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Jan 16, 2009, 10:49 PM
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I have this strange feeling that everyone hates me. this feeling has been around for as long as i can remember. it caused me to avoid being around other people. could that just be some kind of anixity disorder thing or could everyone just not like me?
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Jan 17, 2009, 01:30 AM
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((((((((((((((( AshesOfLove )))))))))))))))
It sounds like an anxiety thing to me, I really used to suffer with that feeling myself. Do you see a T? Talking with my T has helped me see that just because I feel something doesn't make it true and that my problem stemmed from anxiety. 
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Jan 17, 2009, 07:39 AM
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Jan 17, 2009, 09:55 AM
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Does it help when you get reassurance? You know, when you point blank ask people if they hate you and they say no. Gimmeice—my T says the same thing. FEELING does not equal FACT. But it is a really hard lesson to learn! Don’t know if I’ll ever get that one down. 
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Jan 17, 2009, 10:50 AM
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hi ashes and welcome to pc
! it could very well be that it's your perception being skewed as opposed to people not liking you. like ice said, feelings are not facts. and yes anxiety can play a part in this cause you already have a preconceived notion of the outcome. i'd try a little adventuring "outside the box" with people you feel safer with. see if they perceive you the way you "see" yourself. a good friend or a family member you trust to open up with first. i'm sure that everyone doesn't not like you. everybody has something in common with other people no matter who they are. have you a therapist you can run this by with? they often can help us untangle false beliefs we have. hope this helps you.
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Jan 17, 2009, 12:50 PM
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Ashes, you already got some good replies. Going along with what others have said already, if you think something, it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Try changing your thoughts about it or at least challenging your thoughts on it? I can enter a room thinking that people won't like me so then I can act guarded and unfriendly, people will respond inkind and then I can pick up on everything that confirms my beliefs. I can also go into a room and think that people will like me, I will act friendly then and people will respond to me inkind and I will pick up on things that confirm my beliefs.
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Jan 17, 2009, 01:40 PM
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Hi Ashes.
Those kinds of thoughts/beliefs do create anxiety and cause us to avoid. For me, it is part of my Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms and learning more about those thoughts is what I'm doing with my psychotherapist. I remember the first time someone told me that just because I think it, doesn't make it true.. even if I believe it and I feel it is correct. It is still, in the end just my thought.
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