I quit drinking

several years ago. Cold turkey, no support, had a DUI, and that was all she wrote.

Several MI episodes have booted me into the hospital since then, well more like 15+ in the past 3.5 years. Never reverted back to the drinking, never wanted to.

My husband and I recently (1 year ago) reconciled after a 3 year separation. He still actively drinks, and I'm not thrilled with it, but I'm not downright nasty either.

So, anyhoo, he makes this comment to me "You used to be a fun drunk, now you're a sober prude".

Geez...that can get a gal down!

growing does involve change Best Kids.. you are being strong and doing what tis right for you and many... it takes courage and strength and conviction and belief...

i will to say that you have done well with all you've had to deal with..

Kudos to you for your strength!!!!!!!

I was arrested for DUI in December 2004 - I hired a high-power attorney and got off with a Reckless Driving Charge.

Sadly, I stuck with not drinking for about 6 months.

Then I started back and it seemed even worse than before. I had my last drink 01/26/08 and can honestly say I feel better now than I ever have. Quit cold turkey too - just woke up one day and decided it would be a good idea and I was READY.

Well, we all were probably "Fun Drunks" - LOL! I know I was! I was THE PARTY GIRL. In the small town I live in I was very well known for my ability to be the life of the party.

I don't think it was very nice of him to say that. I don't think you become a "prude" when you quit drinking. Ha! What happens is you actually THINK about CONSEQUENCES of your actions.

I'd just ignore it and continue on your path - don't let it get you down! I'm sure you're not a prude.....it's just NOW YOU ACTUALLY THINK WITH A CLEAR HEAD and, after all you have been through! That is incredible! Stay strong......maybe your sobriety will become contagious to him!

The last place I worked, I worked there for 7 years and I'm always anxious when I start work at a new place and this place was even worse because they invented a job just for me so they didn't know what the job was and if I could do it anymore than I did so the pressure was worse.

Most of the people in the company were young and it was a blue collar company and there were lots of drinkers. At first at all the parties I was a fun drunk; sat on little plastic chairs that broke under my weight, had my non-drinking best friend (who I worked with) ask me "So, what do you think? How are you?" after a party when she and her partner and I and my husband were all out camping near where the party had taken place and I looked at her and said, "I think I'm going to throw up" and ran a little way off into the woods to do that. I did obscene-looking things with corn-on-the-cob and had all the guys shivering crab feast to crab feast. There are pictures too.

I was the life of the party for 2 years or so but then settled down. I got older and it was harder to drink as much, I couldn't physically and I got less comfortable and happy about myself and had more therapy :-) and worked harder in that area and now I rarely drink and can't remember the last time I was drunk. I retired from that company 3 years ago and they're still showing the pictures and talking about my "ways".

I think life gets you one way or the other and gets you in line, with cattle prods or a gentle nudge. Some people have one sort of problem, some have another. I like being a bit older and "out of it" mostly to a place I can reflect on my younger self and just shake my head.

I'd add a snappy comeback to your husband's idiot remark, something along the lines of, "Yeah, and proud of it!" to support yourself and the hard work you're doing.

mybestkids2, good for you for quitting drinking! Sometimes, I think people who drink heavily ridicule others trying to get them to join them in their misery. Maybe your husband wants you to drink in order to relieve his guilt of drinking too much. Don't give in!!! Being sober is much more fun!