[midnight_soul]

I went to my shrink friday and told him every thing as I said I would. He also talked with my husband in private. He asked me to admit myself, however my husband's daughter had a baby shower the next day and we had come up with some thing to make her instead of buying a gift because we have no money. Long story short, my shrink is very concerned and gave me 2 weeks to see if the new med helps, if not he want's me to admit, all agreed by myself and husband. Thing is I had something to look forward to, our project and her shower so I thought that maybe this would begin a road of recovery for me. My shrink reluctanly agreed but told my husband he needs to take off work a few days to watch me closely.

Ok, so we make a very sentimental keep sake treasure box for our grandson with a baseball theme all over it. (her baby's room theme is baseball) We did every thing, put it together painted it glued all kinds of little things on it etc. Inside the treasure box was his daughters very first piggy bank ( except it wasn't a pig it was in the shape of a baby bottle) and it still had money from her child hood inside of it. We spent around 12 hours making this for her and gave it to her for her shower the next day. When she opened it she had this nasty expression on her face as if WTF is this?:??? My husband told her all about its meaning, we made it as a keep sake etc. She just looked at it like it was trash and never even said thank you, or oh that is so sweet....... NOTHING. But she LOVED all the expensive pretty stuff every one else gave her. To top it off after the shower she and alll her friends showed up at our house to party (except she couldn't drink of course) talking laughing etc. I went outside and tried so hard to visit with every one but every one just shut me out like I wasn't even there! So I moved my chair back behind every one just looking around....every one laughing enjoying each others company etc. I felt as if I was almost in a nightmare wishing I could wake up and it would all be gone.

Finally I came inside to be alone. I cried and cried. My husband came in and I told him this only confirmned how lonely I truly am. I have no friends, nothing to laugh or smile about and how rude I felt his daughter and her friends was being. After all this is MY HOUSE and they are using it as a play ground shutting ME OUT!!! He said he noticed but didn't know what to do so he stayed inside with me. Then they all came in and announced they were going to dinner but would be back and his daughter said....dad why dont you come with us but she never said a word to me. I got up and went to the bed room and slamed the door. My husband didn't go, he stayed with me as I cried almost all night. When they came back he told her they had to leave. She asked where I was and he told her that she really hurt my feelings, I heard all through the door and heard her say what ever.

I feel like crap today. I am embarrassed about our gift, I am sad ....husband is watching the race as usual. Now I wish I would have just admited myself because at least I would have ppl to talk with.

I so much want to be a grandma and pray that she will allow me to see the baby for a weekend once in a while. But I doubt it will happen. I have done every thing for her. I photographed their engagement pictures and did the wedding for them all for free last year. I use to be a photographer BYW. I also took pictures of her pregnancy photos a few weeks back and I always tell her I love her which I do. But yesterday, that really hurt me. Maybe I took it wrong, I don't know. My husband said, honey she is just having fun with her friends one last time before the baby comes. She knows all the getting together is about to end and I don't think she meant to hurt your feelings, and as for the gift we made for her she told me outside she liked it.

I don't know. Maybe she did but I really had high hopes of her opening it and maybe seeing a tear or SOMETHING showing what we did touched her because our gift was truly from the heart.

Having a bad day and pretty much know this week will be just as bad for me. Lonely, nothing to make a difference for me. I hate this.

[blueoctober]

midnight_soul; that was inconsiderate of your husband's daughter. Sometimes people behave like boneheads (I know I have) it's hard to not let it affect oneself especially when our mental health is at a fragile point. Perhaps you could ask your husband if after the races are over could he go for a walk with you? If you feel you need to go in-patient don't feel that you have to wait the 2 weeks.

[madisgram]

ohhhh so very sorry your daughter in law upset you. like blueoct. said, you can go ahead and be admitted now if you feel like it would help. i know i've experinced something very similar and it does hurt-BAD. so glad your hubby loves you so. yes, try to take a walk after the race. it won't change what happened but the walk will be good for you. i don't understand young people sometimes especially. i try not to be over sensitive but there are times i've felt so blue cause of circumstances like this. i know it would take some mental adjusting but you can celebrate today the love your hubby feels for you. you are of value and worth. no matter how much you feel slighted. that's on her, imho. i hope she has a wake up and apologizes to you. you did such a lovely thing by making that keepsake for your grandbaby. how very thoughtful of you all. i do hope you can find some peace and comfort to know we care about you. sending warm thoughts your way ...midnight

[PT52]

midnight_soul...my heart cries for you. I know how awful it feels to be left out, treated rudely and taken advantage of..sounds like your husband is a great guy, it's good you have him to lean on. It's true, his daughter was insensitive; but if you've had a pretty good relationship up to this point, there's no reason you can't move past it and be a grandma. Do what you need to do now to get better, lean on your husband, lean on us, and I'd wager that everything else will get better, too. Hugs and peaceful vibes coming your way.

midnight!!! What a convergence of awful things!!! Your making of such a gift is very very thoughtful and took far more effort and care than just getting some random thing from a store! It is to be commended. People often simply do not realize how their actions affect others. Doesn't make it right, doesn't really dull the pain, but like blueoctober said, people can be real boneheads!
And yes, by all means, don't feel you have to wait the 2 weeks if it would be better to do it sooner!
I hope that we can make a difference for you...

[Miss Laura]

Midnight_Soul.........

I am so sorry this has happened. I thought that was such a cool thing to do for your step-daughter. The fact that it was her's from her childhood and you and your husband jazzed it up was very cool of you guys.

Think your step-daughter was rude... maybe she was thrown in the moment?? Who knows??? But it was rude.

I am so sorry your not doing good.... Please talk if you want... Do you think you will be admitted?

I hope your ok and talking to people

Take Care

xxx

[sugahorse1]

Your story is so sad. I wish there was a way I could make you feel better. There's nothing worse than inconsiderate people. I have recently had my boyfriend's friends over at our place - most of them I really DO NOT enjoy. I started to get claustrophobic and hurt by how reckless they were getting in our flat as they got more and more drunk. I eventually had to go to our bedroom, take a sleeping tablet and get out of the situation. I also heard them saying nasty things about me.

But I just need to find peace in the fact that these are not people I choose to have in my life. Their opinions are NOT allowed to matter.

I hope you can chat to your daughter in-law and understand why things materialised the way they did. Be honest about how she hurt your feelings.
And as has already been mentioned; don't be anxious about possibly being admitted - it is a solace and you can be away from everything.

[WendyAussie]

Naaaa, I think she was being an arse - selfish, downright rude about a present that you guys had put so much into and obviously very materialistic if she just got excited about the other presents - and very rude as I daresay she knows your financial position. It was very unfortunate timing though, as you're not well, if you're like me, when I'm in Beeper Depression my self esteem plummets and I take on the selfishness of other more than I would if I was feeling robust. I have more chance of just flicking it off if I am well.

But as to going to hospital, always err on the side of causion. I've had four stays and they've always helped me - saved my life and helped my mental health.

You sound like you have a very special hubby to treasure. I want one!! lol