I'm trying

I guess I'm not very smart. I keep trying to help on these boards. I want to help others cuz I can't stand that the way they are feeling is the same way that I feel. I wish that I was the only one who had to do this. But I'm not, and I'm trying to help. I really don't know how. I get so frustrated sometimes cuz I can't seem to help. I really suck at relationships in real life and apparently I suck at them on here too. ugh! I know that so many people have been here for me during my crisis's... but now... how do i be there for them?

I really don't have an identity. I work and I know how to be at work. I know how to be who I have to be at home. I get on here, and I'm trying to find who I shoud be on here to support others. I really don't have strong opinions about a lot of things so I just read the discussions and not participate. I guess I should join in. ugh... these are my frustrations.

I need to learn relationships i guess.
I'm trying to mend one now, cuz I said stupid things that I can't take back.

I could use some advice in this area.

what is my place to try and help? I always overstep my boundaries and I feel I am doing more harm than good. Have I pissed anyone else off today? James... do you want me to back off? Ophelia.. have I pissed you off on Facebook? I don't know anymore. I just wanted to help. I feel like I am screwing everything up aside from my best intentions.

this is causing me a lot of stress. I jsut wanted to try and help. and now I am constantly sorry to everyone that I have posted to,. I meant well. I really did.

I don't know what you're talking about. You've been helpful to me before. you were helping me out just the other day, remember? At the beginning of the week.

I think you're obsessing yourself into a negative corner. I do the same thing. Paranoia freak out. Right? Projecting your fears/worries. Yup, I get that, too.

I think you help people. I've seen you be helpful a bunch of times. Sometimes you don't even have to give advice. Just saying you heard or understand is enough help someone might need right then.

Take a deep breath.

Maybe at home you have been told you're not being helpful? So now you think that attitude is everywhere? I do that, too. I will project how my dad feels about me onto other people and suddenly they all feel that way about me. But then when I actually talk to them, I realize it's just me thinking that way.

idk. I already hurt one person on this board.. I don't want to hurt anyone else. I realize that I've been using the same stupid judgement on all of my posts.

Well, I guess it's between you and that person, then.

Dan, you have only ever been a good friend to me. U didnt offend, hurt or piss me off here or on FB. I upgraded this fossil's browser and its not exactly compatable, and the glitch is a very trying one, it freezes most times I try to respond, but lets me lurk anytime, thankfully I geta new phone hopefully next week... You have helped me through some rough patches, just this week you comforted me with your words regarding my daddy, remember? You're a good friend to me Dan, don't doubt that

Dan, I have to agree, have not seen you over stepping bounderies. Remember what you said to dukie and you were very worried, except that was a very good response in my opinion, zero bounderies crossed.

Just say what you feel, share your experience, if you think something might help..share it. There is nothing wrong with that at all.

I do understand being frustrated with yourself, or feeling like you can't help. Oh really do I ever, I feel like that often. It's hard for me too, and it's hard to have found ways to deal that actually work for me and try to share it with others. Trust me I worry that I annoy everyone here with that stuff. Sometimes I wonder if I should be here, do I fit here? But I know deep down that we all fit here, we all have something valuable to share, and that includes you too.

Thing is Dan.. you never know who you helped, or how. I have been helped here by a lot of people, sone I bet have no idea or to what extent. A lot of people read here, some of the people who helped me never even posted in this forum. Never talked directly to me, but reading their posts to others, I have been helped that way too.

You have never hurt me, and we dont interact a ton I know, but I read your posts to others as well but I am not seeing what you are seeing. You are being a good supportive friend to many, and the new people who come here as well.

There really is no right way to help others, we are all just kind of winging it, just go with your heart. That's all any of us can do. You have no bad intentions, I hope you know others can see that as well.

I don't know what happened with anyone. You did say you were a heathen in that one post, which I enjoyed muchly. Hopefully nobody was too offended by anything said on that one. You were right, that was a loaded question thread, setup for argument. I still don't know if OP ever came back to say what they meant by question.

Dan, maybe you're going through growth, where you look at how/what you're doing in different areas of life. Identities change, we learn something new everyday, have different experiences everyday and we're always changing. Reflecting and talking it out all good things.

I believe in you, you'll figure it out. And you'll come out of it stronger, like you always do.