EXTREMELY worried about Bama... :(

Has ANYONE talked with her? Please please tell her that I'd like to hear from her. I'm really worried

well, thanks to Wi_fi I know that she was here recently, but now I'm even MORE worried

Bama, please take care of yourself

Haven't talked with you in a long time ((((Bama))) hope you are surviving TC of yourself, and let us know how you are, ok?

{{{{{{Bama}}}}}} =)

Last we heard, she was sober, but in an abusive relationship, away from family to be with this guy who's hitting her. All we can do is pray. =(

ya - I read about that -- wish there was something I could do

pray pray and pray. at least thats something right?

well, for me, it's "send positive vibes", but close enough...

Oh LMo ((((( LMo ))))) I'm ok, please don't worry. Things are just so very difficult for me right now. I don't have internet access unless I come to my moms and my boyfriend doesn't let me do that very often.

I'm embarassed and sad to say that I relapsed. Justin and me broke up for two days and because I didn't want to feel the pain, I did what I knew what at least somewhat make the pain mild. Did a lot of dope, took Extacy, pain pills, nerve pills, drank, smoked pot. For two days straight, that's all I did. Didn't sleep, didn't eat, just stayed high. We're back together now and although I know this isn't a good relationship for me and I know I'm putting myself in a dangerous situation by being with him, that's the only time I feel even half way complete. So I stay.

I'll be ok... I may not be able to get on here everyday but I think about you guys daily and do miss y'all and hope all is working out well with each of you. I'll check in as much as possible. Please, keep me in your thoughts and/or prayers. They are greatly needed.

The relapse is ok -- you're human -- but PLEASE go to a women's shelter. They can help you with whatever assistance you need to get on your own two feet. PLEASE!

Bama.....don't know what to say. I really don't. Maybe you should think about a treatment center. Your situation is really scary. I'm really starting to fear for your life.

~Rayna

You arent the only on Ray!! I am worried about her too!

Me too. But breaking a cycle she's always known is going to be hard without some outside help.

Bama, you are in all of our hearts, please take care, and please get help, get away from this environment, seek help, perhaps, at a shelter?
I wish for you good health,happiness and healing.
Take care and when you can, keep in touch here.

Love,
Roe

((((((((((( Bama ))))))))))))))

Thanks y'all, I appreciate the kind thoughts and advice. Things are much better right now. Justin and I are seeking therapy TOGETHER and we're working through our issues. He hasn't hit or raised his voice to me in over a week and that's a HUGE improvement. He realizes he has a problem that he carried from his childhood over to adulthood and I realize I have problems as well. So hopefully through this therapy, we'll work through them together and come out stronger and smarter.

Oh that's great news Bama!!! I'm happy for you. =)

Thanks, Rayna. I guess I should mention we're getting married Feb. 14th, also. Some have disagreed with the marriage, but most have been supportive. It's a stressful time preparing the wedding and getting everything together for it, but we're making it through alright. I already have my dress and we have our wedding rings bought and have a place reserved for our reception and wedding. So most of the big stuff has been taken care of. Just got a few more things to do and we'll be ready.

Stacey, call me naive and sheltered, but how is marrying an abusive drug addict going to help break the cycle that you're stuck in?

Bama...

I want to be supportive of your decisions, but in this case, I can't. I think you're making a huge mistake

Good luck to you

I married an drug addict who came close to getting abusive at the end. That's why I left. We were together for a year and a half before we married, and were together 4 months after we married and then I left him. Unfortunatly, we're still married because I'm afraid of him and who knows what he's doing to my already bad credit. Not to mention, how will I get married again if I so choose without getting a divorce first? He also took a bunch of my stuff when I left, including a lot of things were my mom's. Look before you leap. You've known this guy for how long? I'm sorry but I can't be supportive in this either.

What ever you choose bama keep your mind open. With Love wonderouse things can happen!!!! Even if struggel you know your higherpower using or not. He/she is always there. best wishes and prayer to you !!!!!

It's not that I don't believe that people can change. I would wholeheartedly support this if:

1) you have known him for more than a year (6 months, even in the best relationship, is simply too short in my opinion. sometimes it works, but that seems like luck instead of thoughtful decision making)
2) he has been fully respectful to you for at least a year... instead of only a week

People can't change in a week or a month. He BEAT YOU UP just two weeks ago, Bama. I'm sure he's sorry, but... it's scary that he couldn't control his temper. If he couldn't control it then, then "deciding" that he's not going to do it anymore is way too idealistic. It's too much of a risk to you, Bama. I'm worried...

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sorry i was trying to point ot myself and say i dont agree with it either i guess i forgot to add the rest of my statement... sorry guys