[Lara86]

Hello everybody,
Im seeking ur help and advice in my problem,that i really dont know in what category i should keep it...
Im feeling worried and under tension almost all the time,In holidays or in work time..it doesnt matter what time it is...Im always Worried!!....
I dont feel relaxed at all,even if im relaxing infront of a sea,listening to a soft music Or watching breath taking sunrise..I never feel relaxed or calm..its really frustrating when u see all the ppl relaxed in times and tensioned in times..But you are just a restless thing that is stressed and worreid all the time...!!!!!!
I never feel comforted towards anything,or happy after a a good outing with friends or a vacation by the sea side....Im akways having this feeling inside me that i want to drift away of ppl cuz being with them keeps me worried and tensioned....
When mum asks me to get something from the super market,Or when even i talk with a waiter alone ...I panic..talking with strangers pull on my nerves...I started to avoid goung out so as to avoid talking with the cab driver or any stranger in the street,I consider going out now as something tiring !!!!.....I feel a bit bomforted when im not alone or someone is going out with me.....
I hate accusing myself of having a weak personlity!!!!I really hate it...and i dont want to make ppl around me to notice that im having a social phobia or something...Cuz im already known among my friends that im a very stable-minded girl and thoughtful....!!!
What should i do to myself????How should i regain the simple word"Comfort" to me life again???How should i regain feeling relaxed or content??????and how should i feel calm when talking to strangers alone????
Sorry 4 that toooooo long post...But im really wishing to offer me some help cuz im suffering from that 5 years ago and cant get a way out....
Best wishes...Lara...

[basm101]

hi,
I feel like this sometimes too. Even doing something normal you feel on edge like you are about to sit a big exam or something. However with treatment for GAD/panic/social phobia you will get through it and be back to your normal self.

The best thing to do is talk it through with your doctor and you will feel better just from feeling you are doing something to help yourself. Lots of people have anxiety and it doesnt change your personality ! I feel I am quite an outgoing, sociable person although sometimes my anxiety tries to turn me into a recluse.

Good luck, you dont have to feel this way as anxiety is very treatable. Dont suffer in silence !

[AngelwithOCD]

Hi Lara,

Have you thought about seeing a doctor and telling him about your tension? There are meds that they can prescribe that will help you relax, and no one but you (and your doc) has to know that you are taking them. Just because you are tense or anxious does not mean that you do not have a strong personality. It doesn't make you weak. (I have a lot of anxiety problems and I am not weak). Please seek help from your doctor, you'll be glad that you did. Feel free to PM me of there is anything that I can do for you, or if you just need to talk!

Take Care,
Angel

What helps me when out in public is taking with me something from home that comforts me. For example I have a small bead pillow (its one of thiose cented eye bead pillows you find in the bath and shower sections and stores for relieving headaches and stress.) My past therapist SKR gave it to me. I take that thing everywhere with me. its always in my backpack. that way when I am out in public and start having a heard time I go to the bathroom and take a few minutes in the stall feeling and holding it and reconnecting with being calm and mentally aware of my surroundings in other words grounding myself. Other times when I know I don't have time to "escape to the nearest bath room I slip my hand into my backpack alone or under the disguise of locating a pen or pencil and so on and take a few quick seconds to hold the bead pillow inside the back pack.

[heartspace]

Lara I agree, talk with your doctor. You needn't suffer this way. Sadly I can see your anxiety is so bad that my saying that you shouldn't worry about talking to strangers because you seem like a very nice person just won't be enough.
hang in there. Things can get better.

[Lara86]

Hello,
Thanks For everybody who really cared and spared thier thoughts in helping me through my problem,Ur replies helped me to find certain things in my personality...Im trying these days to solve the anxiety problem and i may ask for somebody's help......
Thanks again for everybody,thanks for ur time and being by my side whenever i need to.,
Lara...

[(JD)]

I agree with seeing a doctor... but an MD might be a good first choice, if it's been a while since your last physical... best to rule out any physical cause first. Try mindful breathing. It's free, and often helps to center yourself. Plus, as we become anxious, we tend to hold our breath...and you probably know this also raises our anxiety feelings! Reestablishing good, slow, deep breathing might be beneficial for you. TC!

[Lara86]

Yah Sky,I will get to try these breathing methods,It may help me out this annoying trouble...Thanks alot for both ur time and ur help......
Lara