed]

Work is going ridiculously slow. I will have one full week off in a few days. Going to take a small trip next week just to do something. But my hours were cut from 4-3 days to 1-2 days as soon as I had them fill out that paperwork for social security. Everyone else’s hours were cut from 5 days to 3 days. I guess they figured I was ok with just 2 days since I’m also on SS.

[rechu]

I am sorry to hear that Break for the Light. I am an expat and your situation seems similar to where I live. About 3 years ago when I was unemployed, I had a real hard time finding something. Many people I'd come across thought that with my education and languages skills I should be in demand but I rarely got called for interviews. I ended taking what I could get and it didn’t end well.

I am not sure where you live, but I think that the problem here is who you know is so important. Many jobs are given to someone who knows someone. Connections through college, even what private high school you went to mean a lot. Same with family connections. I am from a country where nearly all of us went to public high school and once you have a degree, no one cares where you went. Not having any such connections definitely makes things tougher. I wonder if that might be part of the problem where you live.

I was let go last November and decided to look into getting freelance work from clients in my home country because the economy where I live is terrible at the moment. And, of course, I had such a hard time finding work last time even when the economy was better. I have been started doing regular freelance work for one company in my home country, and so far, so good. It’s part-time but the currency exchange favors me right now, so the money is not bad. I would still have time to take on something else if it came up. Maybe that is an option you could explore.

[BreakForTheLight]

Thanks rechu! Sorry to hear you were in the same situation though

I don't know if it's really about who you know here.... Maybe it's because I have the experience and would like be paid a normal salary. Salary expectations is such a tricky question, aim too high and you won't even get invited for an interview, but you don't want to sell yourself short either. And I do have a min. I'd like to earn, which I think is pretty reasonable. Less than what I made in my last job.
I've seen jobs get posted again after I've been turned down.

I tried to get some freelance work before starting my current job, but with freelance it's definitely about who you know. I didn't manage to get a single job. Now I work full time and non-flexible hours there's no chance of freelancing.

[Mountaindewed]

I guess I have a week off because they are doing a deep clean of the store. Honestly I’d rather have a week off then to be cleaning vents and painting.

[SlumberKitty]

I'm just bored at work today. Not that that is something new.

[rechu]

BreakForTheLight - I did freelance work on top of a full-time job for about a year. It was draining. I had to work on weekends and often until 10 PM on weeknights. It was worth it in my case because we were saving to buy a house and that money put us over the top for the down payment. However, I can understand not wanting to juggle freelance work if your job already keeps you busy.

so amazed at the people who feel the company won't run without them. wonder where that comes from...just a piddly little cog in a huge company and they feel their presence is what makes the entire operation keep moving smoothly...but only if they get their extra mandated breaks and no one looks crossly at them etc. I do wonder how many would survive in a large operation such as the government where no one has time for petty bs games they like to play. from supervisors on down...just amazing.

and before anyone chews me out for commenting on THEIR posts believe me I am not. company disfunction can occur in many workplaces.

[Mountaindewed]

Originally Posted by resurgam

so amazed at the people who feel the company won't run without them. wonder where that comes from...just a piddly little cog in a huge company and they feel their presence is what makes the entire operation keep moving smoothly...but only if they get their extra mandated breaks and no one looks crossly at them etc. I do wonder how many would survive in a large operation such as the government where no one has time for petty bs games they like to play. from supervisors on down...just amazing.

and before anyone chews me out for commenting on THEIR posts believe me I am not. company disfunction can occur in many workplaces.

@resurgam are you triggered? Sorry if you are.