[Anika.]

That is the one feeling I have a hard time relateing to, but it comes up very often here. And not just here, real life people too. And I know that anger is a healthy emotion.

So how often do you get angry, maybe I should ask outside of a bipolar episode, I don't know. And do any of you barely ever get angry? Even when that would be appropriate.

Sometimes I wonder if there is not something wrong with me... Outside of what I already know. I very rarely ever feel anger. I don't scream, I don't throw things, I don't ever release that kind of feeling.. Tho I sometimes wonder if that is not odd. It's not like I am not faced with stuff that shouldn't elicate that type of response.

I just want to hear about your own experiences? ?

[moremi]

Originally Posted by Anika.

That is the one feeling I have a hard time relateing to, but it comes up very often here. And not just here, real life people too. And I know that anger is a healthy emotion.

So how often do you get angry, maybe I should ask outside of a bipolar episode, I don't know. And do any of you barely ever get angry? Even when that would be appropriate.

Sometimes I wonder if there is not something wrong with me... Outside of what I already know. I very rarely ever feel anger. I don't scream, I don't throw things, I don't ever release that kind of feeling.. Tho I sometimes wonder if that is not odd. It's not like I am not faced with stuff that shouldn't elicate that type of response.

I just want to hear about your own experiences? ?

Anika,
I dont believe it is strange not to get angry very often. I do not get angry very often myself. I did when I was younger but as an adult it takes a whole whole lot to really make me angry until the past couple of days that is but this is medication related so it doesnt count. It takes someone hurting my children or something very very extreme to make me angry other than that they can do what ever they want and I can just blow it off. Things just arent worth it to me. I think that anger is a waste of time and energy. I spent to much time when I was younger being angry and have learned to easily let things go. I dont know if that is the answer you were looking for or not but that is me. I just dont like confrontation or anuthing like that.

[Anika.]

Thanks Moremi, I am only looking for your own experience, no one answer. I hope you start feeling better soon! Did you get the valerian?

[moremi]

Dont get me wrong I am not a big push over or anything like that. I just let things go. There are things that I believe in firmly. I can be stubborn, but I rarely get angry. I just figure you cant change someones mind by arguing so why argue and you never get anywhere by hurting someone by yelling at them so why yell and scream to try and prove a point? I just speak my mind in calm words and that is that and if they dont agree thats ok with me it doesnt change my mind and I wont try to change theirs. Now when it comes to my children its a completely different story. If another adult wrongs my child, I can turn into a total psychotic *****. I dont know where it comes from but I get super strong and well just nuts. So the worst thing someone can do is hurt one of my girls or threaten them and yes its happened and I have gone psycho mom. I have thrown a grown man across a room over my baby and i am 5 foot 5 and at that time 110lbs soaking wet. Thats the kind of strength they talk about you get in strange situations, yep its true I have had it.

[moremi]

No i didnt get it yet, I plan to go to the North side tomorrow.

[Anika.]

I wouldn't say I am a pushover per say. But sometimes I wonder...why so placid. When people say things like go scream into a pillow.. or other releases like that. I have to admit I am a bit out of the loop as to when, where and why.

I think anger can be useful. I don't think it's that I easily let stuff go either. I think I might skip anger and replace it with something else. When I was a kid I was the same as I am now. I am only asking cause I think this is causing me problems irl.

OK, I hope it helps you. I think I will try to take it as directed and see it helps more. Let me know how it works for you too.

[moremi]

Originally Posted by Anika.

I wouldn't say I am a pushover per say. But sometimes I wonder...why so placid. When people say things like go scream into a pillow.. or other releases like that. I have to admit I am a bit out of the loop as to when, where and why.

I think anger can be useful. I don't think it's that I easily let stuff go either. I think I might skip anger and replace it with something else. When I was a kid I was the same as I am now. I am only asking cause I think this is causing me problems irl.

OK, I hope it helps you. I think I will try to take it as directed and see it helps more. Let me know how it works for you too.

I will let you know Im going to go to North park tomorrow and get some. Do you know if its something that works immediately or something that has to build up over time?

[Anika.]

I think, from what I have read it does build up, but still you should notice some difference right away. Tho herbs seem a little more individual than the meds, maybe because they are not as strong.

Lavander does nothing for my anxiety, chamomile does not make me sleepy. Catnip does tho.

I went to the store having an anxiety attack and sniffed all the anxiety ones, the bach rescue remedy, and nothing. Didn't help at all. I even dabbed some under my nose and wrists. But maybe if I would have ingested something might have helped more. Maybe it wasn't potent enough.

Not trying to discourage, I have read great things about valerian. And it does seem to help me. I do feel calm after I drink it and give it some time. But it is more subtle then sleeping pills.

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by Anika.

That is the one feeling I have a hard time relateing to, but it comes up very often here. And not just here, real life people too. And I know that anger is a healthy emotion.

So how often do you get angry, maybe I should ask outside of a bipolar episode, I don't know. And do any of you barely ever get angry? Even when that would be appropriate.

Sometimes I wonder if there is not something wrong with me... Outside of what I already know. I very rarely ever feel anger. I don't scream, I don't throw things, I don't ever release that kind of feeling.. Tho I sometimes wonder if that is not odd. It's not like I am not faced with stuff that shouldn't elicate that type of response.

I just want to hear about your own experiences? ?

Hey Anika,

I just wrote a poem mentioning screaming, it has nothing to do with this, read this after fyi. Poem is directed to non-bp people.

Anyway, yea anger has a purpose. But I wouldn't say it's overall healthy, because a lot of ways I might express it like screaming, throwing things, are not very healthy at all.

I'd say it's valid, anytime I feel angry it's my right. For me, anger can be good, it can be an impetus for change. It can be good if clearly communicated to express to someone how passionately upset I am by something.

But honestly, I usually do something unhealthy and stuff the feelings because I don't want to deal with them. Thinking they'll dissipate and go away. They do seem to dissipate, but I'm sure it's stuck in my body somewhere.

Sorry, forgot to answer how often I get angry. I really don't know. Irritablity and agitation mood levels have much to do with it for me. Usually in a non-episode I think I'd be considered easy going and not angry often.

[BlueInanna]

Have you tried arnica homeopathic for healing and pain relief? just curious, I think it's a good one.

i don't get angry outside my mental illness... i don't think.

though sometimes it is very hard to tell- am i angry because my illness is making me, or is it outside.

can't always tells

[samysteav]

Hello,
When i am getting angry i masturbate some semen.
Don't feel weird this is what i do...

[Trippin2.0]

Anger is one of my easy ones. Tho I'm not angry all the time, its just more comfortable,like love,except it doesnt last.Its way more comfy than sadness,or pain & even easier than 'inlove', which is VERY unsettling (think thats a bpd thing).I've had to change my default setting, when I get angry in an inappropriate setting,it gets released in tears now,cos I cant predict my reaction.Heavy embarrassing yes,but safer for all concerned.I dont get angry too easily tho,you have to push very specific buttons...

[Anika.]

Originally Posted by BlueInanna

It can be good if clearly communicated to express to someone how passionately upset I am by something.

This one, this is the only area I think this causes me problems. Tho i think I am not gonna worry about it anymore. Maybe I just have a different way of expressing it.

I seem to go straight to hurt and skip anger. My bf seems to go to anger first and skip hurt. Or something like that.

When we were growing up we were in no way allowed to be angry. We were not really allowed to express much actually. Of course if my dad gave me a beating, interrogated me for hours or did one of his emotional abuse triads which usually lasted for hours, then I would cry. Then you would really be in **** tho, for crying.

My middle sister would always fight back somehow and she would always get the worst of it, So I am sure my older sister and I learned for watching that. That was not the way to go.

When ever I feel anything tho, it always goes to tears. Maybe that's ok then, it's still coming out, just a different expression. What I don't like is they way other people would see this as. I think it gives people a bad impression of who I am, and is often misunderstood. As much as we would like to think it doesn't matter what others think, sometimes it does.

I remember loosing a good friend one time when I was a kid, because her mother told her that I use tears to manipulate. And wow, if only I could control eye ducts a little better. I have never been a manipulator, so that one event still stands out to me.

My oldest son goes to tears if he is upset, and one of his teachers I think when he was in grade 3 told me he was just trying to manipulate her with tears. he is pretty sensitive and hard on himself, he is also and always has been a perfectionist, he deals with it better now, but I was so upset by her thinking that about him, I knew that was not true. I teared up, haha oh boy, what she must have thought.

[Passion222]

I have extreme anger issues when I'm not on Lamictal. I made alot if enemies in the past and lost jobs from starting crap with coworkers. I think outside of bipolar, anger is a natural thing but if there's no real reason to be angry, then that's a problem

[faerie_moon_x]

**Trigger Warning** sorry I forgot to mark it.

I used to never get angry. Or very rarely. I don't like confrontation.

But, now I have what I think is like a rolling rage inside of me. It's like... thunder... rolling through me. It's always kind of there. I'm pretty good at being calm but on the inside is just this low lying rumble.

So now, I get angry in traffic. I get angry at work. I get super angry when someone asks us the directions to our office. (Like... full on I want to scream in their face.) I get angry at the store. I get angry everhwhere. I yell, I scream, I pull my hair out... if it's bad enough I have a total melt down and even SI. Because, i don't attack anyone but myself... I snarl. I get snippy.

It scares me, really. I don't want to be that way.

[bluemountains]

My go-to bad emotion is usually sadness or hurt feelings. I can get angry, though, when some type of injustice happens to my children, like bullying. It feels like a helpless, very stressful feeling. Also, it's been a while, but when going through med changes I had some uncontrollable urges to scream at just about any little annoyance.

[Moose72]

I get angry. It's not part of my personality. But in a mixed or manic phase watch out. The images in my mind are scary and I've had to go to psych ER before.

[Blue Poppy]

I also don't relate the angry spells which are often described here. I know that leading up to my severe depression that I was really angry about my life circumstances and that it lasted quite a while. The anger was legitimate and based on the circumstances, appropriate. I don't think it was part of the depression, but I think staying angry for so long without dealing with it was contributory. I have learned to express my anger in therapy. When I do, I don't scream or yell or throw things. I talk it out, sometimes with a raised tone, but none of the rest.