Communication

I'm thinking about this topic lately. Real communication need listeners who are ready to listen to the other. It means forget about oneself and connect really with the other person. Try to see and understand what the other is telling you. That is, an active listener.

It seems to me that people with PD fail in being active listeners. That happens with normal people as well, though.
They are so self-focussed on their problems and they have so strict ways to percive the reality or the idea they have of how really has to be that they often loose what other people have to offer them, the real meaning of the message.

I think in the communication Era, we have the lowest capacity for communication ever.

Which are your thoughts?

You are right, listening is key, ironic at a time when we are being encouraged to be 'active listeners'.

I agree that in this era of "enhanced communication" we really have no idea how to communicate in a meaningful way (most of the time).

I'm not interested in communicating. I like my own space, my own peace and quiet.
I go to my cardio session and im asked if I'm a personal trainer.. I have resorted to ear phones to ignore and blocks people out.

At work if i'm in one of the sign written vehicles, to stop for lunch or if im busy near my car that seems to give passer by's a reason to strike up a conversation with me... usually i'm stressed off my head trying to keep it together yet, these random people want to talk to me when all i want to do is control my avoidance and focus on my job, to get in and out as quickly as possible.

Today some old guy stopped to tell me a joke... yes, i know he was being very nice, but i not in the mood to laugh... so i guess i'm a bad guy for not laughing.

In the office i have phone calls to try and make and receive.. and any avie know how difficult phones are.

I cant even handle listening to the radio.

I hide all this from work staff and from clients or i will bring more attention to myself. Those outside of this would most definitely think I'm rude or arrogant, but they have no idea how hard this all is...yet im judged on other peoples ease with communicating and socializing.

Sorry for venting.

I also try to avoid talking to people at work, in the street...I'm focussed on myself.
However, with the closed ones, communication is the key.
We many times fail in listening to the other with open ears.
We interrupt the communication with ours own concerns or with ours own judges many often mistaken. The result is clear. No communication at all, no conection.
One ends up mistaken and the other ends up feeling misunderstood.

Or, we want to offer a fast solution without listening to the other person's feelings.

i am just the opposite i love people could listen to them even when they're complaining, i need people but have few in my life. i am like a rock that does not roll because i am housebound because of my mental issues and pshysical disabilities. i do understand people who do not want to socialise and am aware enough to judge who to talk to and who not to. it could be differrent for others on differrent days too. i usually let the other person talk, but i do admit i like to have a 2 way conversation although it doesn't bother me if not.