What do you do about nosy neighbors?Busy Bodies

I live in elderly housing and believe me this place is no palace.Some of the busy bodies around her have to go and report everything to the land lady which gets me mad and anxious.How do you cope with busy bodies?It is none of there business what I do but they seem to think it is.I think some of them are just so bored they dont know what to do with themselves.I know what keep your traps shut.I could never file a complaint on anyone except for once because one of my neighbors had a gun he waved it right in front of me in my apt.He had his own mental illness's Can you belive this one ,one time my land lady actually wanted me to spy on one of my neighbors I did nothing of the sorts.I keep to myself I know when not to open my mouth but this is getting to be ridiculous you cannot even breathe without someone knowing about it ,which causes me to have anxieties.No I cannot move,moving makes me more anxious.A friend just recently tried to help me out by bringing my trash to the dumpster I cannot walk that far some busy body went and called our land lady to complain about it.I can onlyb imagine the look on our land ladies face when she got that call now my friend cant bring my trash out anymore.Are these people so bad off they have to make it miserable for everyone else?I wish they would mind there own business and yes I was in trouble for coughing ya someone actually called her because I was coughing in the middle of the night,

I live in an area where there are a lot of older folks. So all of this is familiar to me. I don't speak, or in any other way, have anything to do with anyone beyond saying hello if someone says hello to me when I'm out walking our dog. And, over time, I think people have gotten the message & they leave me alone.

One woman pretended to be my friend said one thing but meant another. She knows every ones business including people who dont even live in these apts.I try to avoid my neighbors if I can but when they have to go and complain about every little thing it just ticks me off.my friend was trying to help me and some crab had to go and report her for takin g out my trash.Since when is taking out some ones trash against the law?

fortunately I've never had to deal with this.

I've lived in a few areas in my life- some with really noisy/ annoying naybors, but not like that

I'd say i've been quite lucky

because I don't tend to get involved in what they're doing, I guess they don't with me

Neighbours can be really annoying, xmascarol. I'm so sorry you have to put up with them. They sound really obsessive. I'd suggest to just tell them that you want to be left alone, since they don't seem to understand this is bothering you. It may create more conflict, perhaps. But I think you have every right to stand up for yourself. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you

Sounds like your neighbors there are very bored xmascarol. I can relate to this. Every apartment complex I have lived in has had at least one busybody causing me grief and others as well. The last place I lived in had a bored person who would cross the parking lot to make conversation that was passive agressive. I decided i couldn't change him. I just kept my head down and avoided encountering him. He did catch on. If there is any comfort in this I think it is really common.

You are being a good neighbor but people who make others uncomfortable or gossip are not. Remember you are an appropriate, good neighbor when you start to feel anxious.

I have not encountered this being done to me to my knowledge, but I admit I am one to stand and observe things through my own window. But, I don't live in the best of neighbourhoods and feel a need to be hypervigilant and this includes observing what my less than savoury neighbours do. Yep, I have informed my property management on those things that concerned me most - like domestic disturbances and situations. I also have the police communications line and 911 on speed dial. I have this need on account of my anxiety to be a step ahead of what is going on. I have even invited police to sit and enjoy a coffee with me while surveiling the drug house across the street. They didn't appreciate my humour but I was half completely serious.

This reminds me of a movie I actually like to watch called "Doc Holladay", it takes place in a small town and one of the charectors said, "Everyone knows your business in this town, heck you can't even poop without everyone knowing what color it is".

You know when you cannot even go out your door without someone looking at you it is pretty annoying,they even watch me when I go out to my doctors ,well most of them know about my mental illness but they dont care.they reported me a couple of times. I stay to myself if I can,I dont gossip because it isnt right and you can get into a loads of trouble by doing so.

Lol on the poop that is what I always say you cant even fart without someone knowing it,lets see if they complain about that....

I have busybody neighbors who keep our house(especially me) under their monitoring almost all the time. So when i walked in to an area that can be seen by them, they will start to mention my name and do "commentary", sometimes even resort to mocking, ridiculing. I've alr had enough of that and decided to move out.

That is terrible people need to mind there own business.We feel it more I think because of our anxieties and depression