Getting someone tested who doesn't believe they have a problem.

My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. Her sister and I both agree that she should be tested for ADD. The problem is, her and her parents have stereotyped all mental disorders/ dysfunction as being mentally retarded. I respect my wife and love her so much, but this has been driving a wedge in our relationship. How can I get her evaluated for Adult ADD? She refuses to admit she may have a problem. I have tried to take some of the self-tests from "her" perspective. All of the "self-tests" have given the same result, she is showing signs of ADD and recommended seing a professional. I don't know if it is just me...or if she really does have a problem, but I would like to have her tested to see. How do you help someone see they may have a problem and seek evaluation?

It might help too if she knew you didn't consider her having ADD or ADHD a "problem" but see it as a "difference" instead.
Before I was diagnosed I had been treated for years and years a depressed... took Prozac for years because I was misdiagnosed and it never helped... Finally knowing I'm ADD and being treated has helped all aspects of my life. With medication and after doing a lot of reading, I'm able to organize my life, my thoughts and I'm so much more productive.

I believe you dont see your wife as having a "problem" but maybe you could call it something other than that til she figures out it's not the end of the world and there are lots of us out there to keep her company and we're not so bad!

Peg
"It's funny, what the caterpillar thinks is the end of the world, the butterfly knows is only the beginning."