girlfriends switch from manic to depressed

My girlfriend is being seen by a psychologist and is on meds- one is anti depressant and one is a antiseisure? she doesnt get seizures but they told her it would help her sleep?
anyway shes a teacher and has managed to take on so many responsibilities shes completely overwhelmed- grad school, teaching, cheer coaching, etc. I felt her anxiety growing over the weekend and now shes completely shifted. On saturday night things felt amazing we were normal bonding but gradually from sunday until last night shes gone completely cold. yesterday i stopped by to say hi and tried to hug her and i thought she was going to hit my hand away she winced so i backed off..

I'm new to this- how do I react? Do I react? Do I completely stay away? I think she's taken on a workload that would make anyone shutdown much less if you're already a little unstable and feeling that level of anxiety. any help or advice would be great.

Hey "Sporty", sorry I didn't see this post earlier. If your still around, good. We are all over the place up in here and have seemed to have gotten away with ourselves. No, don't react. But don't act as if nothing is wrong. Just be cool and sit with her. let her have her space and when she is ready to talk she will. DO NOT.....DO NOT take it personally. That will make it worse. More advice if you come back.

anti-seizure meds are often used as a mood stabilizer to treat bp - nothing to do with seizures, they just also help bp symptoms. trileptal is the first one that comes to my mind.

ask her if there is anything you can do to help right now. offer an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. and honor her space if she needs it, but gently check on her and offer your love and support.

let us know how it goes, if you like. and thanks for being there for a bp woman

Yea things got worse. Last night she went MIA then showed up to a social function clearly in an antisocial mode. I offered to go w her somewhere she said a few things which weren't nice then left. She realizes her brain isn't right but won't clear time to call her Dr or go visit which bothers me. About an hr after leaving texts and aske to fix it so I'm not ad.. I just kept responding find time to call ur doctor. Whole thing is starting to suck bc I know her schedule is absurd which causes anxiety which puts her life in a tailspin.
Am I in the wrong if I refuse to see her until she calls/sees her doctor?

Yes, it is wrong. But on the flip side, it's also wrong to push yourself on her. Always just let her know to ring your phone when she needs you or anything. DO NOT send her msg after msg. This will make it ten times worse. You really have to practice "selflessness" in this situation if you truely love her and are patient. Patience, patience patience.....I can't stress it enough. And yes she will be rude, sometimes cut you to the bone, but take it with a grain of salt, she doesn't mean it. It's kinda like "tourettes" is the best way to describe it. I know cause I've done it. Find a way to get her to a Dr. even if you have to make the appointment. But ask her first. And anxiety is the worse for me. Makes me aggitated, mean, distant, and just plain psychotic. Also, she needs to sleep to help with the anxiety so she can think a little straighter. We were discussing that in a thread on sleep just down the page. Someone mentioned "valarian root" or something like that and also a tea you can get at the "Earth Fare" store. Can't remember that name. She could try to drink some of that in the evening to calm down. She seems to have a lot going on and has taken on too much, maybe "mania" setting in too. If she doesn't get a hold on herself or clear more off her plate, she may loose more than she wants to. Thanks for helping her and if your strong enough it will pay off and she will love you for it.

Thank you so much. I've had a bit of experience w bp. I know she doesn't mean to hurt me bc she's always trying to fix or make things ok quickly if I'm upset. I don't blow her up message wise bc I know that doesn't help. She's always asking how she was lucky enough to find someone who is so selfless.. her ex was extremely narcissistic and she felt like shed lost herself. I'm verybusy but her new schedule puts mine to shame so we already don't spend much time together typicallyonly at her request which is where I'm now conflicted whether I should appear less avail until she's seen a dpoctor for a check up