bipolar, bisexual, bifrustrated

Anyone else around here both bipolar and bisexual? Now that I'm in a healthy, steady, and monogamous relationship (with a male), I'm overcome with thoughts of being with a woman- sexually and relationship-wise. It's so frustrating because I love my boyfriend very much, but I'll go through periods during which I'm not interested in him on that level. I feel like my sexual/relationship preferences change with my moods, and I don't know how to handle it. Guess I'm wondering if anyone else has this problem, and what you do about it.

I've had several girl crushes over the years, some of them friendly aquaintainces who found me flattering (I've never hidden it) and some random strangers I'd eye in the bus
When I'm hypomanic girls are super attractive, I've never acted on this sudden appreciation of the female form, but it did have me questioning my sexuality at one stage. That's when I discovered it was purely episodic and stopped paying it any mind.

It has never affected my relationships though, bf and I share the same celeb crush

Hey Aveiw! I am double-bi too : ). My sexuality is not episodic like Trippin's though. I have been married (also to a man) and completely faithful for more than a decade! If I were (sadly) to ever not be in a relationship w/ my husband, I would date girls first but be open to anyone that i fell for. My husband is totally aware of this and just fine with it.

As far as the periods of interest/disinterest in your guy...I find that I am that way in general. I do notice hot girls more when I am hypo but I have more sexual energy anyhow...so it is natural that it would be magnified and toward women. My husband sees beautiful girls and looks, too. I don't mind (as long as he is respectful about it!!!). I think that when you stop appreciating beauty, life loses its luster and I want to try to keep that magic alive.

Is it possible that what your experiencing is just a waking up of feelings that lie latent sometimes? If so, try not to sweat it! Your feelings are what they are, you cannot control them...but you can look for a pattern and see if it is just an occasional interest (when hypo/manic) or if it is more frequent.

I hope you find the answers you are looking for! Cheers and dare i say Bi-bi, lol?

Lol at bi-bi ... pretty sure I'm bi-bi ... but usually have boyfriends. Had a gf but she was pretty self-absorbed and I think I was just her ornament. Have had countless flings with women, couples, anyone when hypo in combo with drinking etc.

I'm feeling so irritable and non sexual at the moment it's hard for me to say what's what.

I want a man, a boyfriend... but my times with my girlfriends are really so fulfilling and more fun and we get right down to meaningful conversation. And women are so beautiful, but men are so beautiful too....

I think I'm just open minded... and kissing a woman omg amazing lips so soft... I usually have to tell men to ease up, be more gentle on the lips.

I don't know what I am, will figure it all out at some point I suppose.

With your bf... I've found that if there is a strong basis of trust and friendship you can make it through these times when you're not feeling so turned on sexually. It comes back.

Thanks for the responses, guys!
It's definitely possible that it's an "occasional interest" in that it's not on my mind constantly. I have been in a long term relationship with a woman, and honestly I had similar problems with wanting to be with men.
I've been with my current beau for 7 months without any cheating or break-ups, which is a record, but it's hard.
And, unfortunately my SO is not so accepting of me being interested in women... he is the very jealous sort. Though he doesn't blame me, we can't talk about it much or anything.
I don't know... a part of me wants both. :/

Ha! This sums me up so well! Women are sooooo yum. But men are too sometimes (though I tend to find my relationships with women to be more intimate and fulfilling).

Last time I wanted a woman I was very proud of myself and our relationship for surviving, but it hasn't damped out my feelings completely. :/

I'm also one of you. Have had 2 relationships with women. But am with my bf. he knows about the one girl and we broke up for a while. He knows I am bi, but is also the jealous type, so we don't talk about it. Sometimes I really wish I was with a woman - so intimate and fulfilling, soft, romantic, sensual, caring...

Agree completely... sighhhh

So I spoke with my SO about this, and he's upset (naturally). It's bringing up some negative feelings in him that he's ashamed of, and we're both just confused and stuck. He's afraid of losing me, but I don't see that happening, whereas I'm kinda terrified to think that if I follow the path that I'm on that I'll never be with a woman again. Sometimes it bothers me and sometime it doesn't. But I know that I've been with my SO for 7 months and this has come up twice already... how can he/I/we survive this for our lifetimes??
I gently pitched the idea of me getting a gf to him, and he said he is too jealous, which I already knew.
I really don't know what to do now... neither of us does. Just venting...

I'm so sorry to hear you are at such a difficult cross-roads. But I take my hat off to you for being brave enough to at least start discussing this with your SO

I'm bi-bi too. More relationships with women than men, but both have had there share of being amazing/caring etc or crazy/toxic. In general I find women more physically attractive but I find some guys are just so beautiful inside that I find them more and more attractive as I've gotten to know them. And I get along really well with both men and women.

My relationships with women eventually implode ... too many emotional crises etc etc. The women I've dated have been very clingy. I don't feel so attached with guys, and that's a good thing for me. I had an open relationship with a guy for 2 years and I slept with women during that time. I don't think any of that was really satisfying though.

I don't really know what I want! But it's good to have multiple options...

I lean very far towards females. my husband is the third male I have ever had a crush on.

What a great thread title, bi-bi-bi! Almost bye-bye!

I am straight, although my former teacher who is a bi man said to me many years ago, when I was in-between the two straight marriages: "YOU have not had same sex relationships?? You have not started living your life yet!"

He is really sweet and always was nice to me so I know he said it because he believes it, but I cannot make myself be attracted to women in that way, although I do appreciate female beauty a lot.

Geez...i am so relieved that Aview started this thread...I cannot tell you how happy I am to be find so many people, in one place, who are Bi-bi!! I usually feel like the oddball in most places, so I am comforted by all of your company!

I went out tonight... met a girl who seemed to like me. My friend was pressuring to leave. I mentioned I could give her my number, she just said, well i'm always here (local bar) ... I said oh well then.. I just split, no games i'm trying to be honest. I don't chase, I get chased. How vain of me... I'm def hypo right now. I'm longing a relationship with another woman but it's another thing than getting men. She was only 26, guess I need to come to terms with being 39. She thought I was 21 lol.
Seems like tonight, they all men and women find out my real age and run for the hills.... waaahhh... what's so wrong with 39 big deal...

I'm 27 and was until recently in love with a 40 year old woman. Age really isn't that important

I can't believe I wrote that! And a lady who's "always at that bar" red flag lol. I was on the vodka... Prob shouldn't drink and post lol sorry guys. But at least I'm recognizing type of relationship I want. Good conversations turn me on, ya know?

Lol, Blue! You crack me up. I thought your post was entertaining and cute. I have had many don't drink-andpost or, more specifically, don't drink-and-text moments! Cheers.