Sobering Up Affecting Friendships

Ok so I haven't been drunk for about a month now, and to tell you all the truth it's great, I haven't stopped drinking all together just not getting drunk, any way since I haven't been drinking any more my friends tell me I have changed, that I am not the same any more, all because I dont want to get pissed any more so I am the wrong one, they come to my house and get pissed I just there and play playstation or computer. Has any body else found that when you try to sober yourself up all your drinking buddies turn their backs on you, I mean I'm all for going out and having fun, but do you really have to get pissed? Look I might have a relapse and get drunk but at least I am trying. Why must my friends be this way, I mean I am doing this for me and how do they respond buy making me feel bad just because I don't like getting drunk anymore, I mean take tonight for instance, my one friend brought a bottle of spiced gold to my house by the third glass I had enough, and didn't want to drink any more. What kind of friends like to see another friend relapse and get drunk?

Every sober person I know has said that they don't have the same "friends" that they had when they were drinking. Those people weren't friends they were just there for the booze. As I continue to participate in AA I have found true "friends" who love me for me and not whether or not I'm a party girl.

Your doing the RIGHT thing - don't stop! Be strong!

Tranquility

Yep, I don't have any of the same friends anymore. All my friends now are on the same sobriety road, and I love them dearly! The friends I have today will drop anything if I need help, and since we're all in the same boat, we understand each other. I have friends with around the same amount of sobriety, friends with a lot more sobriety, and friends with a lot less, but we all get it. We all have the same goal, to live sober, happy, joyous and FREE.

My old drinking friends don't have what I want. I had separated myself from them even before I got sober, because I just wasn't happy around them.

When I got sober, people told me all I had to change was everything. I did so willingly, because I never wanted to pick up a drink again.

Its now been over 2 years without a drop, and its been the best 2 years of my life. My friends today are my family, and I wouldn't trade them for anything!!!!

One thing about anyone who is not supportive of us trying to get sober, is that if they can't accept us completely for who we are and what are goals are, do we want to be friends with them anyway? They're probably taking a look at their own drinking. They may be in fear that if you're seeing you have a problem and want to stop, maybe they do too, and they're not ready.

Sobriety is a choice. We choose to put down the drink and drug, and we choose separate ourselves from people who don't support our new found lifestyle. Its about going to any lengths. If you're willing to go to any lengths to get sober, then you'll be willing to let them go with love to walk their own path.

If you choose to continue to put yourself around people who don't support you, those few drinks you have will soon lead you back to drinking just as heavily as you did before. Discontentment leads to wanting to numb out, and maybe your friends don't make you content.

Do want to continue with the controlled drinking? Or do you want to completely abstain?

Only 2 friends stuck around after I quit drinking—and they don’t drink. I find I am much closer to them now. It is rather disheartening to lose “good” friends…