[HappiestGirl]

I'm getting married in four weeks and I have turned into a bridezilla. The manic in me is a DIYer and wants it all her way. The Debbie Downer in me mourns my single life and a last name that I feel is unique. My poor fi wants to be helpful and I just keep shutting him out for dumb reasons. I have no idea what to write for my vows. I say I can change but I don't think he believes me anymore. I'm beginning to doubt it myself.

[roads]

Bipolar AND major depressive disorder?! Are you being treated or are you winging it? You can get better--I did, but with a whole lot of help and a terrific support system, lots of very hard work and over a period of time.
What point are you at now? Wow, take a deep breath. You can do this, but toss that whole Bridezilla image out the window. You need to take some meditation lessons for starters, & please tell me you've got a doctor?

[MommaR]

Dont put to much pressure on yourself! If writing your own vows is too much- simply dont do it! Just go with the traditional vows- editted if you want- but why add more pressure to yourself when you are already so stressed!

[Mollie May]

I'm getting married in two weeks, and I am still really conflicted about changing my name. I've had it for thirty-some odd years, and I see it as being strongly connected to who I am. I've been through a lot as Mollie May Smith (not real name, of course), and I'm proud of that. I'm not sure how to be Mollie May Johnson. Who is she? So I guess what I'm saying is I get where you're coming from. Also, in lieu of writing my own vows from scratch, I did what MommaR suggests: I just modified something I liked and made it a bit more personal--way less pressure.

[Trippin2.0]

Dont you have the option of keeping your name? Why not just do that instead. Being Mrs so and so wont change who you are as a person, but still, I strongly suggest keeping your name if it causes such distress. As for vows, copy paste, where it is legal and applicable. Dont cause yourself unneccessary stress, weddings are supposed to be joyful... you dont sound joyful... Hope you check in here soon.

[HappiestGirl]

My pdoc says the same thing to enjoy and be happy about getting married and I am! I work like 90 hours weeks sometimes and I come home very stressed. I don't mean to take it out on him but I hurt his feelings time and again by yelling. I just get so annoyed with EVERYTHING and he is only trying to help. My pdoc says to find a t but I can't afford that right now. I also spent two whole days trying to get free service , called like 10 places, went through intake at four different places and NOONE will see me!! I just want to yell Help!!