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So. I guess I'm an alcoholic or somthing 'cause I'm getting drunk again. I don't know.... I kinda want to stop, just because I can see my life slowly slipping away. I'm only 15. I've been drinking for four years. I've been drinking heavily for the past two years. It's been getting progressively worse. My boyfriend really, really wants me to stop. It's so difficult though. I love drinking. I love how it makes me feel. I love waking up and not remembering what happened the night before... for the most part anyway. I really don't want to go to any meetings, because my parents wouldn't drive me to any meetings, they don't really know about the problem. Nor will they know. Advice? Help? Something... anything....
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my h drinks all the time, morning into night. it is sad for me. H doesn't see what it is doing to himself, nor to me or our life. with my own issues, this isn't discussed and h will not admit any type of problem that he has. i can tell u that for others who care and love u, the drinking is heart-wrenching.
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![]() Trust me, you don't want to continue on that path. I totally understand that you feel as though you can't talk to your parents. I couldn't either when I was your age. Could you talk to a counselor at school? Or, are you close to any of your friend's parents and maybe could talk to them? Or, do you have a "First call for Help" phone line you could call? Wishing you the best, and hoping you find a way to get some help now. It only gets more difficult when you are older.
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I have been thinking more about this and it breaks my heart knowing that you're doing this to yourself, I have a son the same as you and I would hate it if he was this way and if he felt that he could not talk to me. Please try and get yourself some help before it's to late
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here's some good tips about to stop drinking. also you are young and have a wonderful life to look forward to. but our drinking will deny us that.
Alcohol Addiction Treatment and Self-Help How to Stop Drinking and Start Recovery -Overcoming an addiction to alcohol can be a long and bumpy road. At times, it may even feel impossible. But it’s not. If you’re ready to stop drinking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from alcoholism and alcohol abuse—no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. Recovery starts with admitting you have a problem with alcohol. You don’t have to wait until you hit rock bottom; you can make a change at any time. And while there are many effective alcohol treatment options, you don’t necessarily have to seek professional help or go to a fancy rehab program in order to get better. There are many things you can do to help yourself stop drinking and achieve lasting recovery. Alcohol treatment and recovery step 1: Commit to stop drinking Most people with alcohol problems do not decide to make a big change out of the blue or transform their drinking habits overnight. Recovery is usually a more gradual process. In the early stages of change, denial is a huge obstacle. Even after admitting you have a drinking problem, you may make excuses and drag your feet. It’s important to acknowledge your ambivalence about stopping drinking. If you’re not sure if you’re ready to change or you’re struggling with the decision, it can help to think about the costs and benefits of each choice. Evaluating the costs and benefits of drinking Make a table like the one below, weighing the costs and benefits of drinking to the costs and benefits of quitting. Each list can be as long as you like. Do the costs of drinking outweigh the benefits? If so, you may want to consider making a decision to stop drinking. Is Drinking Worth The Cost?Benefits of drinking:
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I can't talk to my parents because... well... they're my parents. I don't want them to think that they can't trust me, or let me leave the house because of my drinking.
I do have a therapist and a psychiatrist AND two counselors at school, but all four of them would tell my parents. That's not going to happen because of what I said before. I have a lot of supportive friends that are trying to help me stop, and they actually help a lot more than anyone else ever has. You guys help too. ![]()
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It is good that you may think you have a alcohol problem. I mean at least you are aware that something may be amiss with your drinking. That way you are looking to do something about it.
I would suggest, other that telling your parents and other helping people, learn about recovery practices like those of SMART Recovery and other recovery tools. SMART ToolsIf you like you can read about the program of AA. That may help too. AA BooksI hope your able to quit drinking because alcohol use can lead to a life of great suffering.
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My son is fifteen... I'd really want to know if he had such an awful problem. But the thing is, I can't imagine how I wouldn't know. Do your parents not smell it on you, or wonder about your nights out, or when you stagger in? If you're having blackouts then it has to be obvious to other people. Perhaps your parents do know on some level, and are trying to block it out. If this is the case then you would be doing them, as well as yourself, a favour by telling them.
I know I'm not one to preach, because I have an alcohol problem myself, (in fact I am only just recently starting to take action to help myself) but please stop sooner rather than later, because it will only get worse. I was just talking to a woman who told me that she started drinking in her teens, and by the time she was in her twenties she'd been raped while unconscious several times. She has two children now, under five years old, and it's only now that she's really getting the help she needed. She said after the first time she should have realised and got help, but she didn't. She found it so hard not to drink while pregnant with the first that sometimes she just fell off the wagon. She was petrified that the child would be born with fetal alcohol syndrome, but thankfully the little girl is well. Once her child was born she felt safe to start drinking again, and before she knew it she was pregnant yet again, with no idea how it happened. She finally told her doctor, and is clean, though as you can imagine her life has been irrevocably altered by what's happened to her. Please, I'm telling you this because it's so important. You say that you like waking up with no idea what you did the night before. You don't want to wake up pregnant, or with a venereal disease. I'm really not trying to give you a scare story here, I literally had this conversation today, and it shook me up. You're still so young, your liver hasn't even stopped growing yet... if you've been drinking since you were eleven or twelve I shudder to think of the damage that you could have done. The good news is that the liver can recover... And if you have so much support in terms of counselling etc, please make use of it. In the end this isn't about pleasing your parents, it's about saving your life.
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