[Louemz]

This is even embarrassing to write. As I keep these things confidential in real life due to the humiliation it would cause my partner and myself, I'd really like some input/advice on here.
My partner has a drinking problem. For the past year or so he's been confusing the bathroom for other places in the middle of the night and urinating in the kitchen, in cupboards, on walls, etc. I understand that this is quite a common experience for alcoholics. HOWEVER, last night not only did he urinate in the kitchen after coming home stupiwdly drunk, he also sh**. I wish I could tell you I was joking. This morning he overslept for work and when I woke him up I bought it up he seemed nonplussed. He was more concerned about being late. I'm seriously fed up with this behaviour. Surely this would be a wake-up call? How do I broach the subject with him at home without losing my cool? I'm so angry I don't even want to go home. Our place smelled absolutely rank this morning. Anybody gone through this? I'm so angry and sad.

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by Louemz

This is even embarrassing to write. As I keep these things confidential in real life due to the humiliation it would cause my partner and myself, I'd really like some input/advice on here.
My partner has a drinking problem. For the past year or so he's been confusing the bathroom for other places in the middle of the night and urinating in the kitchen, in cupboards, on walls, etc. I understand that this is quite a common experience for alcoholics. HOWEVER, last night not only did he urinate in the kitchen after coming home stupiwdly drunk, he also sh**. I wish I could tell you I was joking. This morning he overslept for work and when I woke him up I bought it up he seemed nonplussed. He was more concerned about being late. I'm seriously fed up with this behaviour. Surely this would be a wake-up call? How do I broach the subject with him at home without losing my cool? I'm so angry I don't even want to go home. Our place smelled absolutely rank this morning. Anybody gone through this? I'm so angry and sad.

I'd recommend you find support for yourself, ideally, locally. You may also want to check this out:

https://www.robertjmeyersphd.com/craft.html

Best of luck and keep us posted!

[avlady]

i would just tell him about his behavior, maybe he doesn't even know hes doing it. he would be ashamed and embarrassed as he should be.

[Louemz]

Originally Posted by Mygrandjourney

I'd recommend you find support for yourself, ideally, locally. You may also want to check this out:

https://www.robertjmeyersphd.com/craft.html

Best of luck and keep us posted!

Thanks so much for this info. He said he won't be going back to his usual watering hole any time soon, but he has trouble being left alone. I'll see tonight when I get home if he's honoured his word.

[thecrankyone]

My late ex used to pee the bed like a child when he drank. It's a sign of severe drinking. He needs to seek help. My ex's addictions included more than alcohol, but eventually it killed him.

[loveme_or_leaveme]

Originally Posted by Louemz

This is even embarrassing to write. As I keep these things confidential in real life due to the humiliation it would cause my partner and myself, I'd really like some input/advice on here.
My partner has a drinking problem. For the past year or so he's been confusing the bathroom for other places in the middle of the night and urinating in the kitchen, in cupboards, on walls, etc. I understand that this is quite a common experience for alcoholics. HOWEVER, last night not only did he urinate in the kitchen after coming home stupiwdly drunk, he also sh**. I wish I could tell you I was joking. This morning he overslept for work and when I woke him up I bought it up he seemed nonplussed. He was more concerned about being late. I'm seriously fed up with this behaviour. Surely this would be a wake-up call? How do I broach the subject with him at home without losing my cool? I'm so angry I don't even want to go home. Our place smelled absolutely rank this morning. Anybody gone through this? I'm so angry and sad.

Omg...I don't mean to laugh but I had a good chuckle reading this after a very bad day. lol. It really isn't funny though. I would be in a RAGE if I were you. No question. I felt the anger just reading. I don't know how you could manage to keep your cool. Tell him that if he sh*ts in the kitchen ONE MORE TIME, you're done. You shouldn't have to deal with waking up to the smell of fresh poop in the morning. It's absurd. His addiction is affecting your mood's and overall life and it's not worth it.

[Louemz]

Originally Posted by loveme_or_leaveme

Omg...I don't mean to laugh but I had a good chuckle reading this after a very bad day. lol. It really isn't funny though. I would be in a RAGE if I were you. No question. I felt the anger just reading. I don't know how you could manage to keep your cool. Tell him that if he sh*ts in the kitchen ONE MORE TIME, you're done. You shouldn't have to deal with waking up to the smell of fresh poop in the morning. It's absurd. His addiction is affecting your mood's and overall life and it's not worth it.

Don't feel bad. It's so absurd I can completely understand why you'd giggle. He hasn't had a drop since, but it's only been a few days so I won't hold my breath (pun intended).

[loveme_or_leaveme]

Originally Posted by Louemz

Don't feel bad. It's so absurd I can completely understand why you'd giggle. He hasn't had a drop since, but it's only been a few days so I won't hold my breath (pun intended).

It's just such an extreme thing to do lol. Let us know how everything goes! Wishing you the best

I had a friend that did that once, and **** right next to his own bed! He even **** in a parking lot of McDonald's earlier in the night! I couldn't believe it, but he did and his roommates were telling him to clean up the pile of crap! In the morning, he was still passed out on the couch and it took some serious prodding to get him to clean up the pile of excrement! Also, yeah the guy was unfortunately definitely someone who had some issues with alcohol. He even admitted that he had struggled with alcoholism and did lots and lots of crazy and messed up stuff while drunk. I can totally understand why you'd be pissed, I would be too. Crap goes in toilets, not floors!

[Cynical4096]

I *DEFINATELY* would not tolerate this, certainly not as a continuous, ongoing pattern...

[LifeGetsBetter]

Suggest you contact Alanon and get yourself some help. Also inform your husband that you can't live with him under your current conditions. As a recovering alcoholic myself, I know that you can't "fix" your husband. But, there is no way you should tolerate the hell he is putting you through.