[sugahorse1]

Arg - I am starting t oreally get myself down. I've spent so much time getting to know myself, my life and BP - I've really made the effort.
I've realised the effect triggers have on us and the importance of removing them completely from your life, or at least staying away from them.

Well, if a person in your life is a trigger, and you make peace with the concept that this person cannot be a part of your life for the sake of your mental well-being, why is it that they always seem to crop up at the wrong time? Why can they not just respect your decision? Especially when that person knows BP VERY well too, and the decision was more or less mutual?

I was just finding my feet, monitoring my moods, coping with life... and now get thrown such a huge curve ball. I'm angry and hurt. I now feel fragile and hopeless. Forget mixed episode - I think this depression deulx again.
It's not fair on me, nor the people around me that care and support me. I could kill right now, I'm so angry at someone's ability to hurt me this way.

[BlackPup]

Don't take onto yourself the other persons problems, the things they do or say that upset you. All that is yours is reaction to it...
It doesn't really make it any easier at the time, but after try to step back, calm down and process what you are really thinking and feeling...
I can appreciate your frustration and anger after so much effort to be undermined by this. I think it is totally understandable
I really appreciate the huge effort, emotion and guts it takes to try and understand the way you work... its gut wrenching at times.
Last time I had a horrible violent reaction to a trigger (a couple of weeks ago) the really horrible depression went almost as quickly as it came, and by now I feel normal... Here's hoping the same goes for you

[sugahorse1]

But people that come back into your life, through what can only be described as selfishness or jealousy - to create chaos, and possibly the same pain they may be going through.

Right now I'm not prepared to carry another person as well - unless that person is ULTRA special to me. I need to put myself first, and that person needs to get out my life faster than they arrived back!

[Trippin2.0]

I think you're absolutely RIGHT!
If this person is triggering you out of vindictiveness, then they have no business being anywhere close to you...

Is there no way you can extract yourself from the mix? Must you put up with this person's presence and actions?

I really feel for you suga

I hope this mood disappears as quickly as it reared it's ugly head, and pray that "this person" get's lost SOON...

You are in my thoughts and prayers dear friend...sending lots of bear hugs your way

[sugahorse1]

Thanks Trippin!
You won't believe it, but I actually changed my last job because this person was a colleague! Now I get e-mails to my private e-mail address. I really feel I've done my part in removing this trigger - well, removing myself from this trigger!!!

ARG!

[Trippin2.0]

Block the person, report them to "mail marshall" or the like...

Block cell numbers, really, do all you can to put up a "NO ENTRY" zone sign around you...

If there's ANYTHING you need me to do...just ask

[sugahorse1]

thanks Trippin - will you take a cash settlement to go murder someone?
No, I just mustn't let it get to me, ignore ignore ignore...

[Trippin2.0]

LMFAO x INFINITY

Don't stress about it. Mwah

[Skully]

It is very hard to cut people out of your life because of triggers. I know because I had to do it with my own father. He didn't understand and he is bipolar as well. His relationship with me was just too toxic considering all the abuse he put me through as a child. But, I did manged to cut him out of my life. It was hard, no matter of abusive he was he was still my father.

[sugahorse1]

thanks Skully - yeah, it's hard...

[bplady]

i too have had problems with a trigger person in my life. i just kept ignoring emails and phone calls and after about 6 months she finally stopped. i felt kind've bad but knew she was toxic for me..

[sugahorse1]

Thanks BPlady!
I need to not let her get to me and just ignore