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May 28, 2010, 03:37 PM
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I am having a really hard time staying focused. My moods are all over the place. I want to do stuff and I have plenty of stuff I need to do but I am just sitting in my apartment reading. It is like I have plans to change things, but when it is time to change things, I just don't and that frustrates me. I feel stuck in my fear. I remember feeling like this about 30 years ago. Usually I am at least out the door looking for work. I need to get motivated again to finish the changes I started at the beginning of the year. I know the first step will be the hardest and that has already been set in motion in the middle of the month...that will be the big step. Then I will have to adjust to the changes which should be a relief anyway. But I just really need to get extra support from you guys until then.
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May 28, 2010, 04:18 PM
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You're a smart lady so some of these suggestions might be redundant. If you feel way behind, the tasks seem monumental which makes it feel impossible. Can you make a list with the priorities at the top. Set reasonable goals -like 1 or 2 a day.
What works for me, is I deny myself a pleasurable activity like being on PC or reading/TV until the task is finished. Are you normally able to do your tasks. Some adults have undiagnosed ADD. How about do some tasks after breakfast tomorrow. Sending you good energizing vibes to get moving. 
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May 28, 2010, 04:47 PM
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I know how you feel because I have ADHD and right now my pdoc isn't prescribing anything to treat it until my moods stabilize. Maybe you have undiagnosed ADHD? It is hard to diagnose in bipolar adults because the symptoms are similar.
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May 28, 2010, 04:58 PM
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Some times you just need some 'mental health' days. Where you don't really do much.
Also, don't worry about it over the weekend. I tend to carry crap from Friday into the weekend with me, and then since I don't have anything to do I just sit around and obsess about it. |
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May 28, 2010, 06:26 PM
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Lynn: I have a list but I think writing it all down will help...putting the bigger appointments on a calendar. The daily stuff on a daily to do list. If I don't get stuff done, no reading until it gets done. Some are just changes like setting my bed time. I am going to set it at 10:00 tonight and see how it goes. Still have my walk to do but I am looking forward to that. QA: Tried the taking it easy on the weekends but then I do not get the apartment clean and I fail to plan for the week. Just for 24 hours I am making myself accountable to stay with my list. Off to go get ready for my walk. Then the dishes and I am done for the day. Will check back in later.
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May 28, 2010, 07:03 PM
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What are symptoms of ADHD in adults?
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May 28, 2010, 07:46 PM
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My days seem like the Dog from the movie "UP". I want to do this and then all of a, SQUIRREL!!..... I get sidetracked by something that piques my, SQUIRREL!!!.... interest and then I end up doing something, SQUIRREL !!!..
It doesnt mean I dont have things I should be doing.... I just.. Have come to realize that if there is a clean fork....I dont need to wash dishes.. If I am not hungry... I wont remember to cook for my wife. Not because she doesnt need food. But because at that moment, my interest got diverted by something else, regardless of how small or insignificant it may be...
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May 29, 2010, 01:23 AM
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May 29, 2010, 05:55 AM
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When I get like that it usually has a lot to do with my anxiety level. Sometimes I'm just to tightly wound to stop moving and sometimes I just reach my threshold and can't do anything.
What I know about adult ADHD because my mother and best friend have it, is that they have a different internal clock, they lose track of time or think they can get way more things done in an hour than are possible. They can "hyper focus" on something really engaging. If they are highly stimulated they can focus on one thing for hours, to them it seems like twenty minutes. |
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May 29, 2010, 06:14 AM
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ADHD....hm. They treated me for that my whole life....unfortunately, stimulants can increase incidents of mania and docs are hesitant to Rx them....
I still have some left from before I was Dx BPD, so I do take them if I can't get my butt to move....having Lexapro really helps as well (even though that can increase mania, too). It works for me, since I skew towards depressive. Lamictal takes care of the mood swings and lexapro elevates it. Good luck! |
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May 29, 2010, 06:40 AM
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Well, you know I read the responses. I think everyone who responded had some really good feedback. I definatey really needed both feedback and my original request for emotional support. That's the beauty of this place. Kinda like that song "you can't always get what you wan't, but you get what you need". (Dylan) I got what what I needed which was both. And when I was out walk tonight, I thought I would use this thread to track my progress. Hope all of you will follow along. I walked over an hour because my neighbor hood is beautiful. Kind of sore today. So I did pretty good over al for day 2.-I will get to you know how it goes.
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#12
May 30, 2010, 12:13 AM
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You know, waking up after an hour the previous day hurts if you haven't done it in a while. So that walk will happen every other day. I did get the kitchen done though. Tomorrow the kitchen and bill paying and the walk again (it is a good kind of hurt). I will stretch before this time though. Blew the bedtime curfew though. But I will keep working on that. I guess baby steps helps.
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May 30, 2010, 06:24 AM
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 I'm glad you have been able to reach some of your goals...baby steps is always the best way to go in my opinion! Hang in there!!
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