Judging others?

do we spend more time judging others than we should? how do we judge them? is it based upon our own belief system, which so many of us think is the only one and therefore we separate and outcast them? or is it by the rule of kindness and acceptance we ourselves ask for from others?

perhaps we lose so much time in comparisons, judgments and competitions that we forget to take care of our own needs and those of our families?....

is it possible that we spend so much time in negative mind frames that our faith begins to work against us?

we can develop our inner peace to a point of confident assurance that our own beliefs are the tools we find which work for us and find total contentment in that soothing relief..

if we spend too much time in thoughts about the failings and shortcomings of those around us, we will have that much less time to feel capable of feeling the loving healing of our chosen beliefs...

best wishes and OM to all

My mom always told me that some people judge other's because they feel bad either about themselves or something else, and it makes them "feel" better by making another person feel bad too...

I have never understood that way of thinking, but I have seen that behavior practiced a lot lately and have been a victim of it myself.

I don't know if the other person feels any better, but they certainly succeed in making me feel bad .

But now that I think about it, those people are also the same people who I see treating others that way too.

Maybe they will never feel really happy. I just wish they would leave the rest of us alone, and not make it their lives work to make others feel the same way.

It is much harder to work at a relationship, that encourages EACH person involved to grow in a positive way. Those types of relationships threaten people whose only real need, and consequently only real goal, is that they feel that they are better than others, not better with others.

Seems like those types of people are the ones always judging others, but are unable to see the flaws in themselves. Kind of like the pebble in someone's eye vs. the rock in your own

thank you Danailla and all who read.. i know you (Danialla) understand my point of view that acceptance of others is conditional upon our own self acceptance.. when we strive and reach for higher planes in our spiritual journies, we come to understand that self healing is contingent upon the basic consideration of the spiritual welfare of those around us.. higher learning means higher understanding of the damaging effects of self or other harm...

i pray we all may search for higher understandings of our own place in our self, our community, our world, and our universe.. we have the power to uplift each other positively..

blessings always

"comparisons, judgments and competitions"

we are all the same
we all matter
everyone counts......
i know you believe that ((TY))

"i pray we all may search for higher understandings of our own place in our self, our community, our world, and our universe.. we have the power to uplift each other positively.."

in peace......................

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nowheretorun said:
...understand my point of view that acceptance of others is conditional upon our own self acceptance.

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So very true, and for those of us "who are our own worst enemies", self acceptance is soooo very difficult.

a peaceful path is the only way to higher understanding.. if we are challenged to be peaceful it is an opportunity to re-word our thoughts into expressions of kindness and healing rather than anger or harm (including war).. the transformation of words forces our mind to transform our thoughts.. a very healing exercise

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nowheretorun said:
...understand my point of view that acceptance of others is conditional upon our own self acceptance.

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So very true, and for those of us "who are our own worst enemies", self acceptance is soooo very difficult.

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self acceptance and other acceptance work together in a spiritual chemistry that allows us to grow as a whole individual who is also a productive member of our society..

to accept others for who they are is a great act of kindness.. likely, when we offer kindness to others we will receive the same in return... a self healing formula

Agreed, but it is easier for me to offer tons of kindness to tons of others, but I am unable to accept any in return.

I guess I'm still fighting "the war" and trying to keep myself safe.

((Angel)) ive witnessed your helpful offerings here at PC.. it is very hard to always be 'on' .. you have the healing spirit.. give yourself time to grow.. measure the distance you've come and remember the 'war' (call it a struggle?) is not over yet..

best healing thoughts to you always..

Thanks and Hugs, Angel

I read the title of this & had a very serious thought come to mind........something that I think is very important to keep at the top of our thoughts.

We do not judge others......we do not judge people......we can judge actions or thoughts as being right or wrong in our sight, but as for judging the person whose actions or thoughts they are.....it is not our place to judge....that is God's place....we are only human with human thoughts that know nothing about the hearts of others......that is why it's important to only judge the thoughts & actions & not the person themselves.

It may seem like a very subtle difference......but it's like with our children.....when they do something wrong......we do not dislike our children for doing something wrong.....but we can definitely not have to like what they did. When we change our focus from the person to the thing.......that is when we open ourselves up to being able to care about others even when we don't like the way they act.....it doesn't mean that we want to become close friends, but with a change in attitude, it creates a more positive attitude toward life.

Just a thought,
Debbie

(((((((eskielover))))))) Very well said my friend! I very much agree with your post and your example illistrated my feelings on this perfectly.

thank you Debbie, your thoughts are true.. with a more positive attitude toward life we may discover possibilities which are harder to imagine in our less healthy moments...

may we all enjoy healthier moments