I think my daughter is losing it!!

OMG I just got off phone with school nurse. We don't know what to make out of things. Near with me as I try and explain. For a few years she had been taking celexa on and off for depression. She is 14. She was pretty good. Socializing again. No crying. Now she has a grandiose problem. She's better than everyone else and DON'T talk to her. Supposedly nobody understands her. Wakes me everyday saying she's sick. Goes to nurse saying she's sick. She's really not sick. It's been going on for years. She had unexplained pain in abdomen. Every doctor couldn't find anything from pediatrician to gynecologist. Went to hospital. Sat 6 hours, had a catscan and came up as nothing. She loved every second being in the hospital. Loved being like a princess as she said. Very happy. Never saw her so happy. Suddenly that pain ends and headaches start. Change her celexa to abilify. She only started yesterday in abilify. Today she's at nurse and having heat flashes. Talked to nurse about how she loves to "be sick". Nurse said she was going to have my daughter see psychologist at school. She hands phone back to my daughter and she hung up on me. Mind you, I spend tons if time with get because I want her to know she's loved. I do lunch, go shopping, see movies, etc. people comment all the time that I spend such good time with my daughter. She never wants to leave her room. Her room looks like a hoarding gross scene. She never wants to be with friends. She said she had no time for those "peasants". It's like WHAT??? When she's not in the meds she cries and can't stop or if she does, we aren't allowed to talk to her. Like we are all afraid if her. She's so nasty. Not typical teenage nasty either when she comes home from school today, I'm gonna be a wreck. She's going to lash out. I know it. Bracing myself. Where do I get control in this? I want to cry but have to suck it up and go back to work. I'm in lunch break.

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I am so sorry for the stress you are currently going through. In my opinion I would seek professional help for your daughter first of all. Then if you can afford to get some therapy for yourself too. Therapy can be expensive so I understand if you are not able to do a little therapy too. Clearly something is amiss with your daughter. The sooner you discover what, if any, chemical imbalance is going on, the sooner you can reduce your stress. And if it is discovered she has some kind of mental illness, then you can read and learn how to cope with that particular illness. I wish I had some suggestions for how to cope with the anxiety of seeing your daughter later on. The very thought puts my stomach in knots. Maybe you could have a friend come home with you for a short while...lessen the blows or help you after the blows?
Thinking of you.

Sounds so much like my bipolar son...get her to a professional and then read all you can about her symptoms and what you can do to help her.
Remember, she knows she is different inside and it must be so hard to be her...you are doing the right thing...she needs your support and although it takes all of the effort you can muster, keep at it!! The earlier she understands herself the better she will be able to take care of herself as she gets older! Good luck!

Sorry you're going through this.

Something rings with me. When I was a kid I was always "sick." Phantom pain. Stomach pain. Headaches. Overall feeling "sick." Went to the ER and hospitals like you say. To the doctor, nothing wrong. Had an MRI. But, I did feel the pains, and I did feel sick. Now I have psychosomatism as a Dx, but back then I was the manipulative "faker."

But, I think something was going on with me. Something else. I can't explain what it was and I wish I understood it. All of that went away. Now, I don't complain unless I really need to because people accused me so much of faking and not being sick when I felt sick. Now I don't ask for help. I'm guessing, her sicknesses have something to do with her mental health, but it's not fake. It's something else.

I'll keep you in my thoughts.

bmee--my daughter is seeing a psychiatrist. Even psych dr has trouble getting through to her. My daughter told me she WILL NOT take abilify because the scho nurse read her all the side effects and she has ALL OF THEM. So she won't take med. I said "you've taken half a pill for one day. How is it possible to have all the side effects?" She said I need to shut up and not talk about it. She decided to go back on her Celexa. Sooooo now we are back to square one. Wondering if we need a new doctor or is this just a "is what it is" thing.

Dark-heart. Thanks for your story. You found just like my daughter. Actually exactly like her. I didn't realize there is a name for it and thank you God there is!!! The "faking" has gone on For yrs and she truly seems like she has pain. Convinces me that she does. Go to all lengths to try and resolve things and nothing gets resolved. You've just given me some idea as to what is happening. Very much appreciate your story. Thank you again. And hope you continue to feel better hugs!!!

Passion does sound like bp warning signs. She sounds like both older 2 who have bp dx. My daughter has grown out of so much of it, 18 now. She takes care of cleaning her room now, she is much kinder. All this is still with a lot of my help, she's not anywhere near ready to be an adult, go to college, get a job, live on her own. Sometimes with bp, just staying alive is a full time job, so it's baby steps.

I don't think it's as simple as she's just manipulating. She may like the attention, she probably needs the attention. So much is at risk at this age, so much. Keep listening to her, let her have some say so and control over the meds that go in her body. Try not to engage with her in her mean-ness, just let her spew it all out like baby diarrhea, don't judge her, tell her things like - hey what you just said hurts and please don't be rude and I love you. When she wants to bring up the past and run circles of words around you, you can say - Ok I'm sorry that went down like that in the past, what can I do to help you right now? Tell her more than often how much you love her, maybe clean her room for her so she can start to manage it better, and watch her like a hawk, so much at risk at that age.

Just brainstorming ideas, raising bp kids is tricky business. I know she may not even have bp, so hard to tell at that age. But just hits home with me, sounds so much like my daughter.