[alwaysonhold]

4 months ago i found out i was pregnant. i have a history of fertility problems so despite the fact that we weren't trying to get pregnant i was overjoyed. they were watching the pregnancy closely. after three successive ultrasounds showing the baby had a strong heartbeat and was growing well they spaced my appointments out to every 2 weeks. during that time the baby died. i had no idea. when i went for the next ultrasound i found out that while i was thinking of names and wondering if i was having a girl or boy the baby was already gone. they couldnt get me in for a d and c right away so i had to walk around pregnant but not pregnant. its all over now, i'm healing physically (i hope) but this morning and right now, as a matter of fact, i feel like im having a heart attack. i cant get in to see the doctor until tomorrow but they think this is anxiety. please if theres anyone there can you tell me what you think? my heart is racing and i feel like im dying. the obgyn office is saying its anxiety but im dizzy and scared. and i feel shaky. im afraid im having a heart attack. i smoked 3 cigarettes yesterday. my first in many many years. so of course im worried theyre killing me too. im not normally like this. im alone at home and scared and really need someone to tell me whats going on. i feel like my body cant do anything right. i am so broken.

[sabby]

(((((( always )))))))

First let me say how very sorry I am for your loss. I'm sure it's heartbreaking for you and there is no wonder you are feeling anxious and upset.

Very often anxiety can feel like you are having a heart attack. Shortness of breath, light headedness, even pain in the chest area radiating to your arms are all common signs of an anxiety attack. BUT - you should be seen by either a doctor or a visit to the ER to rule out anything else it could possibly be.

We at PC cannot diagnose you.....please please, go to the ER with these symptoms and be tested to make sure there is nothing else going on with you medically. They can help you through the anxiety if that is indeed what it is and they can make sure your heart is in tact (physically of course).

I wish you well always.....please take good care of YOU!! Let us know how you are doing ok? And of course, welcome to PC!


sabby

[Perna]

{{{always}}} hope you are feeling better.

Anxiety can be common after miscarriage: http://www.healthcentral.com/depress...160453-66.html

I would see a counselor or call and speak directly to your doctor instead of his staff and not accept an "only anxiety" response over the phone not from the doctor!

Welcome to PC always. Sorry to hear of your loss. I'm glad you posted. Lots of supportive help around here for you to lean on. Sabby and Perna have given you very wise advice. A visit to the ER or call to your doctor are your best options. Hopefully you have someone who can take you. Meanwhile try to stretch out your breathing. Focus on your breathing for awhile and do your best to relax. Just breath until it slows down and you start to feel some of the other symptoms pass.

Hope you feel better soon. At very least this is a sign you need extra support coping with your loss. Hopefully your obg will be able to put you onto some good supports.

((((hugs always))))))

[Susan27]

welcome and i'm so sorry for your loss

what you described sure feels like anxiety and with good reason but you always need to have it checked out by an m.d. just to rule out any physical problems.

take care of yourself!!

[alwaysonhold]

thank you for all the advice. i went to see my ob. he gave me a referral to get an echocardiogram to rule out a heart problem, but also gave me xanax and paxil to treat the anxiety. the paxil is supposed to be an every day thing but he said it wont do anything for a few weeks. i've never heard of medicine taking that long to work. he told me to take the xanax in the meantime whenever i feel really bad. now i'm dreading it happening again. i'm afraid of that feeling coming back and even more afraid the medicines he gave me wont help me. every time i'm home alone i feel sick and nervous. my husband hasn't exactly been supportive. less than a week after the surgery he said he wasn't sure if he could be with me much longer because i'm very "needy". it felt like i was being punched in the stomach. i don't want anything right now beside a shoulder to cry on. and to sleep. i haven't asked him for much except emotional support. apparently thats too much.

[sabby]

((((((( always )))))))

Sounds like one thing is running into another with you and it's all bringing on this anxiety and thoughts that are difficult for you.

Most antidepressants as Paxil take 4 to 6 weeks to build up in your system to be affective. The xanax in the meantime is an anti anxiety medication that will work immediately after you take it (within 10-15 minutes most times). Paxil also has an anti anxiety affect.

I know those anxiety attacks are horrid to go through. The xanax should help tremendously and when the paxil kicks in hopefully you won't need the xanax anymore. Most anti anxiety meds can be habit forming, so thats probably why the doc doesn't want you on them for too long.

I'm sorry your husband is not being supportive. I'm sure its a terrible blow to you. Is it possible that he too is feeling the loss and not dealing well with it? It's hard for men to talk about such things sometimes and they tend to bottle it up and it comes out in other ways. Remember that men think of themselves as "fixers" and when they can't fix a problem, it's very frustrating to them.

I don't know if thats the case with your husband or not, but I just wanted to give you something to think about.

I do hope the meds help you with your anxiety and depression soon. Try to remember to breathe deeply and slowly.....it helps clear the body and mind and gives you something to concentrate on aside from the atttack. Wishing you well with the echo too!

Take good care!


sabby