bicycling past the judging people

I have social phobia, and am used to walking when I do my grocery shopping. Mostly I have had to be with someone when I do this. However, I find when I am on my bicycle, the people that see me, will be further from me, and the "confrontation" will be over faster, so now I have bought myself some bicycle-bags to strap on the carrier. Looking forward to some more independent shopping, and less anxiety-provoking trips.
plus, I will be able to go further and can reach more stores.

I wonder if any of you have some tricks up the sleeve to ease you if you have the same problem as me?

Ramses

that's so awesome, ramses! thank you for sharing that with us!

for some reason, if i have a drink with me at all times it calms my anxiety when away from home. i take on in all stores, offices, etc.

gl and let us know how it's going as you continue!

Hi Ramses,

That is a great idea. I too cycle to the shops and it means that you can cycle passed your neighbours, maybe smile at them - but you don't have to stop!

You don't have to answer questions, struggle for conversation, any of that stuff. It's a winning idea.

I would recommend the smile though, if you feel up to it, or maybe a friendly wave. I have found that this makes me feel good inside too, and I don't feel so much that I'm avoiding people (although of course I am really avoiding them).

The real secret of social phobia IMHO is to get over being afraid of people, but I have never learned that one.

Welcome to the forum!

Cheers, M

Ramses
That is an excellent Idea~! One thing I do is take music with me like a walkman . I sometimes have a hard time if I have to drive to places I am not familiar with so the radio really helps in the vehicle too. I also like Kimmy's idea . I do that too. Or chewing gum. That seems to help with tension sometimes too with me.Hope these ideas help you out.Take care and Good luck!

Hugz~
Bethy

Thanks for the ideas! I don't know about the water, I usually do not feel thirsty when I am away for a short distance. I always wave to those I live with in the group home, but don't really know the other neighbors..

smiling would only be an option if they look friendly and not sour, and I am in the mood for it of course.

I haven't had a portable music device since the tape ages, I will have to think about this one, maybe buy an iPod or something like it.. I don't want to look awkward, but the music might help me...