Is it possible to be addicted to a person?

Is that just nuts? Could I be addicted to a person? I definitely have major depression - there is no doubt there but could I also be addicted to a person? See I get SOOOO happy when the person walks in the door that my head nearly pops off. Problem is they aren't treating me well and my depression has gotten out of control lately. I can't seem to claw my way out of it this time.

When I realize that the person is actually hurting me emotionally and try to put my foot down with myself and cut all contact I cave almost within minutes, sometimes in seconds. I nearly have whiplash from looking out the window at work every 2 sec to see if they're driving by. Watch the caller ID with big hopes when it rings.

They are not available to me and I know it. They can't let go of me, I can't let go of them but we never actually have each other. I see them with their other half and its a knife in my heart daily. How do you stop wanting something you WANT? Feels like addiction because it's controlling my life and I am unhappy and can't seem to stop even though I know the root cause. What do I do?

short answer.... Yes

Yes, you can be addicted to a person.

You said, "I see them with their other half and its a knife in my heart daily. How do you stop wanting something you WANT? Feels like addiction because it's controlling my life and I am unhappy and can't seem to stop even though I know the root cause."

To me that sounds like a definition of an addict. Maybe you should see a therapist.

Yes I should. Still looking for one.

Thank you.

I've been through this.
Once on a sexual/emotional connection, and more recently just with a person that I perceive can care about me and can understand me. I.e. give me things that I feel I need.
It hurts when you cannot have them, and obsess about them

It does hurt. And sometimes I just feel like a brainless toy, or worse yet a dog begging for scraps of affection.

Good article (and, apparently, book):

http://blog.beliefnet.com/beyondblue...or-ending.html

I was going to post something on this the other day. I know it has to be possible. Now that I'm on medications and have my thoughts straight I realize that despite my love for this person the relationship is not healthy. He came into my life at a very vulnerable point in my life and made me feel amazing, all my problems went away and I was cured- Just like medication or a drug. I was/am addicted to the way he made me feel. It felt so good. It has taken me years and a 2 hr distance between us to lessen the bond. I finally told him the other night, after he told me he was always here for me, that it was not healthy for me to rely on him and basically cut him off. It was hard to do but so freeing at the same time. I felt like a weight had been lifted off. I finally realized that after I would not be with him my pain was so much worse than before. It got worse everytime, I had to cut it off. He has been one of my best friends for 16 years. So sad. But I need to do what's best for me. Sorry for venting but know you are not alone