[Drakenyte]

Hi

For a guy, I experience extreme mood swings often, and my emotions often "run wild" and get angry or agitated easily or something.. My ex girlfriend has told me about this problem and I've been trying hard to control it, yet I can't seem to control it. And its weird because I get mixed moods at times.. sometimes I don't know what is real around me anymore, and everything around me seems meaningless..

I'm still quite close to my ex, but sometimes, I don't know if I'm doing more harm to try to get back together with her. At the same time, I feel no meaning in finding a new relationship. I feel so little love nowadays and hate a lot about myself, despite the fact that my ex tells me that I'm a good person...

Is there something wrong with me? Or am I being too indecisive about how I feel?

Sorry for the long message, and thanks for addressing it if you do. I greatly appreciate it.. I've been experiencing it for the past 4-6 months, and have tried talking to my friends and family about it..

Thanks for reading everyone, and I appreciate any feedback whatsoever hope that I posted this in the right thread though... I've never really seen a psychy for diagnostics... it does not appear well in my society to be P, cause everyone looks at you differently...

[Kymaro]

HI Drakenyte, I would follow up with primary doctor, maybe you need to see a therapist for the emotional swings. Could mean several different things depending on your history (medical and personal). I think trying to focus on yourself instead of the ex will be a good start. Cant give love and emotions to another till you love yourself. Try to find what triggers your agitation or mood changes. Family and friends are great support they see things we dont in ourselve. Good luck and keep us informed of your progress, we can give support and sometimes just knowing others deal with simular situation help understand our own.

[Gus1234U]

well said, Kymaro.... keep posting, Drakenyte, and when you have 5, you can come visit with us in Live Chat, or particiate in the Hosted Chats (check the calendar on your profile page for the times and topics)... and read thru some of the posts on Psychotherapy and medication issues, so you can be a better informed client,, best wishes,, Gus

[Ryask]

If your mood swings are affecting your life or your relationships, you could go to your regular family doctor and talk about that. Sometimes it's a really simple fix like getting enough rest or taking vitamin D or what have you, but he would also be able to make a referral to a therapist or psychiatrist if medications were required. To me some of the symptoms your describing about loss of interest, agitation, anger and negative feelings towards yourself are really classic signs of depression, sometimes you dont have to be diagnosed as anything in particular to get help. I mean in the very least i really think an anti-depressant could help you. Depression by the way is really common, something 90 percent of people have or will have it sometime in their life, so dont feel like your different then anyone else. I hope you get some relief, and keep posting let us know how your doing, and if you plan to make some changes and see a doctor.

[Drakenyte]

Thanks for the advice everyone greatly appreciate it!

It's funny cause, like today when I wake up, I feel totally fine/great. And I like this positive feeling to continue as long as possible.

But suddenly sometimes I will feel agitated and angsty, and self-hate, and it suddenly goes away again, and I feel like I don't really care. Hahaha maybe I guess thats why I didn't really understand if it was really depression or not, cause I don't feel particularly sad/suicidal, just mood swinging alot.

Well, I guess I still have alot fo go in understanding myself I guess... I guess I'm someone who believes that only you can yourself..

Anyway, thanks once again, and have a great day everyone

[trin2dealwith]

Originally Posted by Drakenyte

Hi

For a guy, I experience extreme mood swings often, and my emotions often "run wild" and get angry or agitated easily or something.. My ex girlfriend has told me about this problem and I've been trying hard to control it, yet I can't seem to control it. And its weird because I get mixed moods at times.. sometimes I don't know what is real around me anymore, and everything around me seems meaningless..

I'm still quite close to my ex, but sometimes, I don't know if I'm doing more harm to try to get back together with her. At the same time, I feel no meaning in finding a new relationship. I feel so little love nowadays and hate a lot about myself, despite the fact that my ex tells me that I'm a good person...

Is there something wrong with me? Or am I being too indecisive about how I feel?

Sorry for the long message, and thanks for addressing it if you do. I greatly appreciate it.. I've been experiencing it for the past 4-6 months, and have tried talking to my friends and family about it..

Thanks for reading everyone, and I appreciate any feedback whatsoever hope that I posted this in the right thread though... I've never really seen a psychy for diagnostics... it does not appear well in my society to be P, cause everyone looks at you differently...

Hey man my name is Mike. I had a lot of the same things happen to me man. I got my Diagnoses over 20 years ago after my divorce. I have Bi-Polar and sometimes the feelings are like the world is the most awesome place and at other times my anger is violent and unpredictable, never directed to anyone just feeling so over whelmed. I had to finally stop working 10 years ago because the mood swings and panic attacks got so severe. I just joined tonight and hope someone will talk to me. I have never talk to anyone who has this disorder and hope this forum will help me find somebody I can trust and talk to about this.take care my man. Remember never give up. Thanks for listening, Mike

[Ryask]

well...welcome both of you..since your both new!

[Drakenyte]

Thanks Ryask, and welcome too Mike!

[sugahorse1]

Hi there!

I think it would be beneficial to track your moods. I use an online tracker from www.medhelp.org
Then set up an appointment with your primary doctor and try get a referal to see a psychiatrist. I know it has stigma's attached, but you can pretty much keep all of it under wraps from friends, family and work.
Tracking your moods will help your doctor to pick up a pattern.

I hope you are able to reach out for help, and get some relief from the rollercoaster

[Drakenyte]

Thanks for the warm welcome and advice everyone

and welcome mike too!

[lonegael]

Welcome both of you! I know it can be rough in some circles to be seen as having to see a therapist or a psychiatrist. I think going through the primary doctor is maybe a good way of trying to get around this at first. For one thing, it will help you get some more information about what your going through. Even if it's not Bipolar per se, I can tell you from your descriptions that your not alone. Far from it.

It's also a good thing to come here and start talking to folks. It helps to see that that we aren't that strange and that you can talk about what's happening to you. once you talk here, it'll be easier to talk to a p.doc or a talk doc later. Usually, that is. Hope you guys keep coming! Huggs!

[Truth1st]

Hi Drakenyte & Mike,

Irritability and anger are classic signs of depression and/or a mood disorder, like cyclothymia (bi-polar II or III).

I've lived a very productive life as a working professional & single parent, but every now & then I'd go into an ugly rage that wld come from nowhere! Then my fam doc recognized depression in me & I began an a/d...if was life-changing!! I was so much better for years, but the mood disorder was not being addressed. So, now I'm taking a mood stabalizer, that is not only helping w/mood but also enhancing the a/d.

We really don't know how bad we feel until we finally get better. Good luck to you both & I agree w/the others about charting your moods to see if they are appropriate or not.

[BlackPup]

Welcome to both of you...
Drakenyte: I definately agree with those who suggest seeing doctors... if you are not ready, try to find out as much as you can about depression and bipolar by looking on information websites... there are also some self tests that you can do online. I really like the "blackdog institute" website for info on both depression, bipolar and treatment. They also have online education programs.
Mike: welcome, it is great that you have come to PC, I'm sure that you will have great insight to share about your experiences and hope that you can also get support and help from the PC community.

[Drakenyte]

Hey everyone,

Thanks for the great advice really! It's really helpful.

Sorry for the late reply, have been away and busy with lots of stuff.

@lonegael thanks! I've seen a psychiatrist a few years back during my army days (national service is compulsory in singapore for guys) for sleeping problems, but none for bipolarity I guess I've always been scared to end up becoming a P case (because in the army, being a P does not hold well against you, and in the society here).

@Truth1st and Blackpup thanks for the advice! It's very useful especially the one on Blackdog Institute I've had a pretty bad case of depression when I was in Secondary School (thats around age 13-16, not sure what is the equivalence in other countries), but never saw a Pdoc for it. Eventually, I just numbed myself and became pretty much emotionless But am thankfully that I had many friends who helped me through. I still remember a girl from another class committed suicide during one of school days.. Case of depression as well

Well, guess we have a long way to go.. thanks for everyone's advice and help greatly appreciate it!

[PT52]

Hi Drakenyte and Mike, welcome to PC Been on a bit of a break and just getting caught up with the threads. People are probably getting tired of hearing it, but I sure missed this place.

Neither of you mentioned medications, so I'm assuming you're not on any? My initial diagnosis came from my GP who prescribes my medications, but consults with a psychiatrist on them. I was on a waiting list for a therapist and just got started a few weeks ago, but one of the things she told me is that, if the diagnosis is correct, the medication is necessary in order for the therapy to help. I'm BP II and on Lamictal and Wellbutrin. I can definitely say the meds made a HUGE difference.

Hope that both of you find the help and support you need, and hope that you stick around here because it is a wonderful support system.

[Dave255]

If your unwilling go to a psychiatrist. You could try some natural stuff or over counter stuff that people use, like Fish oil to see if it helps.