[skippidoo]

I have been battling social anxiety and depression for along time, I am 34 now and am on Zoloft, I feel a bit better, able to function at least but I have no no no no motivation to be independent, I don't know what I want.... career wise, I have very few friends, I work, come home and drink then go to bed, I have no motivation to do anything. I get upset a lot because I feel I am letting my life slip away and I am not fighting for it, but I don't know what I want. I am eating sleeping working breathing day in and out and that is it. I am waiting for someday I will snap up and realize ahhhhh I want to be this or that or something. I am frustrated, been to a psychiatrist but I don't feel it really was getting me anywhere, I felt nervous to go there and I didn't feel I really got much from the experience besides a prescription for Zoloft. I feel like my mind has been worse since I took Effexor a few years back, it made me very very depressed after awhile and angry (very unlike me). Where do I start here to get my life back before I am 80 and alone.

[glok]

Welcome to the Community, skippidoo. What was your life like before? What is it you want to get back?

You can start with what you do not want to be part of your life. This article may help you find what you do want in your life:

Dimensions of Wellness

Once you have an idea about what you do want, you have to set manageable goals to acquire them. Perhaps, professional help would be useful?

I wish you well.

[eeyorestail]

Hi skippidoo--

First of all, hugs! I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

I wonder if you've ever looked into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy--not even necessarily the therapy, but just resources about it. Part of it has to do with figuring out what you value in life and making goals to go after it. When I feel sort of lost and unmotivated I look back at some of my ACT materials to help me decide what it is I want to pursue in my life.

[thickntired]

Hi and welcome. I have very few friends because people make me anxious. When you drink at night do you mean alcohol? I am in recovery and none of my meds worked when mixed with alcohol (which is a depressant). Maybe if you break your goals down into smaller more attainable steps. Like instead of making a firm career choice list areas you'd find enjoyable as jobs. Take the list and research pros and cons. For me motivation is something I have to work for and it's not going to happen overnight or all at once. You're at a great age to start planning a path Imo. I didn't get married until I was 37.
Peace!

[dwfieldjr]

Hello skippidoo welcome to pc. I don't have many friends anymore either. Just all kinda came crashing down at 23 years old.

[Marg5]

Hello, losing motivation can be a sign of depression. Maybe, the routine (or rut) you are in is not helping you to get out of the depression. Being in the same environment(s) does not help lift the depression. I know 'getting out' is sometimes easier said than done because maybe a). You don't feel like going out and/or b). You have no one to go out with. If necessary, do anything to break away from the routine, even if it is just going for a walk in the park alone. Don't sit in the house alone.... good luck. I think, I hope you will find your motivation again.

[sonnynotsunny]

Hello skippidoo! Sorry you’re going through a tough time. And hope you get your motivation again and all these become history. Good luck.