Ways in which you feel misunderstood for having ADHD?

I feel like other people judge me for not just pushing through and completing tasks. I'm in my twenties. It was a different time back then where adults from older generations come from. Everything was about working hard, and if you didn't work hard - you were pretty much useless or you got whatever you deserved.

Probably that's sounding harsh.

But anyways. Yeah.

Sharing stories I find often helps. anyone else out there?

And anyone else who knows how to cope with it?

I know I have potential.. amazing potential.. but I can't I just can't and I don't know why..

I don't go to school like half of the time and don't even realize how much school I've missed. I don't study at all and I shut down when I'm bored.

Right now I'm cramming for my finals and I feel amazing because I'm stressed out and stress/pressure to get stuff done keeps me going. I do really well under pressure.

I'm procrastinating as we speak. But you know what I'm going to do?.. I'm gonna study right the **** now my break is over after studying and studying I don't care if I have to sleep on the desk that's my bed now. I have never had this attitude towards this because I DON'T WANT A REGULAR JOB. Sure I can't make loaaaads of money by doing labor which is so easy because it doesn't involve studying but it's so boring and the people are boring and aaaah.. right now.. right now ill go...

I don't even drink coffee to stay up late which makes it harder because when I take my concerta, it makes me fall into a deep sleep because of my genetics causing a stimulant paradoxical effect.

I will punish myself. I will bully myself. I.. will not give up ever and I don't care what people say. They'll be laughing.

I have no motivation 99% of the time but it will change today! EVEN THOUGH I SAID THAT ALREADY 100000 TIMES.

AAAAHHHHHH...

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That is basically the story of my life, and it is made worse by people who would rather think I am just lazy and I am doing it because I am a flawed individual.
People always blame motivation and maturity for my mistakes, for example forgetting an important paper at home or forgetting to do a favor.
It is easy for people to judge and criticize. But one can't understand what is going on inside someone else's life before actually experiencing the same or similar things as that person.

I guess i would be considered part of the older generation, but understand where you are coming from. I don't know if people will ever truly understand what we go through every day. I was always told what a looser I was and that I was lazy and would never amount to anything for years. I knew I had potential and that I wasn't lazy. Then I found something I liked doing and went beyond my own expectations.

Be very selective in who you share your condition with. People DO NOT understand, but they can, and do, use it against you to their advantage. I was fortunate to fall into a career that I loved and thrived it in. When I started in my position I was by myself and was able to find ways to I hide my ADHD, reading and writing problems from others for almost 30 years. It wasn't easy, especially since I was one of the first women in my field, but I did pull it off.

Lately my ADHD is out of control and I can't get a grasp on it. Basically because someone discovered my faults and turned them against me. Everything I did wrong they pointed out, then it became an attack. I let it get to me and lost control of my coping measures. So please, watch who you let know and try not to let what others say bother you. I know how difficult it can be though.

Once you find something YOU like to do you will find it easier to get up and do things. I was trying to get motivated for the past couple of years, had to loose weight after my husband's death, and I felt terrible because I put on so many pounds. I just couldn't do it. Then I found gardening, who would of thought, I stay in the yard and garden from sun up to sun down on my days off and lost tons of weight. But I couldn't force myself to get off the couch and on the treadmill for anything.

Hang in there, you will improve.

I guess i would be considered part of the older generation, but understand where you are coming from. I don't know if people will ever truly understand what we go through every day. I was always told what a looser I was and that I was lazy and would never amount to anything for years. I knew I had potential and that I wasn't lazy. Then I found something I liked doing and went beyond my own expectations.

Be very selective in who you share your condition with. People DO NOT understand, but they can, and do, use it against you to their advantage. I was fortunate to fall into a career that I loved and thrived in it. When I started in my position I was by myself and was able to find ways to hide my ADHD, reading and writing problems from others for almost 30 years. It wasn't easy, especially since the job requires writing and reading top with being I one of the first women in my field, but I did pull it off.

Lately can't get a grasp on my ADHD. Basically because someone discovered my faults and turned them against me. Everything I did wrong they wasnpointed out, then it became an attack. I let it get to me and lost control of my coping measures. So please, watch who you let know and try not to let what others say bother you. I know how difficult it can be though.

Once you find something YOU like to do you will find it easier to get up and do things. I was trying to get motivated for the past couple of years, had to loose weight after my husband's death, and I felt terrible because I put on so many pounds. I just couldn't do it. Then I found gardening, who would of thought, I stay in the yard and garden from sun up to sun down on my days off and lost tons of weight. But I couldn't force myself to get off the couch and on the treadmill for anything.

Hang in there, you will improve.

My mom has just always had a hard time wrapping her head around me. "If you really wanted to do it you would!" is a classic line. The other one is "If you just did x and y things would go better for you". And when I say that doesn't work for me they think I just gave up too easily. I think what's most frustrating isn't people saying these things out of ignorance (some people really don't know better because I haven't told them) but chosen ignorance (someone I'd expect to at least try to learn and understand like family and choose not to but seem to think it's okay to judge me anyways).

Let me ask you this....If you could complete a task, why would you fake it or pretend to be lazy....? You wouldn't - you would just do it.... there are all kind of rewards for acomplishing something externally and internally. If your brain does not know how to do it...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

If your brain does not know how to do something..it withdraws and you follow. I do not care how many times you put the brain back there - if it does not understand it will pull away. When your brain knows how to do something...you can focus and stay on task like crazy!

We are learning so much more about retraining the brain - at any age...do not give up hope. I'm sure you have many talents...do not let school or society dictate "who you are" and the talents that are meaningful to you!