AA calling

I went to the AA meeting earlier this evening. They do have the meetings three times a week at this church. Two of the women that were there gave me their name and numbers to call them?

I'm not comfortable with calling them. I dont feel right doing that.

What did ya'll do when ya'll were given names and numbers and asked to call? Did ya'll call? What did you do?

If you're uncomfortable, I wouldn't call them. I'd maybe go to a few more meetings, get to know them in person better first. I'm not good with phones and calling people. I don't think they'll ask you why you didn't call but if they do, just explain vaguely that you were busy this week or say you "thought about it" but when you looked at the clock it was too late, some vaguely friendly, polite reply :-)

I definitely couldn't start calling people until I had gone to a couple meetings and gotten to know them a little better. My first sponsor had me call 5 women when I was on my second step, to get their concept of a higher power. It helped me learn how to pick up the phone, and made it easier to use the phone when I was feeling squirly. I eventually fell into a niche of women, and those were the women I called. There were a couple friends I made, and we'd talk nearly every day. But it did take some time to feel comfortable, especially when its a stranger. When you go back to the meeting, tell them you thought about calling but were uncomfortable. I'm sure they'll tell you they felt the same way at first. Its just nice to get comfortable with the phone, so that if you feel like drinking, you pick up the phone instead of a drink.

You did it!

I'm still not real comfortable calling other people on the phone, except for my sponsor and one other woman. I just get too nervous. What I have done is exchanged e-mail addresses with a couple of women and we e-mail each other.

But one thing to remember is that if people give you their number they really are willing to listen to you talk, it's part of their way of doing service and staying committed to sobriety.

Glad you made it to an AA meeting.

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Congrats on making it to your first meeting!!! Seems like everyone always seems to forget and look over just how HUGE going to that first meeting is. It is enourmous..... No one in their right mind would ever WANT to go to their first AA meeting, right? Think about it? Back before things started going bad, when life was in fact good, who wanted to go to an AA meeting when we had no troubles in life? That first meeting, for me was the hardest thing I have ever done...... but it later saved my life.

As for calls and calling? I have been given 10's of thousands of names and numbers. I still have them all but almost never call anyone. I didn't call anyone for a year. My hands shook to bad and I was a nervous wreck but some called me occasionally and today I am glad for that.

I try to stay away from advice, we each have to find our on recovery but I would say this....... You need to find what is comfortable for you. I also personally believe that the God of our understanding will provide us with what we need. In other words, you really can't mess this up. Just go to another meeting.... then another..... then another...... one day at a time, life will get better and you will find comfort and smile again..... Promise! Tony

Thank you all for giving me opinions from your experiences and wise words to carry on with.

(((((Thank ya'll))))))))