Fear of others dying

Blair321 · Mar 06, 2017, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by RxQueen875

My mom passed away when I was 9 and after that I feared everyone I loved would die. I read a horoscope one time that said something bad was going to happen on a certain day. Well that day my dad was leaving to go up north. I held on to him and tried my all to get him to stay home. I was convinced he was going to die.

Have you lost someone close to you or had trauma? I think this fear is common in people that have.

Yes I have.. my birth mother killed herself several years back

Mar 06, 2017, 09:34 PM

I echo what others have said about this being a part of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - especially if these thoughts are intrusive.

I have intrusive thoughts of my loved one's in horrible accidents and disasters. If my son is late to a meeting with me I panic that something has happened. My daughter is late to return a call and I can't help but think something is wrong. etc.

CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) has helped with this immensely.

bornunderabadsign · Mar 07, 2017, 12:01 AM

I started to fear the death of people I cared about when my Memaw first started to have major health problems over ten years ago. After she died everything changed. She was the uniting force in my family and after she passed no one really kept in touch.

Two of my best friends have past. One in a motorcycle accident and the other because of a bad heart. I think it is because I have been touched by loss as everyone does eventually and my gut reaction is to protect the people I have left. I have two brothers who are in poor health and one of my parents has been on the brink of it for a while now.

I understand your fear. I'm afraid too. I wake up in the middle of the night to check to make sure the people that I live with are still breathing. I have to know or else I panic.

*Laurie* · Mar 07, 2017, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Prism Bunny

I get physical ill over the thought of someone close passing away because I have what they call Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder. What makes me fear it, even more, is the constant talk from my mother who truly believes she is dying or will die soon, despite any evidence of declining health outside of aging, and she tells me every chance she gets to give me advice on what to do when she passes away.

"Make sure to delay the 911 call, be sure to take my jewelry off, and grab all my belongings in my room before people try to take anything from you." I know it by heart now at this point.

But before everyone says their opinion, please read why she is like this:

Possible trigger:

My mother lost her husband, my step-father, three years ago when he had a major heart attack in the bathroom. He was never unhealthy, kept himself in shape, and was a sweet guy. He had been coughing all morning and said his chest was a bit on fire. My mother rushed from the bed to her husband when she heard loud thuds, and he was just laying there crumpled on the floor. He was gone before the medics arrived. He was 54 years old.

So, my mother wants to join him and be free from this life.

Thank you for anyone who read it.

It sounds like your mom has PTSD from her husband's sudden, traumatic death.

That said, it can get really stressful when a parent does to you what your mom is doing. My mom did the same thing to me, all of my life. She did have health problems, and she must have been terribly afraid of dying, but it was obsessive with her. She'd go over with me the steps to take when (not IF) she died, as though her death was imminent at any moment...over and over and over. Who I was supposed to call, what possessions to grab 'before anyone else got there', and so on and on. The strange thing was, she also threatened suicide fairly frequently. I guess she was obsessed with her own death, and it really scarred me with regard to my own mental health.

My mom went on about this stuff for 40 years. When she finally did die, I was sad, but it was almost a relief because at long last I didn't have to listen to her death-threats and 'if I die's' anymore. When she died, I could let all the 'if's' go.

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