Social phobia

I think I may suffer with a social phobia of sorts. I tense up and become shy when I am around other ppl. I need to take my medication in order to feel calm around them. I cancel meetings with friends or appts due to anxiety.

Zen ,,, I have always pushed myself >> sometimes slowly ,,, to overcome the lack of ability to understand the why >> as other peeps want to bring me into or find time to know me .... * This is what I called Forced compliance . >> It won't kill me ,, so I try it .

Good Luck .

WMD.

zen can totally relate to canceling meetings,etc due to the anxiety. i can't make plans too far ahead cause the tension builds up just knowing i've made a committment. i'm not shy at all but still have to be careful to not make appts.too much ahead of time. i'm working on it but it's really strange cause there's no reason for me to be anxious at all.

Hi Zen, I had to overcome this. Mine had to do with low self worth, weak personal boundaries, repressed feelings and lack of social skills. I was able to work through all of these things and I am much better now. You need a plan to work through this stuff (determine what the issues are, understand the issues well, then problem solve)...........

Hiya! I think I have it too, even though I've never been diagnosed. It's probably because I haven't left to do anything for months. I used to abuse Ritalin to get over it in high school, but once it stopped working, I had nothing left. Now I sit in my house, afraid to get into a college or get a job. Even if I did, I'd be so terrified of the people around me that I'd question why I'm even there.

But I feel like I would be so awesome if I didn't have these issues.

What kind of medication do you take?

I feel the same way but I am in college. I'm on mood stabilizers and mixed mania medications....and anti-anxiety med. .

I just become overwhelmed with insecurities when I am around alot of ppl for instance at college. I just feel a need for privacy...space...

Are you able to get online classes? That helped me a lot to get through high school, especially since I got to do class alone. No one to look over my shoulder and see what I'm doing. That could probably just be avoiding the problem though...

((((((ZEN888))))))

I just wanted to say that i know what your going through right now, I went to a community college and dropped out after two days because i have extreme fears of being around people, or being afraid that I was going to have to speak in front of everyone, EtC....I just felt like i was going to have panic attacks in class...But somehow I just barely Controlled it.....So since it was too much for i dropped out and now Im looking into online school for an Associates Degree in Medical Assisting, which is perfect for me...I have my space, my own pace and time frame for my work, etc. and I know that one day i will have to face my fears but in the mean time im working on it... so maybe you should look into online shcool if possible! Just a suggestion! Good luck with shcool and everything!!!! Please let me know how it goes and if you successfully cope with it or whatnot!

I withdrew from a course today. I didnt realize what an affect my medication had on my brain's ability to function early in the morning. I feel like a loser because I had group assignments that were about to start up and I feel like I have failed my group members some how. I have thoughts that they will judge me harshly. I spoke to a therapist and she said to just say..... "I have given it alot of thought and this was the best decision for me to make....and I realize that this is going to inconvenice you (group members) and that there will have to be adjustments made by the teacher.

I feel like loser. Like I cant get anything right.

((Zen)) I had to take a break from college for a while because my paranoia was acting up. Its okay to take a break, you dont have to feel bad about dropping a class, I've had to do that to but in the long run its one of the best things for me. I guess I think of it like Im helping myself and thats all that matters. Once again I say you are not a loser, dont ever think you are just because you cant complete something... dont put yourself down... if you ever want to talk about school or need help let me know Ive been in college for 3 years now and Im alway willing to help.

I do this too. If asked in advance I have too much time to worry and back out. I'm much better if asked on the way.

Because this topic is called social phobia i post here I hope it`s okay even though my problem is not exactly that of the person that wrote this topic.
I in generel can`t talk to other people except some friends and close family members, without getting nervous and panic. But of course, in life i have to. Normally I just avoid social situations or try to keep them at a minimum. At school I say as little as possible, I avoid answering the phone at home and if i do i`ll just say " yes?" so the people have to talk first and i can find out who it s and wht the person wants. Like this I`m getting along pretty well but soemtimes there`s a pont where I just have to go and talk and do more.. and I don`t know how to handle my anxiety. At the moment I actually should ( I have to do it from school so no chance to get away without doing it) organize myself an internship ( is that the word?! My mother tongue is German and I don`t know if it`s the right english word) in any place/ company etc. I like, for a week in september. It is meant to show us how having a job will be later etc. so fr so good, but: I just can`t! I`m too afraid even to only call somewhere and ask if they have a place for me. Not talking about the interview and really working with all those people I don`t know.. I just don`t know what to do to overcome my fears. I really need to get this done soon as many companies don`t offer this at all and all students in my grade have to do this at the same time so there won`t be too many opportunities left if I wait too long. Any ideas/ tips on how I could do this? My mom said she couldn`t call there instead of me.. which is clear of course but I don`t think I myself am able to organsie this.

Yes i have a form of Social Phobia(s)

I cancel a lot of nights out because of this. I get really sick(but never been sick), I also get a racing heart and i start panicking about everything and anything. My mates are dead understanding about it, but i feel like i am letting them down by not going out. I am really nervous when we go to night clubs. I don't mind going, i just don't like dancing as i am in the proess of losing weight and have big weight issues. This is the main factor i think. So i take loads of photo's and get a good few drinks in me and i am fine. I love watching everyone else dance and my photo's are always good. But i stress out so much that i am really ill with stomach cramps and upset stomach this is before i go out. Then when i am out i am fine it just takes a while for me to be ok!!

I find i am more nervous when i am in a social situation where i am either the centre of attention or when i am in a close space with people. I was pulled up onto the dance floor and i was nervous like you would not believe. I was so nervous i could not enjoy myself, my mates were trying to dance with me and i was like a stone. My best mate hauled me off teh floor and got me a drink and we just sat and chilled. I was thankful for her.

Hope this helps a wee bit, i think its natural to feel a bit anxious when i social situations but its how you deal with them that makes you think about it