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My husband has Tourettes with severe OCD. He is on a very low dosage of meds that help OCD episodes and somewhat reduce Tourette’s symptoms. But the meds are so low that they don’t seem to be doing the job anymore, even his therapist suggested to talk to a doc about increasing dosage. But my husband is terrified that higher dose will show down his reactions and he needs to be alert 100% of the time at work. He can’t be in a cloud, not at all. So it’s doubled edge sword. I’d talk to your doc and see if there’s a connection. Be careful cutting the meds down though. It might cause some more problems |
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It's seriously irksome and I feel they totally wasted my time. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I feel that sometimes employers just don’t look what’s in a resume or pay attention who is coming to an interview. Years ago I had an interview that I had to take a day off my job at the time and drive an hour. When I got there, I had to wait for a long time but when they finally invited me in they asked me if I by chance have a degree in some languages and if I speak them (I don’t speak them and have no degrees in them). Don’t recall which ones. Just remember it was a weird expectation of someone speaking and having degrees in two unrelated languages. It was like do you speak Japanese and Swedish? Or something My resume and transcripts and letter of interest listed my degrees and languages. Why on the planet they didn’t even read it? And when I said no they responded “oh that’s too bad, that’s what we really needed.” What???? I just left. Didn’t stay for the interview. Ridiculous |
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That's appalling about your own interview experience. Like why even bother bringing me all this way, and didn't you even read my resume?!? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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So, my self esteem is at an all time low. I've been rejected now 5-6 times and I've been told that my technical knowledge is lacking. How can I even interview for a Director level role if my technical knowledge is lacking? I have an interview Tuesday, my self esteem has taken a hit, and I feel like backing out. What I am going to do instead is read up on technical stuff this weekend to refresh my knowledge and memory, but I already have a feeling or a fear that I will be rejected again. I am not feeling good about myself professionally. And, during the last six months of my job, it's been difficult to feel successful or to see any real major successes.. I've had setbacks with a few of my clients during the Pandemic, which is impacting my own success level. And this does not help my self esteem at all. During my 1st tenure with my company, I had a ton of success to speak to. And now I don't feel that way.
I am not feeling good walking into this interview on Tue. On Monday, I have a meeting with a company that helps support you through your job search and which provides 1:1 coaching. I feel I need this right now, even if I have to pay for it later. I wish I felt better. On top of this, my doctor's office hasn't gotten back to me about changing my medication and reducing the dosage. This really isn't helping me to think well... it's only just making things far worse for me and there's nothing I can do until my doctor calls in a new prescription. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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See how you feel after your meeting with the job search company. If you're still feeling uneasy, you can cancel the interview then.
Some of these employers, I don't get it. Thousands of people have totally walked away from "employment" because of the lack of respect and the games employers play - especially with the interview process. Also, see how things develop with your current employer - after the new year. My employer is just starting to wake up to the fact that we don't need them THAT bad. Yesterday, I got a raise and a speech about how valued I am and they're working to enhance my quality of life at work. Cool. Okay. Thank you. But I also know that they only do these things when it suits them and when they're desperate and losing people. As soon as the balance is tipped back in their favor, we'll be worked to death again. Right now, this situation works for me, I have good health insurance, I now have what I feel is a wage I deserve, I work from home, and it's all cool. I haven't felt abused here since I changed departments (this is a large, large corporation, so I can always run away to another department if necessary). I know startups and smaller companies can work well too, but I've found the large companies are more willing to help you learn skills or strengthen skills that are on the weak side. For example, I am a very literal, structured person and I'm not a creative. I am now learning how to think "out of the box" to solve problems in a more creative way, and if I'm totally honest I needed to learn this. It's uncomfortable, but I also am getting a great deal of satisfaction from learning what I can come up with to solve a problem or make someone's bad experience happier. So that was a long, exhausting read to tell you - keep exploring and do what works for YOU. If staying a while and working with this company on job searching works, do that. If staying and not looking for a while works, then do that. Make sure you're caring for yourself during this too. There have been times where I just had to disengage from the job at the end of the day and go for a walk after work or even just window shopping to relax and care for me. |
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You're so right - I do need to also focus on self-care right now. I haven't been, and I've been sick with a cold on and off for weeks. And I need to find ways to ease my stress after work, though having my boss get fired certainly helped. I am looking forward to this call with the job search company on Monday. I hope they decide I am a good fit for their mentorship program. Apparently, you can get matched with a mentor within your industry that works for a top tech company such as Google or Amazon. After 5-6 rejections and after 4 of them being in the final round, I am hanging my hat on needing some coaching. And yeah, I will wait and see about this interview Tuesday... it's a tiny company of just 5 people! It's amazing what's happening in your own company. I think employers do worry about a mass walk out right now, as that's what's happening in the world. You're lucky in that you can change departments if yours doesn't suit you. That is definitely a big bonus and advantage of working in a large company. I worked last Feb for a HUGE company of 20,000 employees, and it did not work for me at all. I came from a tiny company of just 30 employees, and the large size was not something I was used to, nor the types of processes in place, all the technical applications I had to use for every little thing and all the meetings I had to attend. Far too many meetings! The downside of smaller companies - I think they force you to have to learn everything on your own. So, yes, I agree - I'm going to take care of myself and will see how things go on Monday and go from there. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I had a great first interview yesterday for a Director role. They now want me to meet with the company owner. I am excited, but nervous. IF I get rejected AGAIN, I'm going to have a really hard time with it. And if they make me do a homework exercise, I'm going to shoot myself in the head. lol.
On the PLUS side too, I reduced my medication dosage by half and I am taking vitamins to help increase memory and mental agility. I feel sooo much better already and can think more clearly. I honestly think that doing so helped me be far more articulate in my interview yesterday. Plus, I was very energized and expressed my excitement and enthusiasm very clearly. I think sometimes that that alone can make a big difference. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Dec 08, 2021 at 07:10 AM.. |
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Congratulations and good luck!
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Thanks @Bill3!
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They wanted my availability to interview with the company owner this week, so I gave it to my interviewer on Tuesday and I haven't heard anything back. I can mainly only interview around my lunch hour because that's easiest for me, so I gave times around the lunch hour. Now I'm worried that they've hired someone else or lost interest in me.
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We also have a new HR woman at work. FINALLY. She is meeting with every one of us to get to know us and to hear about what's been happening within the company. Most everyone is mentioning the stress level being high, and I did too.
I went so far as to criticize my CEO to her by saying he misrepresents my work to our clients and therefore, our clients misunderstand what it is we do. They expect immediate results because that's the false expectation he has set, and when they don't see those results quickly enough, they start to question the value of our work. Well, if my CEO understood my specific niche within digital marketing better, he would explain that my work takes longer for results to show. I didn't tell her that part, but I did mention that he misrepresents my line of work to clients. I also told her that I am also expected to accomplish tasks beyond my skill level and knowledge and that it creates great stress and frustration for me. Like with one of my clients, I am expected to write sales copy for Web pages, but that really isn't my skill set or my field of expertise. That would be a Web copywriter's expertise, and I am not a Web copywriter. I was never trained to write sales copy for Web pages. It's ridiculous. IF they want me to do that and accomplish it successfully, then PAY for me to take courses at least!!!! I am frustrated even just writing about it. I also spoke of the lack of leadership within my department that has persisted for nearly three years since I was first hired. So, I basically complained to the new HR person without realizing that I was doing so. It probably was evident that I am not happy. It all just kind of came out, and before I knew it, I was telling her a lot of my complaints. And, in my second tenure now - it's been eight months - all I've experienced are headaches with each one of my clients rather than great success. Every client of mine has an issue that I cannot seem to resolve, despite my best efforts. It's depressing and maddening for me, so each day I work is most painful because it's yet another headache and issue that I encounter with my clients. I am SO burnt out in my company. Every day is a massive chore there. Then I go to bed, wake up and have to face the headaches all over again. I feel I am living in a nightmare. I am on edge waiting to schedule this interview. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Yesterday I had to have a meeting with my CEO, the VP of Marketing and the VP of client services about one of my clients whose website is struggling to succeed online. I finally just came out with it and said "their website sucks". I showed my CEO a competitor, whose site is far more built out and far more professional looking to actually gain leads and sales. I told my CEO that my client needs to increase the content on their website in order to even begin to compete online and to obtain sales.
On Monday I have a meeting with said client to discuss a content strategy that I am building out based on keywords with search volume and on competitor sites' content that ranks well in the search engines. My CEO is joining this meeting, and I am NOT happy about that. I mean, I feel like he's placing the blame of their lack of success on ME, when in fact, it's that their site SUCKS and cannot sell products in its current state. I am tempted to tell them that they really need to design the site far better and have a professional come in to help them with that expansion of their product pages. I am just so annoyed at how far my CEO micromanages. I mean, in our meeting yesterday, apparently my CEO was privy to some confusing emails I sent my client regarding their old website still being indexed in Google. Yeah, I got confused about how to handle this issue because they have both websites appearing in Google's index, and there was no clear or easy way to redirect the old site to the new site. My CEO challenged me on my conclusion, which involved deactivating the old website, and I had to defend my stance by saying I consulted internally with our newest team member, who is a bit more senior than myself in our field of expertise and who is more skilled in the technical aspects of our job. I know that redirecting the old site is ultimately the best practice, but I couldn't figure out a way to redirect the site. It's like every little thing now is annoying me in my job - everything. I am really miserable and I cannot shake this feeling, even on the weekend on my days off. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Wow oh woweeeee! I had an AMAZING second interview and this time with the company owner. She said at the end that it was wonderful to speak with me and earlier she had stated that my background and LinkedIn profile are amazing. We had a great casual conversation which was really more of a getting to know you session. She tells me the next step is a more formal interview whereby I would speak with her and the VP together. I have a good feeling about this one, but I don't want to jinx it!!!! I pray I get the final interview.
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I will pray about it as well. Congratulations on the good steps so far!
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