[supernaught16]

My ex and I love each other.

I am not the best person in the world because, I do love her and she loves me, we will always love each other. We are soul mates.

However, I cannot deal with the bipolar. Neither can my family. My family cut me off and distanced themselves from me because of her. She wouldn't sleep at night and go to my moms house at 3:00am because she is having a depression episode and thought my mom at 3:00am was the person to talk to.

Anyways, we broke up. She never tried calling me or contacting me. We have been together for two years...

Do you think she doesn't try to contact me because she doesn't want to hurt me and my family anymore with her issues?

I read on sites that bipolar people distance themselves from their family...
I was wondering what the cause of this was.

Before I broke up with her she did distance herself from me and her family, she had a very rough episode and we broke it... I was wondering bp's she is aware of the damage they cause and they don't want to do it anymore and that's why they don't contact or distance themselves from family?

[kaliope]

outside an episode, bipolars can be very aware of what they do and they have deep regret over hurting others. during an episode they are unable to control their behaviors but they feel bad after they come out of those episodes and recognize the damage they have done. your wife probably feels very rejected by you and hurt and doesn't want to increase these feelings by further contact.

[Hbomb0903]

Bipolar people have a multitude of levels that they have to deal with. Not only do they get crazy and mixed up and symptomatic themselves and inside their head, but they have to try to behave normally around other people, maybe maintain their job, keep up with their children if they have them, be a good partner to their sig, and so on.

It manifests differently in every person, not one size fits all. So your question as to why she doesn't contact you is probably because she already feels horrid because she realizes her behaviour (that she may have had little control over) is the cause of the loss and its just embarassing and often makes you feel worse.

This disorder is very hard for everyone involved with in the person's life to manage.

[supernaught16]

I dont know how to deal with it. We were supposed to get married in about a month. She will do the most god awful things to me and then tell me it was just a mistake when she is normal. I can't have my whole life to be a mistake. I have meaning and purpose. I don't like my heart and love being played with... I don't like leaving her and never hearing from each other again just because of (BP)..... Is there any way to fix this? Will it get better over time? From when we first started dating until now, it has been progressively gotten worse, and worse and worse and it's like every episode she picks up where she left off last time and then it's worse... Like the snowball effect however, when the snowball stops rolling, the size of the snowball remains the same and then when he mood switches comes it gets bigger and worse and worse and worse again... I cant stop this snowball... Is there any way to stop this? She doesn't deserve to live like this. I almost feel like she is disabled and needs someone to take care of her and protect her, these episodes are that bad and if someone doesn't know her, things can get ugly.

[Hbomb0903]

Originally Posted by supernaught16

I dont know how to deal with it. We were supposed to get married in about a month. She will do the most god awful things to me and then tell me it was just a mistake when she is normal. I can't have my whole life to be a mistake. I have meaning and purpose. I don't like my heart and love being played with... I don't like leaving her and never hearing from each other again just because of (BP)..... Is there any way to fix this? Will it get better over time? From when we first started dating until now, it has been progressively gotten worse, and worse and worse and it's like every episode she picks up where she left off last time and then it's worse... Like the snowball effect however, when the snowball stops rolling, the size of the snowball remains the same and then when he mood switches comes it gets bigger and worse and worse and worse again... I cant stop this snowball... Is there any way to stop this? She doesn't deserve to live like this. I almost feel like she is disabled and needs someone to take care of her and protect her, these episodes are that bad and if someone doesn't know her, things can get ugly.

Is she being treated by a psychiatrist?? You are right, neither she nor you deserve to just be at the mercy of her moods. You say you've been dating for two years and it's just gotten worse?? She really could use professional help, if she hasn't gotten any yet but you don't say anything about docs, etc. There are many drugs and therapies designed to help people who have bipolar.

Do you know where she is or how to get in touch with her?

[liamellie]

Hi, iv been with my fiancé 3 years & due to a massive circumstance change 2 years ago she was diagnosed iv polar. Se was a Gucci model & had a perfect life "so I thought" then after the loss of her brother she had psycho therapy which opened up the doors to her passed. We were madly in love, every second we couldn't be apart, them she was put into a clinic where everything went bad. For the last 2 years she's been trying to push me away,not speaking to me, manic behaviour, she's in a clinc right now, has been for the best part of the last 2 years. No matter how hard she pushes me away the more I won't leave her.. Her childhood was atrocious and it's all surfacing now. She's lost her job, & don't care about anything anymore..I'll never abandon her but it hurts so bad seeing her like this & being powerless.. The money clinics have cost is unreal but she is worth every penny, you can't put a price on the person you love.. How do Make her believe that I'm not going to abandon her? Everyone on her life has treated her really bad, she's beautiful outside & in. I love her for her, her bi polar is part of her so I love that aswell. I don't like it because I can't help her but I need to make her realise no matter how long she is going to be I'll I'm always going to be here.. I love her more than life, she is my life. I wish I could take this illness & have it myself rather than her have it.. Seeing her like she is is heartbreaking.. She used to love me & trust me, now she won't talk to me. Her behaviour is off the wall. I'm out of idea thays why I'm on here , trying to get help.. I'd rather be dead than without her, I know she loves me but she isn't well..she don't realise I'm not ever going to abandon her, how do I get through to her? She was a happy go lucky girl when we first met, now she has bi polar ??,, I'm confused so much. I'm new on here so don't even know of I'm speaking to the right people..
Thank you


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[supernaught16]

Originally Posted by Hbomb0903

Is she being treated by a psychiatrist?? You are right, neither she nor you deserve to just be at the mercy of her moods. You say you've been dating for two years and it's just gotten worse?? She really could use professional help, if she hasn't gotten any yet but you don't say anything about docs, etc. There are many drugs and therapies designed to help people who have bipolar.

Do you know where she is or how to get in touch with her?

Yes, I know where she is now and how to get a hold of her. She is at her parents house. Yes, the problems have gotten worse. This whole time of dating she never took meds and never got treatment, never saw a doc. Her freak out rages got so bad sometimes she would call me just to yell and go crazy, cry etc. I had to get her number blocked.

I do know how to get a hold of her, why do you ask?