[SunAngel]

I don't know if anyone knows this or not but my pdoc left me high and try without a mood stablizer because she was stressed out.

I ended up calling her and she had me make an appt. this week so I made one for today.

They called me today and told me that she called out sick and I DO NOT believe she is sick one bit. She was probably so stressed out and didn't feel like going into work.

So tomorrow if I call her, she will be stressed out with all the crisis calls left tomorrow when she came in.

I do believe it's time for me to find another pdoc. I am manic as anything, going on little or no sleep and she calls in sick.

[dragonfly2]

Sorry you've been left to fend for yourself, SunAngel. It does seem like it is time to find a new pdoc, as this one isn't able to give you the care you need and deserve. In the meantime, is there someone covering for her in her absence? I would check with the office to see if another colleague is available to talk to you in a crisis.

Something to consider about your pdoc, though...could she also be suffering from a mental illness of some sort? Oftentimes, when one of us calls in sick, it may very well be that we are "stressed out", but that it may be a symptom of a mental illness and is no less valid than if we had a cold. Please try to remain as open and understanding of your pdoc's situation as you would expect others to be of yours.

[SunAngel]

Dragonfly, she is not mentally ill, I assure you of that.

The main psychiatrist there has had him license suspended so the APRN's have taken on a heavier caseload. She has talked to him and he has made it so much easier for her by not giving her a lot of cases. She tells me everything.

When I see her, we just sit and BS and she can tell by my words, actions, etc. what to do when we are just BSing as what she observed.

She tells me everything that goes on there and sometimes in her private life. She just trusts me, I guess.

The main pdoc there had his licesne suspended because he is also a pain mgt. dr. and they are just checking to see if he has over-prescribed narcotics.

She gets stressed out way too easily to be an effective treatment advisor, IMHO!

[mgran]

Originally Posted by SunAngel

I don't know if anyone knows this or not but my pdoc left me high and try without a mood stablizer because she was stressed out.

I do remember that, I remember thinking how irresponsible and stupid the woman was to leave you in the lurch like that.

They called me today and told me that she called out sick and I DO NOT believe she is sick one bit. She was probably so stressed out and didn't feel like going into work.

I can really see how you might feel that, and it may in fact be the case, but... do you know for a FACT that it is true? And if so, what would it have to do with you? might she not be treating many patients like this, not just you? What does her "skiving" from work have to do with you? (Don't know if Americans know "skiving", it means slinking off from work.)

So tomorrow if I call her, she will be stressed out with all the crisis calls left tomorrow when she came in.

So what? If so that's her problem, not yours. If you think that she's so unprofessional she can't handle crises calls, then is she someone you need anyway? And how do you know all her patients will be calling her anyway? Perhaps only three to five people will phone her... only a ninny wouldn't have prepared for that possibility.

I do believe it's time for me to find another pdoc. I am manic as anything, going on little or no sleep and she calls in sick.

If she has nade a habit of letting you down, then yes, it might be time to get another doctor. If she has generally been trustworthy then perhaps you might concede that she has the right, sometimes, to be ill. What if she really is ill? Does she not have the right to call in sick?

The thing is, you're observing her actions from your own point of view, as the wronged party. Have you considered for a moment what life is like for her when she's poorly? Does she not have the right to call in sick? She's not your on call slavey, she's your therapist.

[SunAngel]

I never said it had anything to do with me so you guys are reading into what I said.

I don't think she can handle stress, and her job has become stressful to her, so I indeed, think she just called in sick today, which is her perrogative, I know.

But she wanted me to come in this week so I made an appt. She's the one who let me go without giving me a mood stablizer and I have been manic ever since, yes a fun feeling until it gets out of control.

She will come into tomorrow and maybe 3 or 5 crisis calls were sent in today, so once again, she will be stressed out because she cannot handle stressful situations so I will not be calling her tomorrow for fear of getting the same reaction I was left with last week.

Geez!

[hoosiergrad]

I would find a new doc. TBH, a lot of docs here will not take anything outside of unipolar depression because they don't want to deal with mood disorders and crisis calls. But, for me, that is okay because I would rather them just tell me "no" and be up front during an intro session.

If your doctor cannot handle crisis calls, I think it is time to move on. I know that must suck and be scary (I wasn't sure whether I could continue seeing my therapist weekly and that scared me), but you would be better off with someone who is calm and confident rather than stressed.

[dragonfly2]

Originally Posted by SunAngel

She tells me everything that goes on there and sometimes in her private life. She just trusts me, I guess.
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She gets stressed out way too easily to be an effective treatment advisor, IMHO!

It does sound like there need to be some better boundaries on her part. Some personal things are probably okay to a point...I like to know that my providers are human and have normal lives, lol...but it sounds like she's also doing a bit of office-business gossiping, which is not okay, IMO.

As for her being an effective provider...it's clearly not for everybody, and it may not be the right job for her. But you shouldn't have to sit there and wait for her to figure that out. I hope you can find a better provider soon and that your mania ends soon without any further issues.

[Sophia57]

I hope you can get through to her and get the mania under control. I'm very concerned for you, and I appreciate that you are upset. I don't know whether she is sick or not, but she has perhaps forgotten that you are, you need help, and that someone needs to cover for her. Good luck tomorrow.

[SunAngel]

Thank you Sophia. You are so kind.

She has another woman who works there but when mine is out sick, the other one has a heavier case load for crisis problems but she doesn't get back to you until 2 to 3 days.

I just don't want to call her because she will have a stress situation and I am afraid when she calls me back, she will be short and not helpful to me.

Thanks so much for caring Sophia and welcome to PC.

[SunAngel]

Oh, and thank you dragonfly. I missed your reply.

You are right, boundaries need to be set and respected with her.

Thank you for your kind supportive words too.

[mgran]

How are you now SunAngel? I've been thinking about it, and I really do think that if the only thing she'd done wrong was leave you high and dry without a mood stabiliser then you'd have good cause to dump her. It's been a while now, hasn't it? Are you keeping okay?