[WantToGrow]

I need to seek therapy and get officially diagnosed, but I scrore pretty darn high on the online tests. So, I have one more question for everyone pertaining to sex, particularly for women:

Do you get distracted during sex and think of all kinds of other things?

I am also exploring the possibility that I was sexually abused as a child. With no memories, one possible symptom is dissociation during sex. I have a terrible time with intimacy, and though I am ultimately able to be fulfilled during sex, I have a terrible time remaining "present" during. I am wondering if this is also a problem for people with ADD, or is it more likely a symptom of repressed abuse? Other things in point towards abuse, but I just wasn't sure about the ADD.

[WantToGrow]

Anybody?

[WantToGrow]

I guess this is a hot-potato topic!

[neverIdle]

I get the same thing. I have to try really hard to get back on track. Sometimes I can't continue. Drives me nuts, but as my relationship has progressed, it's got better.

[shakespeare47]

I score pretty high on the ADHD tests.. but have no issues with sex (other than I wish it happened more often).

I was also sexually abused. There is no doubt.... it's not a recovered memory.

[BobbyDavis]

No. When I am making love to my Wife (which doesn't happen very often because she has a low sex drive) I find it is one of the times when I am least distracted because I am busy focusing on her.

[pbutton]

Yeah I have as much trouble focusing during sex as I do the rest of the time. But I keep trying lol

[PandaPanda]

Depending on a number of factors, I'm either distracted, or pretty focused. Usually, I'm pretty focused. The sex with my wife is pretty amazing, but lately, i've been distracted. She's pregnant, and sex has been so different lately. Certain positions can't work, sometimes we have to stop (apparently the cervix is very sensitive during pregnancy). It's a lot to focus on, and they lead to thoughts that question the whole act all together.

[WantToGrow]

Interesting - a real variety of responses! Dudes seem more wired to be into it since it probably feels good instantly, get aroused more easily,whereas women like me have to work real hard to get aroused, let alone orgasm. My husband HAS to have sex at least once a week due to the horniness building up so much, but I could go months without and not even think about it or crave it. I once tried testosterone gel, maybe my T is low, but it didn't seem to help. At any rate, too much opportunity for my brain to go wandering.

My therapist said if I don't have memories of being sexually abused, then let it go. I do have a problem with intimacy and she said it could be that I wasn't "taught" in childhood. I never saw my parents as sexual or intimate with each other, so that may very well be the case. It sucks! I want to be able to enjoy it more!

[thoughtfulkid]

Hi WantToGrow. Hmm,i would say that may be more than ADD. I think your right about what you said. I was sexually attacked as a young kid. It effected me for awhile but then again it was an attack and not abuse. A lot of females have a hard time with intimacy. I was with a girl for eight years and she was raped as a kid and the last four to five years of our relationship we barely touched or kissed. (not on my part) She also has bipolar and post traumatic stress. I've had ADD my whole life. Diagnosed and everything. So yeah i would lean more on the dissociation and abuse. That's how my girlfriend was and she's not ADD. Oh well,i saw your post and thought i would mention a few things. Thanks

[BadWolf]

I have had problems with distraction during sex.

[WantToGrow]

Hi, thoughtfulkid - I'm so sorry about your girlfriend. I hope she is getting help for her issues. We women can be so danged complicated as it is!

[thoughtfulkid]

Lol. Yeah,i guess so. But its kinda easy to get complicated. For man or woman. Yeah she started with gateway but i don't think it helped much. She got put on kolotopin (I'm sure i misspelled that) and Prozac. I think kolotopin just aggravates her condition. Its sad,i miss her even though she was awful to me when she got pissed. I was with her for eight years. And it was great at first. Then we had an abortion, which I'll never do again, she got pregnant and i was happy! But she miscarriaged at seven and a half months. I think the shot for down syndrome maybe got her (Breanna was her name..the baby) so yeah it got complicated shortly after. Its sad, I'm sad. And there's another long story that happened but maybe I'll talk about that later. Love!

[tallulahxoxo]

Maybe the sex you're having isn't exciting enough for you?
That was a problem for me until I got more adventurous and realized that I want to try new things !