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so i need help. im not sure wats wrong wit me but i get these angry outburst over little things. my girlfriend said something really small to me and i made it such a big deal. i got so pissed like i do on other occasions. i seem to black out cause i dont care about anything and say things i really dont mean.and i dont remember some of it and then realize a while later wat i did was wrong. i get in this really crazy mood where i curse and seem to hate the world. i get really depressed and i dont know wat to do. im afraid the next time something bad might happen. cause i mean there are times where i get into theses moods and make irrational decissions where the cops have to get called. can someone help me figure out wats wrong wit me.

My ex-husband had this problem. He told me he saw red and lost all control. He once told me to leave because he was afraid he would hurt me. He became physically abusive and I had to get a restraining order, but this forced him to get help. He now thanks me, he has a therapist and is doing great with his anger. We are now close friends and I'm glade he got help. You are not alone you just need to learn how to manage it. There is help for you, try to find a therapist that specializes in anger management. Before you get yourself in trouble!

Hello crazyscared, I agree that you might want to see a therapist, maybe you could learn to control these outbursts.

Sometimes things that happen or things that people say remind us of past events that were very stressful or frightening to us, and we cannot really tell the difference between a present danger and a past one. There are reasons why a brain might need to identify a possible danger very rapidly, and it relates what is happening now to what happened before in order to identify the present event. But that reaction also has dangers, because it can be mistaken. A person can learn to take a little more time to see if something is a danger or not. It is not easy to do that but it can be done.

Most definitely