[Sabrina]

My anxiety levels are very high tonight.

I can't really discuss why, but I am desperately worried and anxious and I don't know how to sleep.

I am self medicating, not helping me much!

The wind is blowing, really hard, closing the walls in on me.

I feel stifled.

I need my husband.

He can't be here.

I am anxious.

I am desperately worried.

I hate his job!

I have unrelenting hiccups, I can't settle.

I need peace.

When my husband eventually gets home, he needs peace and quiet. I can't present any anxiety whatsoever.

He needs me.

I need me.

I am so lost.

I am scared.

[theotterone]

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time!

Anxiety is hard enough to deal with, but it is harder to deal with alone. Hang in there, we understand and support you!

[Pomegranate]

Sabrina You are in a difficult spot. Trying to pretend to be something you are not - peaceful and without anxiety - for someone else, no matter how much you love and care about them, is not good for either of you in the long run.

If this is an ongoing problem for you, your husband should be aware of it and supportive of any actions you take to get yourself better. If he needs "peace and quiet" when he's home, perhaps he needs some help also for his stress and anxiety. Maybe counselling and/or medication for both of you would be helpful.

You can only be responsible for and take care of yourself. For your husband to expect you to take care of his stress, his anxiety or whatever, is not fair and it's not your job. You can certainly be supportive of him as much as you are able. But if it comes at great emotional or mental stress to yourself then you and your husband, as partners together, need to find other ways for both of you to cope with daily life. If his job is causing him too much stress, he needs to take responsibility for that and get help for himself. He shouldn't be putting any of that on you, especially if you aren't coping well with your own life problems. You are who you are, don't let anyone lay any guilt trips on you, or put any guilt trips on yourself. No one is perfect. Some of us are much more fragile than others. That's just who we are, make no apologies for it.

[susan888]

(((Sabrina)))
I hope you are feeling better now! My husband is gone for work overnight frequently and sometimes I feel like that too. Like I just want to jump out of my skin.

[lynn P.]

I hope you feel better ((Sabrina)). Have you tried deep breathing exercises?

[Sabrina]

Originally Posted by Pomegranate

Sabrina You are in a difficult spot. Trying to pretend to be something you are not - peaceful and without anxiety - for someone else, no matter how much you love and care about them, is not good for either of you in the long run.

If this is an ongoing problem for you, your husband should be aware of it and supportive of any actions you take to get yourself better. If he needs "peace and quiet" when he's home, perhaps he needs some help also for his stress and anxiety. Maybe counselling and/or medication for both of you would be helpful.

You can only be responsible for and take care of yourself. For your husband to expect you to take care of his stress, his anxiety or whatever, is not fair and it's not your job. You can certainly be supportive of him as much as you are able. But if it comes at great emotional or mental stress to yourself then you and your husband, as partners together, need to find other ways for both of you to cope with daily life. If his job is causing him too much stress, he needs to take responsibility for that and get help for himself. He shouldn't be putting any of that on you, especially if you aren't coping well with your own life problems. You are who you are, don't let anyone lay any guilt trips on you, or put any guilt trips on yourself. No one is perfect. Some of us are much more fragile than others. That's just who we are, make no apologies for it.

I need to support my husband and say that he is not in any way at fault. He is doing what he can to earn a living and support my family. My own issues with what he is doing is at hand. I need to deal with that. My husband respects me completely. He is ok with his own stress, I was just trying to vent my own.

[susan888]

Sabrina,

I understand that so well. My husband wishes he could be home every night and when I feel anxious I come here or find other ways to distract myself because the last thing in this world I would want to do would be to make him feel bad for something that he cannot change.

[wendylogan63]

sabrina,
I do the same type of thing. When I feel all torn up inside, I don't usually reach out to my SO, I try not to burden anyone with what is going on inside also some things are just hard to express. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I don't know your situation, I am new here, but I try to keep busy playing pogo, cleaning, walking etc. Hope it's getting easier for you to adjust to the situation.